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My Boyfriend feels he has to control everything and everyone around him.

I’ve had a boyfriend for eight years. I have three children he has none. Our problem is he feels he has to be in control of everything. From small things like the remote all the way to the kids. He can’t even sit and watch a movie and relax he has to know what is going on with everyone. If a cell phone rings and its not his he can’t just sit and ignore it he has to find out who’s it is and why they not answering it. It is driving him and me crazy because he can never relax’s. He is not abusive. He is just hard to be around sometimes. Does anyone relate to this or have a solution.

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Eet's a-Me, Mario!!! 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Maybe he needs to feel like he’s needed?

mom4nutt 4 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

why are you still dating him after 8 years? I’d be movin on. But that was not why you posted…

Sounds to me like he has issues but what thye are is not clear. Does he do drugs? It could be a side effect,the inability to relax. If you are not ahppy leave, otherwise, try t talk to him abot what is exceptable adn what isnt and go from there

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Eet's a-Me, Mario!!! 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

for real… OCD. Can you honestly talk to him about this? because that kinda defeats the purpose of being in the relationship. No one’s perfect, but you obviously would like it if he showed a little concern for others and chilled out.
good luck.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Hunnie i was once in a controlling relationship. The hole thing lasted about 7 months. This guy was controlling at first but then it got worce, he became abusive and things got really rough.
FOr your saftey and the kids you have gotta get out of that relationship before you and the kids get hurt…
Trust me i have been in this situation before…..
Good luck hunnie

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jennjenn 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

hello.. I’m suggesting you leave him and get away. My mom and I are dealing with a very controlling guy, he’s my dad, her husband, he’s so controlling.. if something doesn’t go his way he flipps. he has anger issues and everything will get worse. You can never change him. Please, for the safety of your kids and you, get away from this situation. You and your kids will be much safer and happier.

This boyfriend of your’s will progressively get worse, believe it or not. He’ll get abusive and its not safe.. so you should get away from him..

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3 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 36 minutes after post)

JennJenn is right.

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