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Listening is one of your strong points, then. But i’m sure you have weak points too. It just happens that for a lot of people, listening is theirs. I think it’s something you either need to get used to…or to keep searching for better friends…people who really listen. If there’s anything you ever really need to talk about it, don’t forget that counsellors are trained to listen (most of them).
Human beings are so engrossed in themselves. It’s natural but that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. Maybe all you can do is listen harder yourself, if you go on being there for enough people..some day someone will appreciate it and let you know how much, by being able to return the gesture.

Yeah i hate that too, or when they stop you try to talk and they start talking and the person forgets about u …

bty is that you in the picture?

whoa your 20! you look like your 16

thats good genes, once i meet a girl over the summer at a hotel thought she was 17 turned out she was 27 .. didnt believe her till she showed me her license i felt really stupid..

Thats so true. If people listen to me it can make my day, so its a really great quality to have :)
So its a great shame some people, like those you mention, don’t have it. Even if you aren’t a great listener, its manners to here someone out.

I guess they interupt your serious discussions because they feel uncomfortable about talking serious with you. Some people are just like that, so don’t think they don’t value you!

I totally agree people need to show more respect. Not just in listening, just generally in human contact. Its a two way process so if people respect you, you respect them more.

@dscreation, would have to be a very good looking 16 year old! =)

@dscreation, would have to be a very good looking 16 year old! =)

You said she looked 16, just thought she looked a lil older! But goin a bit off topic soz!

Don’t worry sweetheart, I can tell by your eyes that you are a compassionate person, you will do well in life. You will gain in wisdom as mature, and you will draw people to you who want to listen to what you havfe to say, don’t waste yourself on those who don’t. You are unique and beautifulperson

^ always goes off topic.. lol yeah she does you gotta admit! well not 16 , maybe 17-18..

It’s great that someone can still listen these days. Be happy that it’s you. Anymore, people are inconsiderate and less compasionate than ever before. I agree that they should listen, but maybe youshould listen to you heart and leave them behind. If they don’t have time for you, then you don’t have time for them. You look like a sweet girl, and I’m sure you will find a great friend who cares to listen. Good luck, I’m here to listen if u need me:)

Liindaa wrote:
well i don’t know if it’s good or bad to look like 16 when you’re 20. but thanks anyway.

Its great..Great genes…

I’m 20 and i look 12, so don’t worry about it :P

Will be good when you get older I guess!

Ditto kayla54, compassion seems to be a dying emotion and it sucks. But we’re here to listen, if ya want an understanding ear =)

You can always talk to me Linda. :)

I agree with everything you’ve said liindaa and i know where your coming from. Listening is important, I listen to people but when i want to be listened to no one seems to bother. It can be annoying can’t it.

they’re the type of people that care only about themselves. or if not that, then they dont wanna hear about serious stuff. ha, theyre the ones with the most issues.

I’m a listener too, and I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t have that inclination. When I was your age, I had the same problem. I eventually went into social services, and realized that there are a lot of listeners in that field. It may take you some time to meet them, but they’re out there. Don’t give up.

I thought you were about 18, granted the picture was taken two years ago according to the date on it, so I am not that far off.

My family is like that sometimes, they interupt me whenever I’m talking(and each other), so really it comes down to the point where I don’t bother talking to them about personal opinions or anything, it bothers me, but I think it does more and more with us becoming more and more of a “me” society.

I hope you find more people you can talk to, you seem like a really good person to me.

Oh, I think that I know exactly what you mean. I haven’t encountered too many of the interrupt-midsentence-type people, though when I have it is highly annoying. But I strongly understand what you mean when you talk about people not really listening, not really caring, and feeling as though you do.

It is hard, and sometimes it feels as though you are putting out so much but getting back so little. I agree with ‘Zons’ about your eyes, in my opinion, they do show a compassionate person. You might just be emotionally mature compared to the people that you know and interact with.

I hope that you find someone, or a group of people who do truly listen to you and have a genuine sense of respect = )

lol, my mom interrupts me all the time. or when i’m done talking, she just blankly nods and says ‘yes’.

by the way, one of my best friends used to tell me to shut up when i interrupted her. and it’s ok, i mean, i didn’t get offended or anything because she would say it nicely. xD maybe you could try that? say it as if you’re joking, like ‘oh, shusshh!’

There seems to be a lot of this today. I understand some what why and I try not to let their bad manners bother me. Most times I just smile and ignore them, plus tell them I wasn’t paying attention. It may be a riddle without an answer. I text one person while I’m seating right beside them..lol, hard to interrupt text.

Yeah, you can tell if someone is genuinaly listening, or just pretending because you picked them out on it. In my mind its selfish, if you expect to be heard you have to learn to listen.

lol..I try.

Liindaa,

I think your observation about respect is very important. It would seem that the people you hang out with really dont respect what you have to say. Its not you its the people you pick to talk to .. why do you is the deeper question. I read your other post about being alone. I believe these 2 topics are very close.

I can relate but in my case I dont know why people would want to listen to me. I am a nice frieldy person and can have convos with anyone but the important stuff is where I cant find anyone that I think would or should care. I am very alone even though I have family and friends not sure how to change all that.

Just felt I needed to reply .. hope your feeling better.