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I’ am have been the right here where has he been?

My fiancé has two children which I have raised for the past three years, One since he we as 3 months old and the other since she was Two and a 1/2, Their Father dropped The two year old and the pregnant mother off in Illinois(She’s from indiana), and left the next day to tend to his other pregnant girlfriend, and never returned, with no more than a bi-monthly phone call to the kids, and he’d stop by for 20min on christmas when he was in town to see his parents, this went on for three years, with not a dollar towards their wel-fare.
Well in april of this year we decided to go back to indiana to be with her sick mother.

The day after we arrived he stopped by her mothers house to say we’d be receiving a sepeana, for parenting time, so anyway the court day comes april 30th with no money for a lawyer, She defender herself, and dispite her best efforts was still screwed, he pays 79 dollars a week in support( ok cool he’s paying for his kids), he gets them every other weekend and 1 month out of the summer(biting the lip we agreed). HE GETS TO CLAIM BOTH OF THEM ON HIS TAXES, THATS $4000 DOLLARS AT THE END OF THE YEAR THAT IS STOLIN FROM HIS KIDS.) Say what that means that he profits 2,200 dollars this year (as he only has to pay for 6 months of it)and a thousand profit every other year. So instead of helping in anyway all he has done is take these kids away from the parents they know, and robbed them of 1000-2200 a year in support.

Am I just being an inconsiderate @55 or is this just not right?

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mom4nutt offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

why in the world did she not ask for a public attorney you are in the us you get free legl representation if you can afford it. go back to court you shoudl have every other year claiming kids on taxes. he has a right to see his kids and they have a right to see their dad even if he is a peice of lard….. believe mein this one, it is better they see hima nd get to know him and see who adn what he really is then for them to fantasize about what he is and how if he were around things would be much better. I know its hard, i share a daughter who I have helped raise since she was 4 motnhs old. Her birth mother infuriates me…….but it is better that she has this relationship then not, no realtionship leaves kids with serioud issues whent hey are older.

get a lawer and get that one thing reversed becasue it isnot fair nor right infact, you may be able to get it taken completly off the aggreement adn mother claim every year. Do not fight anything else. Be the BEST parents you can be. set good examples, actkind to thier father no matter how he acts to you. Your children will one day tell you they saw how brave, courageous and loving you were and it isyou they wil thank for teaching them how to be honorable adults

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Jowers2 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
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mom4nutt wrote:
why in the world did she not ask for a public attorney you are in the us you get free legl representation if you can afford it. go back to court you shoudl have every other year claiming kids on taxes. he has a right to see his kids and they have a right to see their dad even if he is a peice of lard….. believe mein this one, it is better they see hima nd get to know him and see who adn what he really is then for them to fantasize about what he is and how if he were around things would be much better. I know its hard, i share a daughter who I have helped raise since she was 4 motnhs old. Her birth mother infuriates me…….but it is better that she has this relationship then not, no realtionship leaves kids with serioud issues whent hey are older.

get a lawer and get that one thing reversed becasue it isnot fair nor right infact, you may be able to get it taken completly off the aggreement adn mother claim every year. Do not fight anything else. Be the BEST parents you can be. set good examples, actkind to thier father no matter how he acts to you. Your children will one day tell you they saw how brave, courageous and loving you were and it isyou they wil thank for teaching them how to be honorable adults

Thank you for your help we contacted a lawyer and he cannot claim them until he is caught up on child support 3 years from now, and i completely agree they should have a relationship, their mother and I have always encouraged this, and could not be happier that he is stepping up to see his children as that was one of the factors in our moving to indiana in the county were in.(though i must admit It was mainly for her mother.)anyway we should have plenty of time two get a lawyer now that we know that it will be some time before he is eligible and that is really the only discrepancy we have.
Again Thank you
Jowers2

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