Love help: I have been with my boy friend for 3 years. - Help.com

beki, it is totally normal for both of you to have these feelings. as the saying goes here “you will blame a future love for something a previous one did.” I find that is so true in any relationship whether you’ve been cheated on, lied to, etc. I think you both need to sit down and have a serious TALK. No fighting, no raised voices. Just talk to each other. Tell him how you feel without blaming him. Don’t say things like, “When you get drunk, I think you’re going to cheat.” That is a bad and intimidating statement. Instead, try things like, “When so and so did this to me, it made me feel this way. I don’t want to relive that pain again.” It is possible that he will use the ‘you, you, you’ technique, but that is purely out of being hurt. Not by you, but the other person. Just think, what you’re thinking and feeling right now he probably is too in one way or another. Sit down, have a nice dinner together and just talk. Communication really is the foundation of any solid and loving relationship. If you can’t talk to each other, or feel uncomfortable, maybe you should try to write it down *I know that sounds so high school but it worked for me*. If that doesn’t work then maybe you two should re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourselves what each of you really wants from it. Good luck honey! :D

comunication is key, if he feels tat your cheatin then go and sit with him and tell him your not, and if you think he might be cheating on you then bring it up to him bnut be gentle about it, just be honest about how you feel and no matter what dont get mad. the thing is unles you have proof of him cheating or he has proof of you cheating then these feelings shoudn’t be happening, why not take a night for you and him to go and just be together so you can remind eachother of how you feel about eachother and also what you two have,

If you both love eachother then surely you should trust eachother
if you dont then it is hardly a strong relationiship
have you spoke to him about it?

Me and my boyfriend have both been cheated in the past but neither of us are insecure. You’ve got to be strong and believe firstly in yourself and you need to get rid of your baggage! There is alot of great men out there and you should compare what happen in your past to this relationship or its gonna be a nightmare. My ex was really posessive, suspicious etc and I never cheated on him or gave him any reason to believe I would. In the end it was him that turned out to be the cheat.
Talk it through and be honest about how you feel, assure him, but dont let it be one sided he should assure you too. Good luck hun! Remember true love is not jealous plus it conquers all (cheesey I know, but true).