Have you told him how you feel about 1 last time?
yes i have tried to explain all this to him, when i did he played music we used to listen to while high and tried to convince me to smoke with him “just one last time”
If i were in your shoes
I would be firm and pissed off, and tell him flat out not to do this
If hes a good friend he should realize that its important to you that you 2 stop doing it all together. I guess if thats not your style then it wouldn’t work for you. But thats the point your trying to get across right?
I’m a little confused by your story. So you and your friend decided to stop smoking, but he wants to do it one more time…how often did you each smoke before? Are you sure he hasn’t been smoking at all within the three weeks? Weed itself isn’t the addictive part, it’s the high, maybe there are more underlying problems with your friend…?
Stand your ground. You can’t control what he does, but you can decide what you will do.
Wow this guy is really going through withdrawal. I guess hes going to have to learn on his own. As long as you dont give in then you’re straight. You can only do but so much to help someone. They have to truly want change for themselves, until then they arent going to listen to anyone :).
Basically all you can do is get to the root of his problem be there as a friend, not a person to get high with.
thanks to all for replying i know the direction i want to go with this but i guess what i still need is just one good solid reason to tell him why this is the wrong thing to do, maybe some backstory as to why this is so hard for him. okay so his parents are divorced and when we started this commitment he lived with his dad who smokes pot himself and downs a dozen beers a day/smokes cigarettes etc. his father recently stated he would rather have a daughter than a son which is hard to get out of your mind, considering this guy only wanted to make his father proud of him (he joined the football team for this reason). this tore him apart so he sought consolation from me(we talked) and his mom(he stayed at her house that weekend). and even over there away from his drug dependant father he found out his mother and her boyfriend smoke pot. also he goes to a school where pot is more common than not, apparently there is trouble with his girlfriend also
(Chances are you’ve already tried this): Explain to him that smoking doesn’t help any of what you mentioned above, if anything it’ll obsecure his logic and he won’t be able to think of any solutions.
What were some of the reasons that you guys both decided to stop smoking completely?
And wow, how’d you guys manage to go cold turkey for 3 weeks, I don’t think I could do that, when I was trying to get my best friend to stop smoking every day he had trouble after like the first night.
this conversation was held actually right after his dad caught him smoking in his room he grabbed him and the weed and periphenalia and brought him outside where he made a scene of burning the stuff and shouting so the neighbors could here. then he asked his son to get anything else he was hiding. my friend came down the stairs with a bag full of 15 makeshift bongs(mostly gatorade bottles with sockets in the sides) then his dad called him a crackhead or something but it all convinced him he needed to stop. also we decided that the real world was going to hit us hard if we didn’t prepare for the responsibility of life. also there are people we care about immensely and we could see that this was hurting them.
How often did he smoke? Personally I don’t think theres anything wrong with a joint every now and then, but I commend you for stopping completely anyway.
I reckon distracting him until he stops craving the high is your best option. Don’t get too angry at him either if he tells you he caved, it’ll just force him not to tell you next time.
thnx for the advice i think it will be useful
I remember hearing about people picking up habits to break others-
My Solution:
World of Warcraft.
Lol OR direct him towards help.com
Here’s a link that has some helpful info.
http://www.medic8.com/healthguide/art…
There are medical benefits as well, particularly to people undergoing cancer treatment or those with chronic pain. But for a healthy person, medically the risks are greater than the benefits. Some people claim they are more creative when they smoke weed, but during my weed-smoking years I found that it made me FEEL more creative, but that any writing I did while high was actually poorly done.
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