Love help: I think I’m in love with a married women.

mulligan

I think I’m in love with a married women.

I’m single, never married, no kids and am 38. I don’t know how this happened, I’ve never done this before. But I met her at work, I’ve been there over 12-years and she was a recent new hire - same age. She’s not even been married a year yet, but right away something went off. Started hanging out at happy hours, then we’d talk, text, and email all thru the day and some at night. Next thing I know it just takes off. She said she’s never done this either and is torn up about it - but it just can’t seem to stop. Says she loves her husband, but….I’ve never met anybody like her, we are two peas in a pod. And it goes w/out saying, she makes my knees weak just looking at her. I know what needs to be done, but saying and doing are two different things.

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tricky 25 #
Joünié, 05, LB | 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

i agree on the last sentence ^_^ other than that am against it all ^_^ lol

Help me with: hey everybody i will start with am very sorry :(

xNA 182 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (6 minutes after post)

ooooooo, you got yourself in a bit of a pickle there ha’nt ya? gosh, i read about these kinds of things happening in story books…
so, what ya gonna do?

mulligan 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

yea, this really sux. i wasn’t exactly looking, at a time in my life i just wanted to focus on me and take care of some things - then bam. i don’t know, i didn’t know it, but i guess i’ve been waiting for this person my whole life. deal is, it’s the same on the other end. we’ve talked about it over and over and agree all the time to make it go away - but it never seems to. i’m really going try and make an effort to do better - gunna need need the big man’s help and i ask him for strength every day.

xNA 182 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (12 minutes after post)

well, it’s gonna be well hard if you’re working at the same place, seeing each other almost every day…

mulligan 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

yea, that does create a problem. it doesn’t help when she says she knows it’s wrong, but it doesn’t feel wrong. he’s an alcoholic and is wasted half the time, i’m sure that is part of it.

xNA 182 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (19 minutes after post)

oh right, so…is her relationship with him good?

mulligan 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (23 minutes after post)

it’s pretty good, when he’s sober. but she says our connection is just different that theirs. he certainly doesn’t provide the intensity and passion we have. oh well, timing is everthing i guess. i just missed out. but somebody up there is jacking with me - prolly my buddy who passed away 17-years ago.

xNA 182 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (26 minutes after post)

lol, oh well. at least you know what you gotta do.
i better be off now, all the best to you. cya.

Mako028 14 #
Beaverton, OR, US | 3 months ago (35 minutes after post)

NO, NO, NO, NO.
Just nip it in the bud right there, man. No way, nuh-uh, not something to mess with. There is no profit down that path.

zaphod 5 #
Erie, PA, US | 3 months ago (44 minutes after post)

She is married. But still, you can form a friendship with her. It is up to you. If you are strong enough to bear it. Friendship can be better than marriage. Just remember this… 1/2 of marriages end up getting a divorce. There is hope yet!

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Anonymous #
3 months ago (3 hours, 54 minutes after post)

STOP. DONT. ITS A TEST.

Here’s the deal: she is ‘off limits’ in God’s economy.
You keep at that, pursue - you are sowing bad dark seeds. You’ll see.
You keep yourself under control, then you will not only be rewarded, but rewarded TONs with the woman of your dreams who IS available.

I believe that this union cannot be blessed as long as there is deception and cheating going on. Not in a judgy way (beLIEVE me, I’ve been where you’re at)….but in a howtheworldworks/rightvswrong way.

Sorry it sounds like you’ve already messed up big time. If not — GROW UP. Get a hold of yourself. HAve some discipline/maturity/decency….unless thats not you.

Anonymous #
3 months ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

She is married. I don’t think it would be a good idea for you to still be working at the same place as she is , beacuse you have feelings for her. Think what is right…even though it will end hurting someone…

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