Love help: Hello, I really like this girl i work with. - Help.com

What do you think stops you from telling her? Fear of rejection? Unsure if your feelings for her are genuine? Fear of getting into a relationship again?

just give it a chance! you will regret later that you never did if you don’t!

get a card, a normal, everyday card, y’know like a birthday card or a thank you card or whatever, and inside write exactly what you wrote above ^ and give it to her. you’ve articulared your feelings pretty much spot on, and if she still has feelings for you, i have no doubt she’d fling herself into your arms with joy :)

or as Liindaa say, just do it. forget your own hang ups and nerosis about whether you’re good enough and just don’t your best to make her and yourself happy :)

good luck buudy

*do :):p

You’re not stupid. We all get carried away with our feelings when we fall in love. Maybe you need more time before you’re ready for another relationship. Even though it may feel like if you don’t pounce now you’ll lose your chance with her, that’s no reason to enter a relationship before you’re ready, which would more than likely lead to catastrophe because your heart isn’t strong enough to handle the trying parts every relationship has, and then you’d just end up hurt again.

Why don’t you tell her that you have feelings for her but aren’t ready to get into a relationship yet. Then she’ll know how you feel. Tell her you’re a wreck over this. Tell her everything and see what she says. Wouldn’t that be the best solution? I don’t know.

no offense intended in the slightest, but really, what are you hoping will change in the future that makes you strong enough to ask her? i’m not minimising your fear in the slightest, however, i do believe you must have the strength to overcome that demon holding you back and go for it. you obviously want her, you’ve made a post about her on a website discussing your feelings. you’ve already said it’d be a waste if you didnt get her. so really, it comes down to you. nothing or nobody else matters. and if you don’t pluck up the courage that makes you do it, i don’t know what will ever change that will make it any different. and that would be a real shame because it sounds like there is something there.

IF she did want to go out with you, it wouldn’t be immediately 100% commitment and marriage. you could just stay the same and let it grow slowly. but if you do nothing it’ll just be…such a shame.

i do realise its hard but there comes a time in everyone’s life man…don’t let it beat you :)

You are making a big mistake man! You have to stop thinking RIGHT NOW that she will never see you in that way. Why? because women pick up on this easily and when you go around with this kind of mindset It’ll never work. What do you think ugly guys who are with hot girls had to do? Do you think they thought” Oh, I’m not good enough for her she is way out of my leauge.” NO, they went in there and said to themselves “This girl wants me and I am equal to her and every other guy.” Using this kind of thinking can go along way and get her. Confidence is key man!