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My friend says something bad about me.

She doesn’t know that all her friends and classmates notice her very lack of manners, and her greediness, and stingyness, and still she denies it. What can I do?

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Chameleon offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Not much more you can do. It sounds like you already told her.

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Actually, she just denied it. omg, and she stabs me in the back!

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Chameleon offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Well why are you still her friend then?

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

uhmm because we are in a group and i dont want to break it up because of the two of us! so i just go with the flow to avoid trouble!

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stand_alone offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

just keep telling her eventually people will start to say it as well and shell have no choice
even if a few tears come
its better than being stingy

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Chameleon offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

mateoalyssa_10 wrote:
uhmm because we are in a group and i dont want to break it up because of the two of us! so i just go with the flow to avoid trouble!

At some point in your life you’ll get fed up with being the Go With The Flow/Don’t Make Waves girl. Until then, you’ll just have to live with being aggravated by people because you’re not willing to do anything about it.

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

yah,, i think i have to stand and say something even if it hurts both of us…

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

actually it really hurts because since the beginning of our friendship, i try to become good to her as possible then she tries to make damage to it, she’s saying bad things about me, to my closest friends

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1 year, 5 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Considering the things you wrote, you’re not much a friend either. I’m not trying to be critical but re-read what you posted and ask yourself how you would feel if someone you considered a friend started hating on you like that.

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (42 minutes after post)

were just bounded by a A CIRCLE OR A GROUP of friends,
we didn’t have much connection either except when we were classmates over the last three years,
and I can’t understand why shhe’s saying those things even if she knew me totally?

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mateoalyssa_10 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (47 minutes after post)

i dont know what to do!

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nothx offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

Well you have two options really.

Be honest with her, lay into it and make it so noticeable to her she has no way to ignore it or you.

Or…

You can say nothing, let it all slide and tough it out until the group thing is over.

Sometimes people are just mean and you need to stand up for yourself. But I believe in picking those battles carefully. It all depends on how much and how deep it hurts you. If it’s just a little picking let it go. Like my favorite quote goes - “What goes around comes around.”

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lucyh15 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 hours, 25 minutes after post)

yeh it s best to be honest with her you don t want her being that way to you or anyone. I am pretty sure the group you are in notices this an they are all dying to say something

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