littlenick wrote:
You need to mingle!
where? how do I start?
yea u just mingle what mingle
Can u define Mingle please? And how do I start doing this? Think that I’m alone and I want to go out and meet people, how do I do that? I don’t know where to go!
Whenever you see someone or you meet someone at a gathering, talk them up. Get to know them! Don’t just stay silent!
Do you have any hobbies or talents? Joining a club is always a good start. Especially as you automatically have something in common with everyone there. Also you’ll be more social doing something you enjoy.
Also try speaking to different people at school (well I guess its summer hols now), so when you go out try speaking to other people.
Some of my best friends now I only started speaking to at the end of college. I never thought of socialising with them but it turns out we click!
Don’t make assumptions of people(a really bad problem I had, assuming things about people) just give them a try, and you will find people you enjoy spending time with!
I joined the gym, and a muai thai class. Talents.. hmm I’m great at videogames lol.. I dont know what else.
Haha, well there is always video games conventions, if your into that sort of thing :P
Do you speak to people at the gym? If not make the effort! Easier said than done if your a naturally shy person, but well worth it.
An have you met any new friends at the muai thai class? Both good places to meet new people different to your current friends.
I don’t know if I can meet people at this gym, its pretty big.. And in muai thai I have talked to people and we have lots of fun, but they are all older than me, like 5 years older..
Ah that sucks then. Big means more people! But also more daunting. Is there specific training classes there you can join to make it easier?
Any that appeal to your age group too would be great.
I’ll have to check, but I looked once and I didnt find any appealing.
Ah cool. If there’s nothing appealing, choose something that girls your age will be into, but can make you look good at the same time! ;)
Small sacrifice for making new friends or finding that girl!
Cosmic Fool wrote:
Ah cool. If there’s nothing appealing, choose something that girls your age will be into, but can make you look good at the same time! ;)Small sacrifice for making new friends or finding that girl!
i guess so, im going to try to find it.. What are most 20 year olds into? :(
Erm does your gym have a pool? LifeGaurd training is gauranteed to impress, if you can swim well anyway!
Most girls I know who go to the gym do buttocks firming and that sort of thing, so not sure there is a special course for that! haha. That or pole dancing classes, but err, no just no lol.
Erm other than that I’m sorry but as stumped as you are!
Could always people watch and see what sorta things the girls do at the gym, though that sounds a little pervy writing it :S
Oooh and girls my age (18),so probs similar for 20 year olds, seem to love a guy who can catch. So anything involving ball games that you can showoff in.
No pool in the gym :( I might start playing tennis, I really enjoy it.
that usually happens to me every time i move. all you gotta do is hang out with your classmates. the first times are usually boring because you don’t know what to talk about and stuff. just give it time. after a while, you’ll get to know them better, and start having fun with them. plus, chances are your classmates are other friends and you’ll meet them too, expanding your contacts. that works for me.
Barbieh has a great point. Even if your current friends aren’t much fun to be around, you might click with friends of friends. So arranging big get togethers would be great!
Tennis would be great, if you enjoy it then that is something in itself. Meeting new people to hang around with would just be a bonus! =)
Well im attending college now, and I don’t do very well there with the people.. They are very different from me, and my friends from school I have known all my life, so I know their friends n such.. I don’t know where I’m going to start, I have a cousin my age, Ill ask her to introduce me to some people n stuff..
that would be great! i hope you find what you’re looking for. :)
Another good idea. As long as your comfortable with your cousin she can be your wing(wo)man! The more situations you get in to meet new people, the more likely you are to find people that interest you. So you can never do too much!
Ditto, best of luck Tobee! Let us know how it goes.
Thank you for your help guys, I appreciate it :)
littlenick
suehaye
Cosmic Fool
Barbieh