you’re not. I think everyone’s felt like that at some point.
you have to let people get to know you. its really hard to explain.
yea everyone has felt lonely in their life, most more than one time experience. personally ive felt that way like at least 5 times per yr xD
well just think of yoruself as having nothing to lose right now. so if you have nothing to lose, you can just try your hardest to be open to everyone you meet. =D
thank you both for your replies. i’ll think about your answers and im glad im not the only one feeling this way.
you’re definetely not the only one!
i used to be the same way. but now im getting a bit better and letting people into my life more! it took a long time but its finally happening!
you just need to remmeber that if you open up to people theyll understand you better and help you out! if you start opening up more im sure youll meet a bunch of friends who iwll be there to support you whenever you need it! =)
thanks for the reply. But you see, my problem is that im not open about my feelings. I find it really hard to tell how i feel. i can only do that in a situation like this. Where i don’t know anyone. It is soo hard. And i feel like a want to but i just can’t.
oh okay. yeah its a lot easier to spill your feelings to people who you dont know. and i undertsand that.
but maybe just try to find one person and learn to trust them! get closer to them firstand then slowly try and start opening up to them! you couold even try it with a family member or something!
thanks. im glad you’re helping me. i’m actually getting better at it. But it goes slowly :)
you are definatly not the only one when i moved to a different school i was too scared to talk to anyone i was really scared about what might happen if i told anyone anything and none of my old friends kept in touch with me to see how i was doing and i now barely talk to them. It took a long time but eventually after i finally felt i could trust a couple of my few friends some of my feelings not serious ones at first but when i saw they were actually trustworthy and didn t go behind my back as soon as i left the room which i thought they would and being able to share everything even with just one friend helps you a surprisingly huge amount
well thats the worst part about friendships, how do i know they don’t talk crap about me behind my back? cause to me i think its a really bad thing to do, even if it is about someone you does’nt even know. But thanks for the reply and i really recognize myself in what you wrote. :)
Don’t think something is wrong , sometimes we go thru experiences in life that leave us feeling depressed, alone this is all apart of growing and whatever does not kill you will only make you stronger. Have hope Have faith. Faith is the substance of things hoped for that are not yet seen!!!!!!
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yes i get what you mean i guess it depends how much you feel these friends trust in you and i guess it s a risk to find friends you can really trust
If anybody talks about somebody else behind their back, while I’m around, then you realize that person’s not a great friend to begin with. Why aren’t your old friends fun anymore?
i don’t know actually.. i guess we have nothing in common anymore or that i just need a change. It’s hard to say an exact reason. :S
MAybe you grew out of them? Any particular interests that you want your new friends to have, like listening to music, or seeing foreign movies, or a sport that you’re interested in? Sometimes meeting new people and making friends is really just going to where your interests are.
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you’re not alone. ive got the same thing.
thank you so much for your answer Renegade_007. what you said helped me a lot actually. and thank you all for letting me know im not the only one. cause sometimes i feel weird when i’ve mentioned it to a few people and they’re just asking why should you? i mean what can you say?
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Sometimes people don’t realize that you can still be lonely in a room full of people.
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Sometimes people don’t realize that you can still be lonely in a room full of people.
very true. thanks.
Did you move to go to college?
no i moved because of a job. I finished college last year. But in sweden we don’t really call it college but can’t find a better word for it in english :)
No prob, any chance meeting anybody at work that you can get to know better?
well actually i’ve met one, and when we talk it makes me feel comfortable and happy so that’s a good sign. Cause usually i feel uncomfortable talking to new people.
I love you. We are never alone, being alone is an illusion of separation
Separation is an illusion,
Fear is the illusion. Fear of separation.
I love you, we are here together, and we are here to fulfill our Earth mission.
Look within and you will find the truth and inner peace. It is filled with love and healing compassion for all things, ultimate understanding. There are countless beings watching and guiding you at all times, you may doubt it but they are with you always. You will see. :)
3 Thanks alot for your wise words. i’ll keep that in mind. 3
I can relate to a lot of what your saying. Often I go out but just can’t seem to connect with people or have a good time. I’m generally shy, but even when I make a real effort to speak to random people it just seems pointless.
But I find its a matter of searching, one of my closest friends right now is someone I never thought to talk to before!
Its really easy to feel alone, but the fact others feel the same means your not! We’re never really alone, none of us! :)
While it is great to have a number of friends or acquaintances - I also think it is healthy to be solitary. At times when I was younger I would spend a great deal of time alone reading, exploring the back woods, ocean or discovering and developing my interests. I could be very shy and so I found it very difficult to keep up with my friendships at times. Things could be overwhelming and I was often standing on the sidelines without much to say. I could never find the words or ways I wanted to express myself without feeling intimidated. I think as I got older it became easier to express myself. I developed a little more self confidence with each new or daring experience. I wrote in a journal a lot and I traveled outside of the country alone for the first time (which gave me a sense of control over my life and some independence.) The more I met others abroad, who didn’t know anything about me yet seemed to value our conversations, the less intimidated or shy I felt. So often I was used to being put down or picked on because I was shy, yet by taking that plunge into the unexpected I seemed to open up a new world of possibility. I also was able to build up my interests and bring something to my new friendships through my solitary experiences. I would say it took me a while to find solid friendships - I went through times where I would have to tell myself “if it ismeant to be, it is meant to be” and just let go if it didn’t turn out. I just think that by being open to a variety of different friends, or circles of friends, regardless of age or interest, has proven to be very positive for me.
i know what you mean…
I feel bad because i don’t have one of those fortune-cookie answers we’d all love to have for our problems, but i can tell you that being lonely is human (any person who hasn’t felt lonely once in their lives is a superhuman freekazoid) , and being lonely is really has nothing to do with the amount of friends you do or don’t have. Loneliness is simply the feeling we have when we are incapable of giving and accepting love. What i mean to say is that even though you feel lonely, you are never alone.
I’ve felt really lonely lately; that’s why I found you out. Thank you for being honest about your fears and frustrations. It’s helped me alot. All i know is that, surely, in a world with 7 billion people, at least one of those peeps needs a little love the way you do. If you discover how to really feel concern for others, and in turn let their love in, you’ll loneliness will be gone. i promise u.
(Matthew 25: 34-40)
There is an extent, in life, to which we are always alone. Some become happy with that shell of solitude we all create at some time or another. However, many of us seek out the comfort of others. We travel together, trying to shed our fears and fill that empty void which, to some, seems to know no bound. This void, the empty abyss we can feel on our hearts, yet fear to enter, can become so great, it drowns out all other cares, worries, and emotions in the world. It can seem to drown out life itself. We become desperate to rid our bodies of this feeling of emptiness. Few, in which I include myself, become so desperate in trying to find an answer to the unknown question lingering inside of us, that we become blind to the truth. We come to rely on this void. We have become lost in it for so long, that we know no other existence besides it’s dark empty sanctuary. The simple truth, which we have known all along, we cannot see, though it lay in front of our eyes. In order to escape this abyss of solitude and loneliness we have lost ourselves in, we must simply open them…
Thanks alot guys for your advices. Im really greatful and it really helps to talk to people that i don’t know personally. Thank you all for replying to me!
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Thanks alot guys for your advices. Im really greatful and it really helps to talk to people that i don’t know personally. Thank you all for replying to me!
Yeah it really does! I find it easier to open up to people I’ve never met rather than people I know personally. I rarely open up to my friends, preferring to keep my feelings to myself. I guess its just a self defence mechanism, so talking on here really helps! :)
I think it’s so funny sitting her reading your thoughts and your situation because I have been stuck in this for a long time now. Me personally, I don’t like to open up, I’m usually the one reading people’s faces, and trying to figure out whats wrong and fix it. No one can ever tell what I’m feeling nor what mood I’m in due to my lack of showing things that bother me. I guess I can be pretty dull but I can’t help it. It’s just who I am you know? But in that sense it can be very hard to understand that and that’s where I feel like you are. My friends aren’t the same, and they always go talking behind me back and making me look like a lesser value then they are. (For reasons I probably never find out) Sometimes I just want to move away from this place and just start all over. No past, just the future. Opportunities.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all, it’s very normal to feel the way you do. I am the same way when it comes to opening up as I said before, I used to see a psychiatrist-but that lasted about a week… I just don’t like doing it, I’d rather be the one who no one knows about so I can’t get to close to someone and get hurt. I know many people like myself who are like this. I’ve broken up with 2 of my girlfriends partly because I was scared things were getting so perfect and we were getting so close. It just scares me to know that something that good can happen, yet be torn away in an instant.
All in all–after reading everyone’s replys, and reading what you have to say-I think you have a lot heading your way and when that time comes you will feel so much better about yourself, and the feelings that go through your mind. You just have to keep your chin up, smile big, and know that things are only going to get better for you. =]
Good luck and I hope this helps.
Oh i hate the constant anxiety!!
‘the sorrow’, i know what you are talking about… the reason i prefer loneliness is because im afraid of anxiety. Anxiety is the inevitable effect we feel when we attach a ton of expectations to something that cant fulfill them.
I mean, i stress SO FREAKIN MUCH over relationships because im a total idiot that expects too much from people. Its not too big a deal, but its just a nagging feeling that drives me crazy.
If your a total idiot then so am I!
Personally when I put a lot of effort into friendships, I expect a lot out. Makes sense to me! But people don’t always work that way. It got pretty bad with one of my closest friendships lately, and felt so one sided, that I stopped putting the effort in, and now we don’t speak at all. Thinking about it, it sucks, so I try not too.
I mainly feel the anxiety when I go out, assuming so much but I fail myself or I feel others fail me and then I feel bad. At least alone I don’t expect a lot, so can relax more.
That said I think some friendships are worth the anxiety, just have to remember that people, friends or not, arent always thinking of you. I reckon that gets rid of most the anxiety, because you realise the way they act isn’t down to you. Thus a weight of your shoulders!
If that makes any sense?
yes, yes, i’ve never thought of it that way. I guess i’m not so much of an idiot as just plain selfish… Cosmic fool that makes a lot of sense.
Thanks, means a lot when people thank me! :-)
From what you wrote you don’t sound selfish, its just you think too much about things? I am exactly the same! I mean, I literally spend days thinking about the smallest things. I am forever trying to give the right impression of myself, and analysing to death everything I do.
Anxiety is naturally, but that doesn’t make it nice!
y’know its kinda freaky that i can just copy and paste your words, “I am exactly the same!” because i do! Reading your little things is like listening to my thoughts. I feel really great now! Hey, i’m going to read your lost blog thinga-majiggy, looks interesting.
Isn’t it weird that we think so much alike?
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