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It seems this person is only friends with you for her own benefit obviously with your ex she has took none of your feelings to consideration and i bet she still never asks how you are feeling now in my opinion this person should not be in your life and is definatly not a friend to you

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lucy

You are absolutely right, she never asks me about how I feel. I geuss I kind of knew the answer, but was hoping that since we had some things in common that we could develop more of a true friendship. Thank you.

your welcome if you ever need help know that i am hear and i hope that you are okay

Yes, she is most definatly using you. My brothers friend knows a girl just like this. She only calls him when she needs his money or help in some form or another. I’ve also had friends like this. They don’t want or care about you, just what you can do for them, and how you can make them feel. They never really want to know what your going through or want to know how they can help you. These kinds of people are just leeches. Run while you still can, but be careful, if she calls again and you say no, be leery of how she may react. My family has a friend that has had an unbelievable amount of people using her that she finally put her foot down to and now are trying to accuse her of things she never did and cause all kinds of trouble for her. Distance yourself from people like this as carefully and cautiously as you possiably can. Surround yourself with family and friends that truly care and support you, if need be. What i don’t get is this ladys obession with your ex, I mean i understand how a friend might be bitter towards him for past pain he may have caused, or whatever, but to just be interestined in how he is and what he’s doing all the time, well it just seems kind of twilight zoneish, especially so long after everything has been said and done, and as you said, Is all water under the bridge now. :S
Hope things turn out ok and that you don’t have to much trouble distancing yourself from this person.

Thanks again. And you are also right as far as distancing myself from her carefully. Because way back when when things happened and she was asking about my ex and she knew it was bothering me and finally I gave her some attitude to kind of show her since she didn’t really get that it was bothering me, and we stopped speaking for a bit. As far as asking about the ex, I’m just wondering if she’s maybe envious of his financial situation (she does pride herself on having $$$). But I’m not really sure. Again, Thank You.