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If you ask a guy if he is attracted to you (over text) and he doesn’t reply what does this mean?

We have shared a few kisses, have had long hugs and the other day we went shopping together and had a great time. On the train on the way home we even held hands for a little while and he was putting his hand in my pocket pretending to be feeling for money but i am sure that was just a way to be close to me. Problem is his mate fancies me too and he has said that he feels uncomfortable coming round and being with me because he knows his mate likes me. I asked him to come over yesterday but he replied saying “sorry i feel uncomfortable because…..”what does that mean? Is he uncomfortable because of his mate or because he isnt attracted to me? I text him back and asked him, are you uncomfortable because you are not attracted to me or is it because of your mate but he hasnt replied!! So what do i make from that?

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~Lucy~ offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 28 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

he may not have recieved the text, if he has, he may not have any credit

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

He’s probably just busy doing something else/doesn’t have his cell on him.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (19 minutes after post)

The fact he feels uncomfortable means he’s being loyal to his friend. That’s a good thing, it shows he has good values. But you shouldn’t push things if he feels uncomfortable. If he’s forced to choose between you and his mates, he’s going to end up resenting you.
I think you should just give it time and see how things pan out. Make it clear to him that you’re not trying to make him choose between his loyalty to his friend and his feelings for you - just that you really like him and want to know if he feels the same way.

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Dallas, TX, US | 2 months ago (33 minutes after post)

you shouldn’t deal with confrontation over electronic devices. you need to repeat this question, only face-to-face. if he refuses to meet you, then the answer is no, that he is not really attracted to you in that way. if he agrees, get together and talk about the two of you and his mate. from there you can decide how to move on either on your own, or together.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Thanks guys….i do feel that there is an attraction there between us because of all that stuff i mentioned in my post but why didn’t he reply to my text and just say i have told you before its not you its my mate? is there a chance that hes just confused??

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (4 hours, 36 minutes after post)

It means absolutely nothing … all it means is that you sent a text and didn’t get a reply.

I really feel that too many people are getting themselves in a stew over texts, emails, answerphone and IM messages.

Wouldn’t life be so much simpler if people ditched the technology a bit and got back to TALKING to each other?

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