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I hate seeing the girl I love with somebody and having fun together.

Everyday this weekend I kept checking her myspace and everyday a new set of pictures were added of them at different places. I know I should stop checking,but it’s so hard because she is all I think about. She isn’t that in love with him and so thats why I’ve been sticking around for a year and I’m serious about her and willing to wait longer. On her myspace her status thing is set to single and only changed once a few months ago. There is no real indication that she even in love with him.
When we hung out in the past and I became closer she never spoke of him ever and once called him “just a friend.” They have a lot of up and downs, but right now they seem to be fine and so I’m really sad and hurt. This happens to me all the time btw like every summer with different girls.

I just feel horrible on one side, but the other side I feel hopeful they will break and I will get a chance someday. Again, she really isn’t that in love with him and I don’t see how after a year of dating she ever will be.

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hockeysticksgir offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Cherry Hill, NJ, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

im sorry but its time to move on.
you should go out with your friends
and try to keep your mind off of her.
meet other women and just move oon.

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Fever Dream offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

What the hockey chick said. . .

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Jinx offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

seriously, you need help with your jealousy problem.
i don’t want to be rude, but it sounds like she really likes him
I don’t know your age, so I can’t tell you if this is just a kid crush or if it could be something a little more serious.
But you have no right to say that she won’t love him eventually, it doesn’t matter how well you know someone, love is unpredictable.
Instead of being jealous of her, be happy she’s happy.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Thanks..but that doesn’t really help me feel any better.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

I really hope you’re wrong Jinx.

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Anonymous #
3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

I’m 20 btw.

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hockeysticksgir offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Cherry Hill, NJ, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

love hurts.
im really really sorry.
if you want to try something else.
tell her that you genuinely love
her, and if she doesnt respond with i love
you too…you definitely have to move on…
but be warned…the truth may be worse then
you think!

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Jinx offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

I know it doesn’t help but think about it, if you heard someone say what you said, wouldn’t you feel a little disappointed in that someone?
It’s like that saying “if you love someone, set them free, if it was meant to be they will come back”
at 20 you should know that you can’t control love dude

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*lilies offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 794 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

I could not help and my words are not perfect. But i feel for you.

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Barbieh offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 47 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

jealousy has been, at times, one of my greatest problems. the person i love has tried to move on several times, and whenever i find out i just feel so terrible. but you know, you eventually get used to it. forgetting about your problems isn’t the answer… accepting them is.

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Matt. offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks after post)

Really man i been through this before and it sucks i feel you. You feel like your last on her list but every time she breaks up with a guy hoping your next, but not. Yes it sucks it hurts. Shes always nice flirty and stuff but when it comes more than that it suddenly changes. She will learn someday that nice guys are better than jerks. But till then i would change your attitude towards girls and still be looking. Nothing last forever.

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An Unknown Location | 1 week, 4 days ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

I hope it works out for you. I’m in the same situation right now.

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1 week, 4 days ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

rrh150 wrote:
I hope it works out for you. I’m in the same situation right now.

Thanks..that’s nice to know.
Tell me about your situation if you’d like?
Otherwise good luck to you too!

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