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Hi it’s been a while since I been on - how yall going?

I’m not sure why I’m on.
i’m feeling a bi down - I’ve just had a lot of different things happening right now and I hate my job and i miss seeing my friends
people are suprisingly different from who you think they are
sometimes i feel that i’m the more dependent one in a friendship - that i’m the one who will chase up for a meeting and be desperate to see them again and they’re happy with just letting me be.
yeah yeah i know it’s just a big whinge for me but i just need a release **** it

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Mas1st offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 737 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Sometimes people dont contact you first if the signals you are giving out are that you are sorted and busy and well etc,,…. Maybe time to make some calls, tell people you miss them - laugh about it but dont be shy. It is very possible that the front you have put up is too convincing and people really dont think they can crack it - Regards Mas

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Itchen, M4, GB | 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

:)
im Good
and yeeah arragea a big picnic or something :)

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Mas1st offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 737 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Oooooooooh - you have so bumped into the picnic expert - I’m the Jamie Oliver of picnics - but better, better, better - Mas

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Mas…how does one become an expert on picnics (sorry this just really caught my interest for some reason!)?

But back to the actual post. I really don’t think the situation here is being dependent, people are just lazy. Seriously, I know it sounds like a stupid reason, but it’s the same reason people don’t stay in touch after high school. We all say we’re going to, we all really want to, but does anyone ever pick up the phone to make the effort? Everyone knows, everyone’s gotten new friends and I don’t know if it’s because that’s intimidating or that we just don’t know what’s going on in other people’s lives. But make the effort to see your friends! Promise it’ll make you and them happy.

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Mas1st offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 737 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Well here is the thing - imagine one of your friends from high school invited you to a picnic - no special occassion - just a picnic - where you all met up again.

Now I’m going to explain the reason that picnics change lives so copy and paste this:-

You get big warm fluffy rugs/blankets quilts and you dont be mean, it may get chilly and people need wrapped up.
You buy some candles as your picnic may last longer than you thought
You make sure your picnic is in a calm zone - water nearby is good as long as no-one there has a tendency to get drunk and jump into water.
You make the food finger sized and you make it tasty - this may not seem like a big deal but the better you feed anyone the better the mood.
You encourage others to bring food and drink with them.
You make sure there is music that you all remember from your years together - an Ipod and some speakers with batteries can do this.
You take some old photos or even a game of Twister.
You make your picnic something that will never be forgotten.
A lot of it is location but the most of it is all of you remembering - works a charm.

Dont be shy - pick up the phone and dont be put off by busy schedules. Even if your picnic takes 6 months to organise this will give you time to practice cooking your delectable finger food - sorry what was the quesiton - I’m off on a picnic rant again.

Picnics are the best days of your life - did I mention that? - Mas

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