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How much is your debt? Bankruptcy worthy? Make payment arrangements to make them manageable? Do you have a job? Can you take a second job or get a better paying job? Need a little more info here.
I wish I was able to have children. I know you’ve got troubles…but from where I stand you are blessed.
Btw - debt is no reason to kill yourself. Money is just money, not a reason to live or to die. Most people are in debt.
And what would happen if you killed yourself? you would devestate your children for a start so put suicide straight out your mind because i know you wouldnt want to hurt your children. the bank can help you/family? get a better job maybe? a smaller house? anything just be there for your children. see a doctor get some help xxxxx your children ill need you and want u to be around
Yes the children should be your main worry, not money!
The fact that the world is in debt doesn’t really help you, but you can hopefully take solise in that you are certainly not alone!
Suicide should never be an option, especially when you have children. Nothing is worth taking a life.
I agree with pure_shick if things are really bad you need to see a doctor who can help. They would hopefully have contact details for charities or agencies who can help with your debt.
Keep fighting, for both you and your childrens future.
You might feel like there is no other option at the moment, but tomorrow is a new day, and there are other answers for you. Life is really tough sometimes, and we all get ourselves into difficult and painful situations at some point or other. Take that love that you feel for your children and help it pull you through this. Children dont care about money, all they want is you in their life - their daddy. Dont make a mistake today which they will pay for for the rest of their lives. There is a bigger picture, and there are people who can help you (debt counsellors / samaritans / CAB). When you are feeling really low it is never a good time to make decisions about life and death. Be kind to yourself, and your family - Sleep on it and get some advice and support tomorrow.
Just realize that at one point or another , most everybody has financial issues, or some other issue, that affects their life negatively. So what, u owe money. Screw the bill collectors. Focus on your beautiful children growing up and leading a wonderful life. taking your life will not alleviate the problems. If anything, they will only be piled onto your children. LIVE for you. Provide LOVE for them. that will make a good combination for an improved life. Good Luck, and enjoy your life.
hey there’s lots of helps you can get. first, i’d suggest you to get right with God, family, and yourself. discover who you trully are and what you’re created for. life’s not about the money itself, but about living life to the fullest.
try to spend appropriately according to your income. don’t just follow your desire when you see things that look good. enjoy your time with your family, since time is much more than money. god loves you and he cares.
I have felt like this for quite a while but i just keep thinking about my daughter and what her life would be like without me and i know its just not fair.
It’s easy to reply to someone who feels suicidal from the outside, but from my reading I do not see many who have posted who have gone so far as to feel like this poster. In the case of debt, there is sometimes the feeling that the insurance money would help everyone else–of course policies have insurance clauses, so that would not be a good way to solve the problem. I know exactly what it is like to have creditors call every day 20 times a day, to work 14 hours a day and slave for the profit of credit card companies. Yes, it’s our fault, but they are not at all concerned if we live or die only that they get their money. So, to the poster, I understand your situation completely and have felt as you do, but I know that right when we are about to quit something wonderful happens that turns things around. What is the worst that could happen? All the friends we borrowed money from will hate us? That would be sad but then they cannot be our friends if they know we are honestly trying. We go bankrupt? Then the government for once is on our side. (This to me is a last resort option because I feel like we should be honest and pay everyone). We go to jail? All of those possibilities still include us living. And as long as we are alive I know that something wonderful will come. It always does if we are patient enough, are DOING OUR BEST, and have a little faith. From one who feels as you do, I pray for you and wish the best of your situation
Do not do it no matter what,meterial things you can lose instantly or gain instantly..while love and people once you lose them there is no coming back or finding them..
I can sympathise with how you feel. you get into so much debt you feel like you’ve let everyone down and they’d all be better off without you anyway, but would they? Debt can rob you of your sleep, happiness, self-respect. If you let it that is. Many creditors are very sympathetic and willing to help so talk to them. I know sometimes you just feel like you want to bury your head in the sand, but make the effort. Taking your own life will haunt the people you love for the rest of their lives, I’m sure you don’t want that. Think about how bad you feel right now, multiply that by 1000 that’s the pain you’d leave your family with. Find another way
I am in the same boat as you kids are all grown up my release is mr smirnoff my wife is a100% me i am an *** hole i would bump my self off but i have a grand son so get your self to the drs and tell them thay cant grass you up phone a debit companay thay will sort your money out you live for the kids and your wife after all it takes two to tango.
I have been on the rocks but call a couple of faviours in see your pals kick in you may think not but that will when u say put me up for the night.
i feel the same i am so low …. dont see no end or cure to this debt , i think i am going to prison too , how can i possibly sit my 12 year old down ant tell her that …i love her so much but they would all be better off without me xxxx
Unfortunately I am not free to die either. My parents are guarantors to my loans that exceeds there net worth. Meaning that if I die they will be left alone to deal with a devastating loan loosing there home.
I am a bankrupt businessman from Athens Greece…unemployed for 2 years in a country with severe problems!
I wish I were free to die.
im in the same vote ! my partner cheated on me after 10 years together and when she left she left me with a pile of debt and i have so many bailiffs knocking on my door
i hardly ever see my girls and i miss them so much that it makes me just want to curl up in a ball and die,
i wake up in a morning gutted that im still breathing ,my current girlfriend who i have been with just over a year doesnt understand at all ’she is out with her mates as we speak getting drunk without a care in the world despite the fact we have not got a penny to our name ! i have also been told today that we are being evicted
i don’t care anymore about my relationship but i do worry about what my daughters think about there dad if i give up ?
but other then the thought of my girls i am certain that i just want to end it.
Hi just to say i feel the same as u but i have more problems than that but be strong for your kids. They need you and you need them ill pray for you as i ppary every nite ffor myself
I cut my wrists once when I was 16. Over a girl that broke up with me that I loved dearly. I am now 42. Obviously didn’t die.I think back now to how silly that was and how much life I had ahead of me. I just didn’t see it back then. To young, to immature, brain not properly developed enough yet to see past the trees from the forrest. I have 2 great kids now. They are 15 and 13. I am divorced but see them often and have a great relationship with them. If I would have succeeded when I was 16 I would have never known the joys of having them in my life. Although now I find myself so completely barried in debt, it is hard to get out of bed in the morning, and increasingly hard to paint this fake smile on my face to others around me. I know that suicidxe is not an option. I would never have my kids grow up with the questions of why I left them alone without their father, or what they could have done to prevent it, or any range of questions that would haunt them both for the rest of there lives. I have preached to others before that life will always ge better with time. I do still believe that. Screw the creditors, and bill collectors, the IRS and the credit card companies. None of them truly give a **** if you die or not, they just want there money. I refuse to givethem the satisfaction, even though I am constantly reminded of my debt about 15 times a day with relentless collection calls. I will get out of this slump at some point and life goes on. I just keep reminding myself of that everyday and I do believe and know that it will get better. So for anyone thinking about killing themselves…….it will get better. Trust me. I am in a horrible place right now. But life seems to have its way of working things out. Even if it seems right now that things are utterly hopeless, because that is how they seem to me……but I will stay the course, put my faith in myself and continue to paint on that smile as long as have to until that smile is real again. Don’t do it, hang in there, and trust. Also in closing, the only person that can change your life is you. So tighten up those boot straps and hang on! The ride might not be a fun one, but will be well worth it in the end. I am reminded of tha every time I see the smiles on my kids faces.
This is an old thread but perhaps this comment will help someone. I feel this way also. Really, really wish I could kill myself but just don’t have it in me. I don’t blame myself for my debt. It’s not my fault I can’t get paid a salary I’m worth. I didn’t ask for college tuition to be so outrageously expensive that I had to take out loans in order to get an education. I blame an unjust system for this. However, there’s always a way out somehow. Try to find a community of supporters, maybe on the Internet? Try to find people who will support you emotionally. Sometimes you might need to try something radical, like starting your own business to make more money or leaving the country and working abroad. When things get that bad that you’re contemplating suicide, that’s the time to start thinking of solutions that might seem radical or outrageous to other people. But picking up and moving a 1000 miles a way or pursuing that dream you’d thought you’d forgotten about of opening your own restaurant is a better risk to take than killing yourself, right?
Im 20 years old…I have a little boy who is 2…hes been diagnosed with a illness and abnormal activities…..he was diagnosed at the age of 1….my whole world fell apart….im in over 10, 000 pounds worth of debt through providing medical care….all the extra equiptment that he needs……sometimes…I sit there at night and think of endingy life as..my world has been turnt upside down …. but…when I look at my son…and the battles his been through in two years of life…..debt doesnt matter atall…..life is the only thing that matters. …
money is man made.. soo think different to gain it… try and try and try one day u will become rich definitely but this success cums if ur in lie… soo change ur opinion don’t lazy be crazy yar
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