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Long term relationship question.

This is for people that have been in a relationship for 4+ years and have broken up with the person you were in the relationship with. How long did it take you to realize that they were not right for you even tho you loved them like how long did you keep talking yourself into trying to think they were right but deep down you knew they were not. how long did that go on before you eventualy broke up?

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3 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Knew within a week of marriage is was a mistake but didn’t want to admit it. Stayed for 13 years before divorcing.

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3 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

I knew a year in….kept ‘fighting for the relationship’ ie trying to believe the best, ignore the truths, etc….all the gunk kept on appearing, different ways, in a CONStant…over four years until FINAlly got on and moved on.

If I had it to do again - maybe would have done the same (love is stupid hehe) but honest - hope that I just go ahead and move on - WHAT a waste of time….yeah i get nothing is wasted…and, too, wish I had just wasted a year and not lots of years but - either way - YES FINALLY GOT OUT. yaay. there is ALWAYS someone better out there (if it is going rocky constantly - KNOW THAT)

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (54 minutes after post)

I was in a six+ year relationship but was fifteen when it started, sixteen(1yr) pregnant, seventeen(2yrs) married, oops, nineteen(3yrs) realised it wasn’t working, then ended up pregnant again, twenty(4yrs)started resenting him, tried counselling, twenty-two he cheated on me so I had a good reason to end it. Wish I’d ended it sooner though! It was young and foolish love though.

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