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Since you’ve already said on this site that you want to kill her, you’re now much more likely to be convicted if you actually do it. If you kill her, she will have won in a way.

Calm YoSelf Woman!
It Would SEEM that she is a pox on your life and even the lives around her, unfortunately theres not much i can really say that should be said to her if you really want to help her and make her stop being so destructive. But for the meantime your not helping anyone getting all worked up like this. sometimes people have to learn things for themselves Shes only 19 so she still has ALOT of learning to do. Id recommend just doing what you can to ease the destruction she does cause. But In my opinion there really isn’t too much you can do. from what I’ve read.

ive felt that way about some people, but its usually like a feeling that goes away after time. you realllly need to distance yourself fro her as much as possible. no contact. no talking to her, or anything. shes probably just really jealous of you. and just listen to your husband and ignore her. it really is the best thing to do.

and her smoking around her baby? ugh that makes me sickk.

no dont sink to her level.

and dont do any physical harm to her. just really keep distance from her. do you have to be around her very often?

ohh :|
so when she causes these problems with you is it only when you are there visiting family?

Call child services and consult with a psychiatrist. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

Do you have children of your own Ladyecj?

well, does his life actually listen to her and are they starting to not like you because of what shes saying?

Grow apathetic to the bs that she is putting you through. With time the smoke that she is blowing will clear and people will see her for what she is. it may take months, years.. but her time will come. dont lower to her level and attack her because you will only make a fool of yourself.

call social services, other than that its her kid and her life stay out of it, does she medal in between you and your husbands life?

Well as one mother to another the minute you created a child and delivered it onto this Earth you gave up any right to ruin that child’s life. Go back an read again what you have written, hardly motherly talk is it? If you really are the better person in this mess then dont criticise her abilities as a mother until you stop threatening to kill another child’s mother. You do realise that is what you have said in this post dont you? Rise above it like everyone is telling you to. And concentrate on the most precious thing in your life - your child. Her life wont be much fun if you kill her Aunty will it? - Regards Mas

ladyecj wrote:

GiggiDyGiGgiDy wrote:
call social services, other than that its her kid and her life stay out of it, does she medal in between you and your husbands life?

i think you need to re read my post am not talking about her life am talkin about how she’s makin my life hell with her bullshi* it has caused lots of problems in our life! she is evil!

deal with it she is your husbands sister, get over it, she is who she is

well, maybe your husband can talk with her? i really dont know. but im sure after time she’ll probably stopp. but you need to be patient and do not do anything drastic. youre better than that :]

ignore it

be the bigger person and ignore it

patience is hard to find with people who don’t respect themselves. She is probably hurting terribly herself - thus the drug use.

Perhaps try suggesting to your husband that the two of you should seek professional help for her. If she is unwilling then at least your husband might understand her motivations better.

ladyecj wrote:

ashleyy wrote:
well, maybe your husband can talk with her? i really dont know. but im sure after time she’ll probably stopp. but you need to be patient and do not do anything drastic. youre better than that :]

he doesnt want nothing to do with her! i try to ignor it but it doesn’t stop… at one point we stopped talkin to his whole family… but this is not what i want for him!

yes, well welcome to reality, you can’t control his life

Ignore her - she will either die, sober up, get her kid removed from her care, be the best mother ever. You cannot control it - just dont speak to her and give your husband a break here - stop talking about her. Let the guy be - you cant choose your family. You are dangerously close to turning this into an obsession. Get a grip - make a happy life and promise yourself you will never mention her sorry name again - Mas

i see that any advice anyone gives your getting excuses, you do not want help, have a nice life

giving not getting

It is a little bit - after all she isnt on here threatening to kill you now - is she?

My impression is that your anger is really frustration for not being able to help the situation.

Her irresponsibility towards others lives would typically be seen as an extension of her inability to control her own life - or at least feel as though her own life is out of control. She needs help and is asking for it in unconstructive ways.

It isn’t easy… and you need to decide if it is worth your effort in what could possibly a losing attempt to help someone.

Mind over body - Spirit over mind

i know where shes coming from. its hard to ignore someone, specially when their getting into your family life.

but like mas1s said “she will either die, sober up, get her kid removed from her care”

you need to try your hardest to let this go. and even if the family does stop talking to you and your husband. that wont last forever. specially since hes in