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that’s what i told a counselor at school.. and I’ve been on medication for 2 years.. calming that we are depressed.. i believe that people who are like us are smart.. and want more to life than just doing ordinary stuff.. that’s why you think life is pointless.. we are smarter than life.. and we want other purposes to live in it..other than having a family.. helping people.. and worshiping god.. i think maybe we should just enjoy it because we are dying anyways.. so keep in mind.. true life is pointless but i can have fun
I feel like that a LOT. Everything except the party girl thing. I’ve been diagnosed with a lot of disorders like severe depression, bi-polar, anxiety disorders, and the list goes on and on. Now I don’t know if all the diagnosis are true, or if they just like to slap labels on people. But I do know that my view of life is not as rosy as “normal” people’s view. I know this because I’ve been on meds that have made me see it RIGHT, and the difference was astounding to me. It was the small things. Noticing the tiny, wonderful things in the world that I can’t see normally. I’m not saying to go on meds, that’s a personal choice to look into that solution, but I’m saying that your view is similar to mine and I know mine isn’t realistic.
maybe life is pointless. and you know that. but dont let that fact eat you up. try to have fun and forget that this pointless life is pointless. try to take ‘pointless’ out of it. just think of life as life. maybe you can try to make a point in life? start a family? just live to have fun, make yourself happy, make others happy, lose love, find love. who knows. there is a lot to life. and yess. we all get born and die.
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– and thats kinda pointless. but im sure you can make a point for yourself in life.
im saying, just dont let that eat you up.
Dear Sweet Person that you are-I know the suffering you are having—everything seems pointless and there seems to be no real meaning and you wake up each morning thinking “I still feel like that” and dread going through the day. I have been in that place often. I have had lots of therapy and took antidepressants. Honestly, the meds changed things completely for me. Now, when I hear someone talk like it is some sort of eakness to have to take meds, I know they have never been real depressed. I am a college professor, the mother of two kids, a former rebellious teenager who smoked pot etc. The quality of my life has often bee so bad that it seems pointless to live. The meds (SSRIs) changed that completely. If you take meds now and they do not work, you need to keep trying—took me several tries to find the right combination. Also, if you have good insurance, it is worth going to a psychiatrist–they are experts in meds. And no, I am not saying the meds are a cure all–you still eed to work on your stuff–but many of us have the genetic predisposition going against us. I wish you the very, very best.
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one thing i want to tell you life is beautiful to live but we people like to make it complicated dont go for calculation in life in real.Life is not pointless for humans because anybody can die at any time as prescribed by god okk soo why to think about future.Live in now present and when person feels that life is usless it means you have not yet find work of your liking or you have not yet find motive in your life.it depend on person how person true their life.Dont fake anything whatever you just share it with your family memebers or your close very close friend who think about you.
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Life isn’t pointless, it only seems that way when you’re down. For any person to stay optimistic about life, she or he needs at least one thing going well. Find a way to make a difference about something that’s important to you. Have you tried volunteering?
I know what you mean! Most of my friends are ignorant tossers! Don’t kill yourself or anythin though, think how sad yor family and friends would be. What you should do is you should just get up one day like tommoro or something and you should just **** off somewhere for a couple of days and dont tell no one where you are so they dont bother you (you might want to leave a not for your parents so they dont call the police or anything) but yeah just **** off somewhere, anywhere, tri and clear your haed so you can think about what you want and dont tri and please other people and prentend that your happy! Gud luck Xx
thanks for your advice everyone. I have thought about taking medication, but I also feel it would just cover up what I am feeling. I appreciate all of your words i really do. I have also thought of going to a therapist, but I am not sure if it will help, I feel like I need to unlock something inside of me and I’m pretty sure it has something to do with my dad. I have gotten alot worse since he died 2 years ago. We didn’t get along very well, so I think I have some issues with that. I think I just need time. I do want to take a vacation and go somewhere by myself and just be alone. but I can’t really do that right now.
Please let me say something as a pschologist, a professsor, a mother, and a “way too out there teenager in the 70’s. It akes incredible courage to go to a therapist to work on your stuff. It is never a sign or weakness or inability to deal with your own ****. If htere is something to be unlocked, you really need a therapist to help ad to stand by you. I am not a therapist so I am not speaking from that view–I have had many hours of therapy none of which I regret. A therapist is impartial—-your firnds and family cannot be–either they love yu or you have issues with them, A therapist is your advocate. One thing though is ti try to find a teally good therapist. They vary a lot and sometimes the therapist is ood but is ot the riht one for you. You will have to be will to look at dificult issues that scare–but a therapist can guide you.
Also, a word about meds. I had a friend whoe wife had died at a young age, He was of course, unable to function. His thrapist made the wise remark that sometimes things are so intense you cannot work through them withot te help of meds. Wo the meds, you just spin your wheels. The right med does not cover up your feelings00it makes your feelings managable so you can work with them. Meds a re not “happy pills and are not addictive–( am talking aout ssri’s and others–not things like valium or ativan. yOU NEED TO WORK THroug your dad stuff to move on in life.
Blessings to you-tracy
I agree with MOONCHUCKL. As someone who has a genetic predisposition to depression, a mother of 3, someone who can now see (looking back) they dealt w/ depression as a teen, and someone, who, unfortunately, is AGAIN dealing w/ depression and lack of motivation for life since experiencing a marital crisis… AND WHO HAPPENS TO ALSO BE A LICENSED THERAPIST, I can honestly say meds have helped me see things clearly in the past. I, too, am at a crossroads… have found MYSELF a therapist (yes, even therapists need therapy) and will seek to be placed on meds this week as I must face I can’t do it alone. Research shows greatest improvement in w/ depression is combo medication and therapy. THere are many wonderful therapists who really care. Some people don’t understand this: Psychiatrists (MDs) specialize in medication management; they do not do counseling (for the most part). Usually, after your initial appt, you will have 15 min appts or no more than 30 each visit….they are medical doctors and expect their office to run like one. Some have mastered level therapists working for them… in their offices. If you have insurance, you can check the panel of providers. There are many therapists who will see you for a reduced fee if you have financial issues if you pay in cash (this way, they are not dealing with insurance woes). Threapy can be a wonderful tool to help you rediscover your own God given gifts and how to contribute to life, and seek the love and care others can give you… a great book is SAFE PEOPLE. It really does a great job of explaining everyone’s need for safety and care in our primary relationships. I am not endorsing any specific product for any personal gain, but am personally being helped by this book. As a therapists, I am not giving professional instruction and need to make that disclaimer… but, couldn’t help but speak from both perspectives. Once I took SSRI medication in the past, it’s like suddenly the sky is blue again, I wake up wanting to wake up (not sleep until I only HAVE to get up and then longer still) and I see the value in what I do for a living. I hope the very best for you and all of us who suffer from depression (and YES, it certainly would be normal to have your sadness made worse by the loss of your father… perfectly normal!) as it can be debilitating in ways those who do not have to deal with it (biochemically) just don’t understand. Many blessings…. hold your head high and realize YOU COUNT!
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Life is pointless. Don’t listen to this stuff about therapy. All a therapist wants is your money. And don’t be a lab rat for medications. Most of the medications therapists aren’t even sure why they work on some people and not on others. There are just certain experiences in life that **** you up. The feelings you get from your experiences will never be taken away. What everyone needs is someone that will just listen. But that might not be enough for some people. Sometimes society can take your self-reliance right out from under you and you have nothing you can do about it. Some people just have so much mental pain it will never go away. Anyone that says don’t commit suicide doesn’t understand or comprehend that pain. How can they? They haven’t experienced your experiences.
yeah, its just hard. i try so hard to stick with it and not give up, but i think part of me has given up. My mom always said (and still does) “Don’t give up, someday it will get better. Don’t let them bring you down, don’t let them take your spirit away. You will be ok. ” so since i feel like i have given up, I feel like i have let her down as well as myself. I am just so sick of fighting for every last little thing. It really seems like I should just always expect bad things to happen because they always do, then people say well, if you think like that then bad things are gonna happen… have a positive attitude. How the hell am I supposed to have a positive attitude when nothing ever goes right? What the hell do I have to look forward to anyway? Getting old and not having social security. Working till I am 80 and having nothing to show for it? Awesome! Im so excited about life! I do sleep until i absolutely have to get up. I work overnights so I sleep during the day, I have my windows blacked out so I can sleep easier. When i have to get up it is so hard, i almost don’t care that i will be late for work because i hate my job. I just want to lay in bed forever and never get out. I love sleeping and I would do it all day if i could.
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I hear you. People are always saying hang in there to me. Hang in there for what? Bad things have happened to me since a was little and they continue to happen. It’s as if every corner I turn around something else is there to dash my hopes. If I haven’t given up I sure am close. I love sleeping too. I wish I could do it all the time, except when I have nightmares. My nightmares are very vivid and I always seem very helpless in them. They remind me of my life with increased intensity. You’re right about the stupid job as well. People go to these jobs they hate all their lives and then they die. I can’t work at something I can’t stand. There’s got to be more to life.
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Thank you! Finally somebody that understands! I mean I appreciate everybody saying “don’t give up” its really nice of them, but all i do when people say that to me is laugh inside. I mean, I have a pretty good life, to me it sucks, but Im not starving, I can support myself, im not homeless, I have a family that loves me, there are other people who care about me so all in all im doing pretty good. But so what? Im doing good in a life that doesn’t matter. Yeah people say “make life fun” its hard to have fun when you know its gonna end up the same way no matter what you do. We live, then we die. thats it. the crap that we do in the middle does not matter at all because when we die its over. unless we make some huge contribution to society nobody will know we ever even existed. We are like bugs. its all pointless! Let me say again, Im not suicidal, just annoyed that I figured out the “secret to life” or lack there of.
You know, when people say “make life fun,” with what kind of barometer are they judging that statement; their own life? What makes their life that much more exiting and jubilant than our lives. To me they’re condescending. I mean, if you take a look at their lives they aren’t doing anything more spectacular than us. Also, maybe what they consider fun isn’t fun to us. No wonder people kill themselves!
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