Love help: I’ve been moving a lot and last year, while living in northern Italy, i fell in love with a really smart, kind, sweet guy. - Help.com

Stay where you are. You will have plenty of love in your future - it just feels like that now. Good thing you are smart. It sounds like you like where you are well enough (I like Spain). That plus - not to sound negative - but if things didnt work out w/that guy within a couple of months - you’d be so disappointed and kicking yourself for a long long time.

I think you know what to do.

I think you need to talk to your parents about it, because you have to decide together. Seems like staying in Spain would be the best solution for both you and your mum. Getting a good education is important, and you don’t want to go to Italy for a guy who you might drift apart from. It sucks not being with him, but if its really meant to be, I’m sure you’ll meet again one day. Having a happy mother and good education will really help you develop positively, so you’ll have a better future in Spain.

Your family, your education, your happiness -these things are paramount.

From what you say, your family are happiest in Spain. Your education is better in Spain. You say already that your happiness depends on them being happy.

Now the thing is that you clearly have strong feelings for this guy you met. Why don’t you write to each other? If he shares those feelings, and if this is true love he will wait.

That’s exactly what I did. I fell in love with a guy who moved abroad. We wrote to each other - good old fashioned cards and letters ! Years later we ended up married and we’re still married after nearly thirty years! True love survives temporary separation.

If it doesn’t … it’s not true love.

So, stay where you are. Work hard at school and get good grades so that you maximise your opportunities in later life. Your years with your family will be over all too soon. Make the most of them. Write to your friend instead. Why not arrange for him to visit you in the future if things work out? (After all, isn’t he just as capable of coming to you as you are to him?)

Good luck hun.

This all sounds wonderful, and I agree with mumstheword: You can write to each other and visit, and that will be really sweet, and then when you’re a little older maybe you will get married. Plus you’ll be having an easier time in high school. But what about your mother & father? What will that do to their relationship? How long will your father be in Italy? (But really, that is for them to work out, and is not your responsibility at all.) Remember, you can have BOTH: high school in Spain plus an Italian boyfriend. I wish you JOY. :)

wow…that’s great! I would like to exchange lives with you..lol
No really. I know it’s difficult for you, but everywhere there is some difficulties!
I dream about going places like Italy and Spain. It’s great that you are not rich and you had the opportunity to go those places…
Have fun and be happy with your family…you are not going to stay with them forever..you know..

let’s me tell you something. stay where you are!! because where is the love,distance doesn’t matter!! for me,I found a guy who live far away from here but we’ve been talking with each other by letters,cards,mails etc. I have to wait for 10 days until he’ll got my letter.How’s far we are? but I’ve been waiting for only him. Listen to your heart ‘coz I don’t want you to feel sad. if he is your true love so,find him and tell him about how you feel and what you wanted. he’ll understand you. Good luck.

btw if thts u in the picture, ure really pretty :)
yeah, write to him. im in a similar situation. and im not giving up. not on him and neither on my education or family.
:D good luck.

Anonymous wrote:
btw if thts u in the picture, ure really pretty :)

I was going to write that but I didn’t :)
Goodluck Barbieh :)

I think you should follow your heart. I have parents that move a lot also, so I know it’s difficult to start a new life over and over. But, this is your chance to take control of your life. Because your 15, you can’t really do anything. I’d say wait til your 18 and get out of there