Love help: I feel terrible,i need someone, anyone.. - Help.com

thanks everyone, seriously.. im just so lonely

~lilies~ wrote:
Would calling a friend do for now?

all my friends are at the party where she is at right now…

Chameleon wrote:
It does hurt so bad when people do this to us. I think a LOT of us have been treated that way. Some people don’t know how much their actions hurt others. Probably because they haven’t had it done to them yet. But some day they will, and then they’ll know how much it hurts. Until then all you can do is let the anger overtake the love you feel for her. In this situation anger actually seems to be the healing balm for a broken heart. But don’t think that all women will treat you this way.

I have tried to feel angry, but I just feel really disappointed, its just an overwhelming sadness..

Thank you for the fast replies everyone… you are all amazing, thank you so much.. Last place i thought i would find support would be on the computer until I came to this website.. I dont know any of you, I dont know ur names, where u live.. anything.. but you can still help someone in need, thank you so much

Richard cor de lyon wrote:
When we loose someone, whether that be from a break-up or in death, we must go through a grief process to heal. That process is a five stage process. You will feel one if not all of these before you can accept and feel better:Denial - “This just is not happening to me, She’ll come begging to have me back”Bargaining - “Please God, I’ll do anything to have her back… I’ll CHANGE”Anger - “Screw her, she deserves the worst in life”.Depression - “I’m just so sad, I feel so lonely; I don’t ever want to love again”Acceptance - “I accept that she is gone, I will learn my lessons and move one from here”Once some doors are closed, and you have TRUE acceptance, you will begin to heal so you can love again.

I understand. She wont come back begging, I won’t change for her, I don’t really want to care what she gets in life anymore, worst or best. I am sad, I am lonely, I do feel like i dont want to love again. I’m trying to accept she is gone, she was a good lesson, I know I won’t forget her, I just have to get over this.

Fever Dream wrote:
They call me crazy eyes

lol, crazy eyes!

~lilies~ wrote:
Some people would just normally walk away and deal with things as if nothing happened. Well, there is always two sides of a story. You know your ex better. Of course she feels odd not to be with you anymore and seeing you would also freak her out. But she needs to move on. And she knows life has to go on. So just a piece of suggestion, make yourself busy, accept it (time will help you). And I’m sure you know you are doing the right thing hanging on.Don’t stop yourself from having fun too.Take care,lilies

She was the one that called me today, told me she really cared about me… She was the one that told me we should hang out, then she was the one that completely ignored me when we saw each other.

I started going to the gym, I joined a martial arts class, Im studying and hanging out with my friends more.. I’m watching some anime.. I’m really going to work on this to get over it.. I dont want to stay in bed depressed, I had enough of that in my life already. Thank you for your support everyone.

Thanks Chameleon, I dont know if shes the real problem or if it’s my fear of being alone. Ive never had much luck with the girls and she was the first one for everything . I think thats the reason I want to hold on to her so much even though she isn’t the best person out there. Actually not only not the best, but the complete opposite for me. Shes not the girl im supposed to be with. But even though shes not, she was.. and the only one.. I just thought it was better to hold on to her no matter how bad it was because it was better than being alone. I have realized though, slowly, that alone is better than being in a bad relationship.

Fever Dream wrote:
awwwww man!Tobee ima friend you and were going to nerd out about animekay? =D

sure thing!

Råymond wrote:
Can I nerd out too? I secretly watch Naruto, but nobody knows. :$

Naruto is pretty good, everything is so slow though.. I stopped watching at shippuden 26 or something like that.

_Anthony_ wrote:
If God was in your life, you will not feel afraid, or alone, always keep in your mind that everyone has their reasons to stop a relation or to leave, any relation need both parts to work-out or it will not be fair for both to keep going in it, just keep on living and learning, and enjoy your freedom of been free from any relation : )

I don’t consider myself a religous person, but in extreme times I ask for help and guidance before I go to sleep. I just don’t have alot of faith…

Fever Dream wrote:
Naruto is 75% filler

I agree, I’m watching Hajime no Ippo, its amazing.

Chameleon wrote:
I do terrible alone too Tobee. I’m a big chicken when it comes to being alone. I hate, hate, hate being alone. But you’re right, it’s better to be alone than with someone that isn’t right for you, if no other reason than because you don’t want to be attached when the RIGHT one comes along.

Thats very wise.. not be attached when the right one comes along.

What I hate the most is waking up and falling asleep with her in my head. It makes getting up in the morning hard, and falling asleep almost impossible.

Råymond wrote:

Tobee wrote:
I agree, I’m watching Hajime no Ippo, its amazing.

I have never heard of this. What’s it about?

Its about a kid in school that becomes a pro boxer, its really funny, motivating and addicting. The action is fast paced too, so there arn’t many fillers. I have watched all the episodes like 3 times already and I never get tired of it. Another good anime to watch is death note, that one is crazy. I suggest Hajime No Ippo, I watched it in one weekend (76 episodes) a loooong time ago and joined the gym after the last episode! lol.

Chameleon wrote:
Tobee, I like to think of it like this - when you feel alone, picture the girl that’s right for you, sitting alone somewhere herself, waiting for you, hoping she will find you soon. Your future bride is out there somewhere, waiting for you just like you’re waiting for her. It kind of helps to hold onto that image in your mind to keep you patient and sane lol

I will try that, I have heard from alot of people that I’m a really good guy and that I will find someone that will really appreciate me for who I am. I’m going to hold on to your advice and think of that. Thank you again.