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Hi.

I am a 17 year old guy and I have ongoing issues with relatonships.

It’s not that I can’t get into one, because I have been in many, but I absolutely cannot keep any of the girls I date. The thing is, I know that I am a pretty good looking guy, and I am capable of getting a pretty good looking girl, but I never attract good looking girls, and every single girlfriend I’ve had, I’ve broken up with because I found something with them, be it emotional, or physical that I don’t really want in a girl, and It’s affecting me very negatively. I seem to be a huge perfectionist when it comes to dating girls, I will not settle with a girl unless she has everything I want, and for me, pointing out imperfections seems to be something I can do on EVERY girl I meet.

I just don’t know what to do. I served a girl today at Mcdonalds, where I work, and I thought she was absolutely beautiful, she seemed like someone I would love, (purely physical of course), but I didn’t get to know her and now that she’s gone I don’t think I ever will, but just by seeing her, I felt really giddy and strange, like she had something about her, and I think that’s the feeling I should get with a girl I’m truly happy with.

By the way, I am not single right now, and although I tell the girl I’m with now that I love her, and that I’m happy, I really am not, because I have lost my attraction for her and feel like she is not good enough for me. I know that makes me seem like a horrible person, and I just don’t know If I should learn to get over this need for a “perfect girl,” or if others share this complicated problem.

Thanks for listening (:

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SoulRising offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 100 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

Why do you have to lie and manipulate to date? I date until what I’m with, isn’t what I am interested in, and then I move on. If you would stop playing games maybe you will grow up and realize perfect is a point of view, hopefully you may some day find what is “perfect” for you.

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Chameleon offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

I think you are still in the “shopping” phase, finding out what qualities you like and dislike in girls. If you’re done with your current girlfriend, have a heart and let her go. It’s not fair to her to keep her tied up in an empty, pointless relationship. Let her continue on her way to finding her “perfect” man.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (26 minutes after post)

I would suggest being more truthful. Girls hate being lied to. And if you find some flaw in them, just tell them about it, and why it’s effecting your attraction to her. She might appreciate the honestly. And who knows? Maybe you’ve got a good girl now that you just need to sort things with. But you should realize that nobody is perfect, there’s always going to be something you don’t like about somebody, just like there’s going to be something about yourself that they might not like so much.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

soulrising i find you a little rude
I have the same prob i just dumped my last girlfriend beacuse i got bored with her but i keep saying i loved for about 2 months even though i didnt just bc i didnt want her to get hurt
he prob just gets bored with the girls after a wile and everyone does and who cares if he says he loves her but dosent he just dosent want to hurt her

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 48 minutes after post)

you shouldn’t ask a girl if she would be your girlfriend if she has a missing part that you like in a girl.you should wait for the right time,if you see a girl that’s totally sexy and beautiful but not that kind,just forget about it…i think you should break up with your girlfriend now if you don’t love her anymore because it’s better to part away from her than making her believe that you really love her…try talking to your girlfriend now politely and tell her that you don’t really feel that you’re into her..

that’s all,go0d luck!

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3 months, 1 week ago (10 hours, 30 minutes after post)

thank you for your answers everyone. It helped me out (:

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