Love help: For what ever reason I am a very controlling person. - Help.com

Those who try to control other people are, simply put, not nice-and probably have deeper issues, so what is yours ?

god it’s so hard when someone you care about, doesn’t seem to want to know. It’s maybe one of those ‘let them go and if they return’ moments. Hard though.
Control is a very over bearing behaviour. She might just need some air.?

yes maybe, in that case you could just give her space?

I’m not sure really, but perhaps having a sitdown one on one talk with your wife with some kind of resolution may help. I often see people that are controlling usually are like this because they something is lacking in the relationship. I can’t help but be Cliché; but i can see why she doesn’t want couples therapy unless you are both controlling. ANYWAYS the only im more sure about is that space will most likely not solve the issue, but who knows, i’ve never been there…

I think going to therapy on your own is a very good start. It is proof that you are willing to look at the situation and try to work it out for yourself even without her there. You can’t lose by getting help… either way it will be beneficial and you come out with strategies on how to cope with situations around you for better or worse. She may be standing her ground by telling you she doesn’t want to try marriage counseling if she is feeling it is yet another way she is being controlled. Most people resent the feeling that they are under someone else’s thumb or part of a problem. I think being controlling may also mean that you feel a sense of insecurity within yourself. Being controlling is more about feeling out of control as an individual - apart from your relationship with your wife. I think counseling will definitely help you work things out and gain perspective on the situation or the events that lead up to the situation. You may find out that it isn’t all you …marriage is a two way street with compromise and compassion… and as the above mentioned in order for you to come to this point something had to be lacking to begin with.