Year help: I hate myselef. - Help.com

I’m very sorry to hear that love, I don’t think I will ever understand the process of cheating and why people do it. I know there’s nothing I can say that will make you feel better but I can try. I know for one thing you do have you kids, as hard as it may be to have them and raise them, you have the greatest gift in the entire world; life. And your kids will be there for you and take care of you when the time comes. You shouldn’t hate yourself for something that happened to you or you did out of love for your husband-regardless of if he talks to her and what not. You share that love with him, even through the hard times that are happening. I am very sorry for what happened but I believe you have so much ahead of you and that your life with be blessed through-out your long years with your family.

Forget him; your kids probably rock.

You said it girl. You need time to heal and time is a great healer. I was in a similar position three years ago. Don’t rush it. But most importantly be strong for the kids. Try to do all your crying without them around. Don’t blame yourself for what has happend and hopefully you’ll come out the other side a much happier and stronger person. I know I did.

My kids love me. But my daughter (14) misses the mommy she use to have. I miss my laughter and so does she. Im trying very hard not to let her see me cry at nights. He was my best friend and it hurts. I wish this nighmare would go away. I am seeking help for my depression and it is working and also I am seeing a therapist. I just can’t believe it happening to me. My son (13) is always worried about me and I tell him that Im okay. I guess they see right through me.

I’m glad to hear your kids know you better than you think. This just shows that they will take care of you. They already show signs of nurturing and care, you’ve got good kids. I am glad to hear that your therapy is going well, although I know I need it, I just can’t talk to someone about my feelings. I’m glad that you could seek help and that you feel like it really is working. It’s all good news. Things will come into play, as they already are for you. The hurt may never go away, but you will become that much stronger and your kids will always look up to you; and after you. You have a looooong way to go love, but I assure you that you are in good hands.

You should probably just forget everything and go out and have a good time, possibly with the kids. Go to a comedy film or just go around places. Also, perhaps work some exercise into your day to introduce more endorphins into your daily activities; drinking an excess of water also helps.

Thank you for your kind words. I have been able to make new friends, I am going back to college to finish what I had started five years ago and he will have to pay my tuition. He found out that I went out with a couple of friends and he made me feel bad even though I was not out there dating anyone. I need time for that too. Its not right after just being separated to start seeing other men when I have to show my daughter that Im not like that. I need to take care of myself first.

You’ve been able to make new friends
Your going back to college to finish up what you’ve started years ago
Your getting your tuition payed
As bad as things are, as I said before things really seem to be coming your way and getting together very nicely. You have so much heading your way and I bet you can’t way for it. You have plenty of time to see people, plenty of time to live your life, plenty of time to do the things you want. Don’t let anything hold you back: do the things you would like to do, see the places you want to see, live your life for the kids, and grow and bond with them for the many years you have with them. This is obviously a turning point in your life and its your responsibility to chose which path it will change. Better, or worse. I’m sure you’ll make the right decision. If you have to frown, make sure that smile comes right after that.

Thank you so much Sorrow. I feel a lot better now.

Your very welcome love, glad to hear that. Good luck to everything you put your mind to and for the other rough patches down the road-but I’m sure you’ll be prepared for those. =]

Thank you, and God bless you for your kind words.

God bless you. =]

my dad did t same thing… it b hard but be strong babe