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I’m no girl but this is really very neat to hear about.

why? are a little on the nerdy side? :)

You find your “problem” “rediclous”? I dont find it to be a “problem” or for it to be “ridiculous”. Why would you? People are all attracted to different sorts of people for a reason. Do you think the so called “nerds” never get married?? Of course they do!..lol.. i mean, come on. And a girl like you? You mean,.. a “pretty girl”? Sweety - come now.

Why would you even consider this a problem or quuirk or anything like that? I dont understand. The people you are attracted to has nothing to do with anyone but you. You are the only person that can validate what is normal for you as far as that goes..and.. this is normal. … for you. As far as attraction goes - what is normal for one person will not be normal for the next.. because “normal” is all based on the individual. Im not seeing why you would be concerned about this in the least bit unless your making normal be the kind of guys the “pretty girls” that you have associated with are all attractd to the “pretty boys”. And the group of people you know in this world can in no way account for the masses. U defind who you like. Thats all.

I am in the exact same boat as you are. I am considered very pretty, beautiful even, and I have always fallen for nerdy/peculiar guys.

I married a very nerdy guy. He has a PhD in Biochemistry, and has a “nerdy” look. Most women didn’t understand my choice… AT FIRST. Although he isn’t bad looking at all in the “classic” sense, he’s average looking to most people. A couple of my more outspoken women friends had the gall to tell me that he isn’t up to my attractiveness level and they questioned my choice. But I find him super hot!! And, most importantly, he is an EXCELLENT husband. Devoted, responsible, sweet, caring, and loyal. Two months after our marriage, he learned to cook - even though I am an excellent cook - he just thought it might make me happy. It did!! He had eaten burgers and frozen pizzas until he was 28 years old and he now cooks amazing gourmet meals… better than mine! Go for it! Follow your heart.

ha ha, thanks Amanda, you’re right. i guess i listen to some of my friends too much. i mean, they’re wonderful people, but they’re always telling me ‘you could do better’ and then i kinda feel kind of silly about whoever i have a crush on. thanks for your advice! :)

i’m so glad your marraige is going wonderful, Heather! it sounds like you really have a good catch! :) i just hope something like that works out for me ;)

i’m sure it will! =) just pick your geek and love him no matter what anyone says. lol

Same here for some odd reason i find guys who are a bit nerdy attractive. He has to be attractive in my eyes though. Unfortunately i never act on those feelings just admire them from afar. But i do tell my friends even though they look at me like im crazy lol. I usually dont like the popular or guy who everyone finds attractive (fine or whatever) guy, at least now that i am older i dont. Nothing about them stands out to me or interest me.

Great story salmon! That just gave me hope

glad to hear it essence ;)

Wow, I never imagined there were that many of you guys that like “nerds”. lol

hey don’t worry about it anon! i’m just like you. it’s no exaggeration when i say i think nerds are HOT! :)

ha ha, Cody, i guess you learn something new everyday :)

Why can’t I find any girls like you guys?

I’m not exactly your typical nerd. I find that learning is (for me) literally addicting. If you ask, I can talk to you about sociology, theoretical particle and quantum physics, physiology in connection with martial arts, and really good books all day and never get bored. One catch, I look like a 140lb. version of the dumb jock down the road just with a different hair cut. :p Are all the gorgeous girls hiding or am I blind?

yeah….I’m just thinking…what’s the “problem”?

me too.

steff wrote:
yeah….I’m just thinking…what’s the “problem”?

well, you know the whole peer pressure thing to date a classic “hottie”. i think that’s what she was worried about. for me, i don’t see it as a problem either. ;)

I don’t want to be harsh here but this is what the problem is: The poor beautiful person feels bad that she doesn’t want to date another beautiful person.

Some of us don’t have the choice to date anybody.

steff wrote:
I don’t want to be harsh here but this is what the problem is: The poor beautiful person feels bad that she doesn’t want to date another beautiful person.

Some of us don’t have the choice to date anybody.

sorry, i wasn’t trying to compete with you in the problem department. i was just asking a question.

oh, my icon changed because i’m using a different computer, but i’m the girl who made this post. i guess i don’t really think it’s a problem, i just wondered if anyone else was like me since most of my friends thought i was just being silly to have crushes on nerds. i didn’t know anyone else felt the same way. now i do.