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My girlfriend broke up with me after nearly 2 years,

she said it wasn’t fair to me that she can’t give me the time that I deserve, we still talk everyday as if we were together, we still say “I love you” when we get off the phone, and if we’re together we will kiss, call each other baby, and when she leaves we kiss and say I love you. The day after we broke up she brought me lunch to work. When she seen me she started to get upset and I asked her if she was sure this is what she wanted, and she said she didn’t know. Later that night we talked and she said she thinks she just wants to try for this now, and yet we still continue to say I love you and things on the phone. She came over today before school and acted like nothing was wrong and like we would any other day if we were a couple, I asked her if she missed me at all and she said “Yes I do” and i could tell by the way she looked at me that she did. Before she left I asked her how long we were going to do this, and she said I don’t know. I walked her out to her car and she kissed me 2 or 3 times, and said “I love you” 3 or 4 times, and said she would call me before she got to class, and after school, and that she’s coming home to see her mom later this week, and she’d see me then. She moved in with her sister to college, and we usually only see each other friday-sunday, and she said when she is home she wants to be with her mom, and thats why it’s unfair that she can’t give me the time that I deserve. I love this girl very much, and I want to have hope and hold on and wait for her to come back, but in the back of my head I wonder if she’s trying to spare my feelings, Should i have Hope?

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phuckit! 73 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (24 minutes after post)

this is a tough one! you two need to talk. It is not fair for her to keep this up if she doesn’t want to be with you.

this is a tough one! you two need to talk. It is not fair for her to keep this up if she doesn't want to be with you.

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sillee 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

The situation you two have there doesn’t seem very much like you’ve broken up. It seems like you two still want to be together, but you don’t seem to know her true feelings. Lay everything out on the table, talk about it. Clarify what you BOTH want out of this relationshipp.

The situation you two have there doesn't seem very much like you've broken up. It seems like you two still want to be together, but you don't seem to know her true feelings. Lay everything out on the table, talk about it. Clarify what you BOTH want out of this relationshipp.

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betta 2 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 3 months ago (2 hours, 53 minutes after post)

My guess is that it is as she says, she has gotten it in her head that the relationship is somehow unfair to you, so she has “broken up” with you. This state of limbo in the relationship is obviously not good for either of you and I think you need to talk with her about how the relationship is unfair and console her that you are willing to tolerate whatever it is. Perhaps someone has convinced her of this or she does not really want to break up with you. If she really wanted to break up with you and wanted to spare your feelings she would not continue to kiss you and tell you she loves you etc.

My guess is that it is as she says, she has gotten it in her head that the relationship is somehow unfair to you, so she has "broken up" with you. This state of limbo in the relationship is obviously not good for either of you and I think you need to talk with her about how the relationship is unfair and console her that you are willing to tolerate whatever it is. Perhaps someone has convinced her of this or she does not really want to break up with you. If she really wanted to break up with you and wanted to spare your feelings she would not continue to kiss you and tell you she loves you etc.

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (5 hours, 17 minutes after post)

PULL AWAY/MOVE ON. Dont call. Dont pursue.
She wants space/time- give it to her.
The only way it will work is if she misses/wants you and then returns/commits.
To keep limping along like this - kinda pitiful. I should know I’ve been you before.
Do yourself a favor — LOOOk at the truth….do what you have to do to keep busy/honor what she said she wants…and then, maybe, you’ll hve a chance.

PULL AWAY/MOVE ON. Dont call. Dont pursue. She wants space/time- give it to her. The only way it will work is if she misses/wants you and then returns/commits. To keep limping along like this - kinda pitiful. I should know I've been you before. Do yourself a favor --- LOOOk at the truth....do what you have to do to keep busy/honor what she said she wants...and then, maybe, you'll hve a chance.

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