Love help: My heart is breaking -Losing my family - Update on Need advice Trying to find a reason to live - Help.com

I disagree that your meant to die alone, no one is meant to die alone. I understand that you are hurting, and I understand that you are going through a rough patch, but people come and go from your life for a reason. They come to help you through a rough time, or your meant to help them. And once this is done, then so is their place in your life. You will find someone who is meant to stick around. Just don’t get your hopes up. Go out and enjoy life. Those that are happy and enjoying themselves, will only attract the same.

Also, I know you do not know me, but if you need someone to talk to, or just a friendly person, I’ve got a good listening ear.

Hello, please don’t go. Let us try to help. You aren’t alone.

Hello, You need to let the two of them sort this out. You need to allow whomever make the decisions they need to make in order to live thier life and be happy. Your life is not ruined, and this is just a set back, their problems have nothing to do with you, and the more you try to help them get along and try to smooth things over, the more it is going to ruin the situation for you.

You have your work, you can work from home, perhaps you can now work longer hours if need be or allowed so you can perhaps help with the rent a bit more or perhaps you guys in a few days can all sit down and come up with a plan to get a new tenant if one person decides to move out. ( Talk to this person and explain that it should be thier responsiblity to find a replacement if they want to leave abruptly, so that the new tenant can help pick up the slack)

You are not loosing your family, there is a transition here, as all families go through. You will still be able to maintain a friendship with all of them, but getting caught up in this love triangle, may put yourself in a precarious postition without meaning to… Thier relationshp is thier own personal relationship and it should stay between the two of them. Leave the lines of communication open and perhaps let then know that you are available to them to chat if they need, when they need, but don’t go chasing them down… they are old enough to handle this, and they need to take responsiblity for thier actions, and at this point, a mothering friend is not what they need. ( I do not mean any disrespect…you all seem so very close, but you need to put boundaries in place yourself… )

Consentrate on the things you can contribute to in a positive way, and remain focused on your issues in your own personal life… this is not a direct hit against you… you needn’t take this so personally. Thier life choices effect you, but they are not directed toward or at you… you didn’t do anything wrong, and you are not the reason this happened, and you should not take this burden on your shoulders.

Don’t panic, and it’s never a good idea to make decisions when things are so fresh in turmoil. Take a few days to assess the situation and look at this rationally with a realistic mind. Panic is never a good deal maker or breaker… take some time to let things simmer… and then tackle the issues objectively…

You haven’t and are not loosing your family… just things are difficult, as families go through difficulties… take a deep breath, breath and try to just relax and let things go the way they need to go… sometimes hardships and struggles, in the end turn out to be the best things that happen to us because it forces change, change that otherwise wouldn’t happen. Change can be scary, but it’s not the enemy.

WOW Sorry to hear all this up set, your right you dont seem like you deserve all this.
Where do i start ??
Do your best in the situation and all will work out good, as you said it always does and then something bad happens again. I call this being object referal, in other words we look at objects, things and peoples actions and respond to them in a certain way, we really need to be self referal if we can.. That means we are in a possition that anything can happen in our visable lives and it doesnt have an effect, this doesnt mean that you have no emmotions its just a matter of listening to your emotions and reacting in a more logical way. If we are object referal that means we have given away our power to be content and happy to other people. Therefore if someone says the like us we are happy and if they say they hate us we are un happy. Im saying this because it seems you are reacting to situations that you can do nothing about, they are out of your control, you cannot control your room mates you can only control your reaction to the situation. I really hope this makes sense, you seem really switched on so if you can mantain this way of thinking it will certainly serve you.

By the way i shouted you to see how you were before i read your post !!!
I trust your reply will be that your really good now !!

Wow! It sounds like yoy have a whole lot of stuff floating around in your mind and a whole lot of time to think about all of it in a job that you despise…Given the amount of time most of spend at our jobs, it is so important to do something you can live with. I love my job some days and others I literally promise never to go back to “that —-ing place” again! If you are not able to live with your family anymore. Maybe it is time to find a new place and a new job. Even a no brainer kind of job till tou find the right one.. Maybe find a charming smaller place that may not have so many memories and may not feel so emty for you??I couldn’t tell for sure if you are moving out, or they are??It sounds like you are feeling like a burden but have they ever really expressed that to you? If you are at all like me, you are by far your own worste critic. You mentioned that you are the babysitter. If you are entrusted with your friends children both k-9 and humane, obviously you are a loved and trusted friend. That says a great deal about you as a person. I have 2 small children and a dog and I wouldn’t trust them with with just anyone! This could be such a wonderful turning point for you. I hope you can find a way to see that.

Hi there,
I read your story, I am sorry for your pain. It sounds like your family really loves each other and I’m glad they are working it out! Good luck.
You are never alone, never give up.!