Love help: Alright, I slept on it - Help.com

Man, you must be torn up inside!

Love Stinks!

well, here’s the thing..

Meg had a thing for greg about a 2 months ago… but nothing ever happened, so she just suddenly decided to “just be friends”.. of course, no one believed her - who just suddenly stops liking someone?

And about a week ago, meghan’s girlfriend Olenka told me that meg still had a thing for greg…

oh.. and somehow meg found out I had a thing for her and turned me down even before I got to ask her out

I think she would be really happy with me.. I’d do whatever it’d take to please her.. which.. at the moment seems to be to go out with greg…

I dedicate this song and this video to you, bon amie!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GluCM_…

it’s really hard to do that - - considering the feelings that I have for her.. I can’t imagine ever feeling the same way about someone else

she’s perfect =[

You seem like your a great friend letting your friend date meghan. but there isn’t much use in hiding your feelings because they proberly won’t just go away. i think that maybe you should speak to your friend about the situation- i know this maybe hard but you need to say something.
you never know he might be accepting about it.

Wow! Thats a really great thing your doing for your friend. I think you should take heart in that, if both the girl you love and your best mate will be happy, it seems you did the right thing.
But you don’t want your feelings to eat you up so make sure you find new people to hang around with, maybe find a new girl to love. Its your love that makes her perfect in your eyes, so once you take a step back you might eventually change your mind about her.
Whatever happens, make sure you are happy too though! You sound like a great guy doing this for them both, so you definately deserve to be happy yourself, although I guess not with her.

Move on and just remember you did what was best for her, so you don’t have to regret it. Things will turn out good in the end I’m sure :)

thanks alot, it seems that’s all I can do.

I’m trying my best not to loose them as friends.. we’ve been friends for a very long time, and we’ve gotten so close.. I really don’t want to lose them

You won’t loose them if you honest to them. and if they get annoyed at you telling the truth they obviously dont repect you that much. i know telling the truth in a situation like yours can be hard but you have to otherwise your not going to get anywhere.

I don’t think honesty always is the best policy though, because if they do get together and greg thinks you still like meg, that can make things really awkward between you.
I was in a similar sort of situation and the distrust ruined my friendship with the girl.

If she’s made it clear she doesn’t love you back, theres nothing to gain in admitting feelings for her. For what its worth I think you did the right thing. With unrequited love someone is always going to get hurt, so its all about damage limitation.

the other thing I’m contimplating is that… if I do stay their friend, and I lie to them, saying I’m over meg, maybe one day they’d break up and I’d be the one she fell back on, you know?

is that wise? what if she only turned me down because she likes greg? maybe we would work out well if greg wasn’t in the picture… I mean like.. if olenka asked me out right now, I would definetly say no because I want meghan.. but if the same girl asked me out when I didn’t like meg, I would probably say yea.. so maybe it’s the same with meghan? maybe I do have a chance and maybe I should just stick with her and pray to God (selfishly) that they don’t work out and she gives me a chance

Thats a hard one to call, because if her and greg did get together and break up, its not definate she’d turn to you, especially since you are gregs best friend so she’d assume you’ll take his side. Also a rebound relationship is unlikely to last. And praying they don’t last will eat you up inside, since you are bound to feel guilty about it!

Try putting your feelings for meg to one side, and do go for other girls, like Olenka. You never know you might make a great couple, or rather selfishly (but hey you gotta look out for number one sometimes!), meg will see you together and realise she does like you after all.

If you stay single with your feelings for her eating you up, you wont seem like a great catch. So I say get back on the wagon, and if its meant to be between you and meg, it will happen eventually.

why all the lies?
thats how you got in this mess.
come clean with your friend.
and then maybe with the girl
either way
stop the lying
thats why this mess….

but if i tell them the truth, then I know they wouldn’t go out.. I want them to go out cuz they’d be happy, I can’t tell them..

well - i think the truth is always better.