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Why do i hate everyone, I feel really depressed :(
I cant help it, i hardly have any friends! I can pretty much just look at someone and hate them. I want to make new friends but i cant help hating them, i always find something to hate about them. I’ve had some really bad expeiences and even though i’ve moved on now i think it’s made me so i just cant like people, i really do try though, even my sis has tried introducing me to her frieds but i cant help hating them soo much! Most of them are really phony anyway but i still do try. Is it just fact that most people are *****? Sounds really stupid but whats some good advice on making real friends? I’m starting to feel really depressed and i don’t have much luck finding the right friends
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Hate is a natural feeling, just like all the rest (and we all feel it sometimes) - hate is also connected to love (two sides of the same coin), so it shows you have a lot of depth of emotion and feeling. Thats good, if you use it in the right way.
The first thing to do is accept you have been hurt - and you may have hurt people in retaliation. You cant change the pask - but you can work out how you can change things for yourself for the future. we are all capable of changing - and we have to do it all through life (kind of what its about - learning, growing).
If you put your barriers up before you have got to know someone - and feel hate towards them, then they are going to pick up on it, and back off from you.
Work on trying to feel positive about yourself, see yourself as a valuable, decent person and let the other people come to you to be friends.
You could try getting involved with something in the evenings - a club / hobby / sport (great for getting anger out!) - if its something you are interested in - you will meet like minded people there, and maybe make a friend? You could try Martial Arts?
I know is really hard making friends - I hope you get there soon.
Theres a website that helped me when i was feeling down: http://moodgym.anu.edu.au
Its free, and can help you work through your feelings/emotions and mood.
This was really good. Truth is simply this and I hope it helps someone: Hate and not liking people is from with-in. That means YOU. Yes, I know, people (many of them and sometimes it could be argued most) are basically self-centered and average. They do not rationalize or care about others’ feelings. This is the core problem here. So, what can you do?? Easy. Do not care and react or feel towards these people. I’m talking about the ‘look’ or the ‘response’ you got that you didn’t like. Another day it might not have bothered you. So this is dynamic; not static. That is to say, not forever feelings that come with these thoughts. You MUST like yourself as it projects outwardly how you feel about others. Those that don’t like themselves cannot like. It’s impossible. How do you make a can of beans a water-fountain??? So, I would submit.. Be easy on others as in most cases, it’s truly not their fault. They are what THEY ARE. And you are WHAT you ARE. Having said this, learn to relax, let go.. breathe in; breathe out — Life will become great again because a TON OF bricks is off your shoulders. Never take abuse from someone, but simply be detached and have sheer apathy for those that you loathe or cannot like.. let it go. LET it GO! It’s such a release!! and go and try to love yourself and do what you can to try and not make someone feel worse than their pathetic existence might otherwise lead them to be! I wish you well friend. I’m sure some will flame ~ some won’t. The real thinkers. I want you to be happy ~ so go! and be happy. LET it GO! Now there you go …..
If you are depressed, people will do anything to hurt you, ignore you, put you down, humiliate you or damage you in some way. Ironic really - when you most need help is when people will want to hurt you the most.
That’s why you hate them, because they are arseholes basically!
Anyway, the solution is to get happier, then they won’t hate on you so much. Then you don’t have to hate them back.
i kno wot its like i h8 evry1 too…. some ppl i can just never forgive for what theyve dun…. especially mi bruv
Depressed people are sad (pun intended). If you hate everyone, take it out in something productive mate. Challenge someone to a game of something (like tennis, not a duel to death). Don’t take pills without a prescription. Oh, you hate phony people didn’t read that. Well so do I…hypocrisy IS annoying. If you want to deal with it…well you could make fun of them behind their backs…but you don’t want to make them feel depressed. Ignore them. Find a tight bunch, and stick with each other. Treat the others politely (extra politely if pissing them off makes you happy, and if they can cope with it and deserve it). You’ll find a couple of rebels who don’t like BSing (e.g. Yours truly). Not that I want to be your friend. Not that there’s anything wrong with your friend, I don’t hate you or anything…your just weird. Heard that before? Ignore it.
i hate everyone too. it controls my life and i hate it. i want to change, but i dont know how. i sometimes have thoughts of hurting people. i keep havingtjid reoccurring nightmare that i am dousing a group of transients with gasoline while they are sleeping, then setting them on fire. whoa. where does this come from? maybe i have been hurt by loved ones when i was young? i cant understand it please give advice. thanks.
I feel the same way, I guess we all just have to find something we like about people because sure there are flaws within all of us, but if we focus on the good then we’ll be happy I think:)
I have a similar problem! I always come up with a reason to dislike people, even if I’ve never met them before. I guess I’m afraid of being hurt, and I just don’t know what to do. I have few good friends, but it’s getting disarrayed. I’m avoiding people at all costs for this reason.
Dude, you’re not alone. Im a misanthrope myself… Everyone around me.. well.. basicly sucks ***. Even then people that’s trying to help me are failing. I’ve realized that im ruining everything for myself just by being who i am, like you…
i have no solution for this sitiuation yet, my girlfriend is on the edge of breaking up with me becouse im impossible to be with. I hate my life…
I just hate it…
If i had a gun (or some similiar object), i’d end my misirable existancen…
Not that you should do that!
NO, I bet that you still have alot of **** to live for.
And please do, for the ones who coulden’t cut it…
We’re quite a few
i hate everyone today and i still do but i get over it and just say ‘freak it’ i only have a few friends but that’s enough for and i get rid of those who judge me and because people were judging me i hated eveyone but i got so used to it i decided not to care
I have the same problem! Try to accept people. If that fails determine who your best friend is and hang out with them all the time. Try to get close and be a friend. Also, be nice to everybody.
Ok some of this so called advice is annoying! why should i care about other people when they dont give a **** about me? It doesnt sound like most of you hate people you are just afraid to get close to them. Its to the point where my husband wont even take me to the grocery store anymore because everytime i go i try to rip someones head off. People are stupid, annoying, get in the way, and think they know everything!! Just random people. I hate humans as a whole they dont have to do anything to me. I know its terrible but i can look at a child and my first thought is dunb ****. Does anyone have advice, aside from the obvious dont go in public?
is there any way that we all can be a happy leaving everything behind , making new fiends , but now where are good friends , i really don”t think there are such human beings left in this world , so i keep my self alone rather then someone play with my heart and me ……
Why dont you just get some weed, that will solve all your problems in life! smoke some pure cannabis and just forget about it
I used to have that problem but then i stoped smoking pot
if you do smoke pot and have this problem try stoping for a while and see if it changes.
This is true because marajuana is a depressive (you might feel happy stoned) but thats not the point.
Also dope slowly gets rid of youre social skills wich will make it almost impossible to make any friends.
hope this helps bud
i am the same. i hate everyone because i find reasons to for i want them all to go away but they never do! stupid *****, ******* jocks, the trashy trailor trash who are all wanna be goth people for i am a alter ego. jane doe
I was just thinking to myself today..right now in fact, how much I hate everyone..and it just seems to get worse over time. I can still be polite to people
I meet but really, I couldn’t (email removed) care less if they lived or died. I don’t have any answers to this problem because I haven’t figured it out myself. It DOES make me feel a little better to know, after reading all of these posts, that there is a lot of fuked up angry hateful people out there, just like me..This brings a quote to mind from WATCHMEN..”Why is it as time goes on, the darker things become? but when we stop and think about the past, even the bad times, seem all the brighter?”
i hate everyone too
its basically how we are treated when were young.
ive tried REALLY hard to go positive and all that bull**** that people try to tell you.but the truth is if a dog gets mentally abused or physically abused it will be scarred forever and i think thats how humans work also.
Sorry for the Grammer.
I was thinking today. Everyone on here should just die because you’re making all the happy people (me) pissed off.
Take some LSD then come back on here and tell me if you hate everyone.
If you still do then go ahead and kill yourself.
**** You *****…..
i think you may have Antisocial personality disorder just like me…i hate people and i get depressed sometimes….you should really try and search that up…
I feel that exact way and can’t seem to stop! Some times it makes me depressed to tears. People just irritate me for no reason and then for every reason on the planet, yet I too only have a few friends and find it hard not to hate them too sometimes. It’s so weird. :(
this is really old but I will reply for future people.
the question is do you hate yourself?
if you hate yourself you may not be able to make friends.
I also see a running theme of trust. learn to trust another being.
hate is usually tied to fear, you might hate spiders because you fear them.
once you get to understand people you might not be as afraid and learn to trust them.
all people are just about the same in this, they require food, clothing, shelter, and love. over that, just about everyone has some quirk that makes them interesting. have casual conversations with people get to know them. have interactions with people through a group activity, you may make a friend within that group.
whoa.. I feel the same way… except I have friends I hang out with, probably the only ones I don’t really hate, but outside that, I hate everyone.
Just read the entire thread and not sure how many noticed that every one here hates everyone, this here on this forum reflects what is out there in the world, HATE HATE and more HATE… you were not born with hatred, but the surroundings/situations in life influence you to be a certain way and to heal you will need to be away from the TYPE that irritates you, but here unfortnatley its almost EVERYONE around that does, so sadly there is no getting away hence this feeling only grows stronger, but my experience tell me it can and will change in the time to come and who knows may be the person who started the thread is already feeling different about himself/herself, this changes when better ppl surround you, and when those around you are truly be liked by you, and this isn’t such a rare thing, all you need to do is just wait a while!
I hate everyone too. even people like me. all the words they say sounds stupid. i hate the way they talk I hate the way they look. and if they say something to me (specially if they comment my clothes or behavior) i just wanna kill them. I want to yell **** you! get the **** out of me. and so on. I dont know what to do. I’m trying to think positive smile and be friendly but it’s so hard inside of me
I have decided to just be socially isolated until and unless I find someone (it probably would be pure luck) real and authentic(or someone finds me). I have requirements for such a person: they have to be free from at least emotional defensiveness. My “test” for emotional defensiveness is, if someone asks me a question, any question, even “How are you”? I will say “I hate questions”. If they make a judgement that is a criticism, ie “I was just trying to be polite” etc., then I would say “If you were really trying to be polite you would have been more considerate than demanding my attention by your intrusion upon my privacy”. If they laughed there is a possibility of further communicating, but if the question was a power play to begin with, ie if they wanted to FORCE me to PAY ATTENTION to them, this proves they are ego controlling. One other possibility is that they are just robotically saying questions, but even then it is a vicarious or virtual ego power play for my attention. So, again, if they resent my anwer to “How are you”, ie “I hate questions,” then I leave their “company” before I even allow them to vicariously, virtually or actually provoke me any further! The bottom line is that I prefer to be with me than with anyone toxic.I am convinced that just about everyone, even (or maybe, especially,) family and friends, communicate with symbolic violence. They judge, compare and criticize and provoke. You might try to state that I, too am judging, but this is the difference: I am reacting to their REAL invasion, with the actual, physical noise of their voice, it is a real imposition, distraction in and of my privacy, so it is instinctual, intuitive, instead of a judgement of any kind. Perhaps most people are even unaware that this kind of symbolically violent communication IS bullying (maybe it can be blamed on everyone being on “auto pilot.” At some point people are RESPONSIBLE for their auto-pilot-flying-through-life! Their anesthetisation and obliviousness may be cruelly SUBSIDIZED by those of us who are bullied. I think some people have been emotionally, physically or both, hurt so much and so badly that they have had their “outer” tougher “skins” peeled raw so that they only have a vulnerable core left. Maybe this is what makes me so sensitive to being bullied, but instead of taking it anymore, I am declaring war on all of you intended bullies and you “bullies-by-default”. It is about time you began to have human empathy instead of “tough’ enough skin to “take” whatever comes your way. Perhaps others, ie those who have a tough outer skin, can feel or “see” this vulnerability and it whets their predatory appetite, or maybe it just scares them, because maybe all bullies, even the robotic kind, know deep down, instinctively or intuitively that they are part of the problem, because they would rather to provoke those who are vulnerable some more rather than RISK becoming one of the vulnerable ones themselves. Being socially isolated has its “perks”. Since I have CHOSEN relative isolation, I get more, and better quality sleep, better restorative resilience, maybe because with more and better quality of sleep I am able to have wonderful dreams, and maybe even a better immune system. I swear my skin looks better, younger than ever, even if only I get to see it. I can be a kind of “celebrity” to myself, a “family” to myself and a “best friend forever” to myself! I enjoy my food more than ever before, and I am free from worrying about “what other people think about me.” Instead of wasting all my ego energy on “what others think,” I use my energy to write about why I hate everybody! It may be tough for others to do likewise because I am older (62) but I wish I knew when I was younger (like @ 30) what I know now! I know some will say I am terrible to give this advice, but blame the moderator for allowing it, and anyone who complains, you are one of the bullies that is in the group that I hate. Now if someone CAN make me emotionally defensive (go ahead and try to even make me physically defensive, I love a challenge) maybe you will say you will “pray” for me, or that I need god, or a good (hah!) man to **** me, remember any such comments are judgements and that is why I hate you in the first place. Now if anyone can communicate without judgements, comparisons, competitions, etc. by just making declarative statements about themself, then I am all ears!
Honestly….its becouse your wanting to make yourself a better person….eventuly youll become devine…and only the after years nad painful anguish and growth will you be alowed to kill them for the great good…and yourself for shame of coexisting on this plain.
I find that I dislike certain things within me that it seems to me create this feeling of hate towards others… I get sick of everyone very easily and I find it difficult to make a deep relationship with someone simply because I cant be ****** for them… It seems the problems are within me although it is never completely one way or the other… I have problems with myself and society has its problems as well… These two together are reasons why I, you, and many others have the same problem… Hating most people you meet or see.
The human mind is beautifully and sometimes painfully complex… Understanding it allows you to harness it… Good luck.
I hate everyone too. I wouldn’t worry about that feeling too much, hate is not a wasted emotion, but love is most of the time. I am a very secluded person myself and dare anyone to try to invade my space or come into my life. I hate them and they are not welcome around me.
I hate everyone too.I always feel like if someone pushes me to far i’m going to just loose control, But just a bit of advice don’t try to change yourself i tried that and i felt uncomfortable as hell. But if you want to try that i’m with you. and when you get used to it its not that bad. What i do is read and ignore everyone else except i don’t ignore my family and my teachers i don’t want detention i hate being in school a lot as it is its a *****. if it doesn’t work just do what i do grab a book and ignore them you’ll get used to it
I hate my apartment neighbors for playing loud music at 12 to 4 in the morning. Im to nice to go overthere and bash their heads in with a sledge hammer and i get irritated that i dont do anything about it. I hate people because when i hang out with them, they judge me for the things i tell them about my past. People always say, “except me as i am or not at all”. No one seems to except me for who i am and how i became this way. Indead people just judge me.
The few friends i have, are annoying because they reflect my anger. I cant make friends with the people i want to be friends with, because im to negative. I am only able to make small talk, knowing that if i say to much, people will judge me as they have in the past.
I actually have got to the point in my life where yes, my mouth gets me into trouble constantly, and I no longer give a toss! Most of you people are probably Virgos like myself, and we are natural loners and that’s OK. Who says we have to like others and socialize? I, tolerate people, but I will NOT invite. I have chosen to distance myself from all past friends, as I have lost faith in all human kind, after an experience that sent me inward…but its OK! I like it.
After 42 years of life, I am my best friend, because I know what I like, what foods, hobbies, drinks, etc, etc and what I don’t. I do not need to please others, if that’s what you think it’s about, sorry, you will always be disappointed and have a lot of unnecessary expectations on your shoulders. Do we really need that?
I really, truly think that if we can find our own true happiness, (e.g-meditation, beach, garden) without others, without expecting others to bring some to us, we may find life aint too bad, because how others are (ridiculous, selfish, egomaniacs) has nothing to do with you at the end of the day. You do not ask people to react a particular way, it’s their choose. We can only be responsible for the way we react - or is that respond?? Big difference. Most lame people REACT, but if you have reached pure contentment with oneself, you will find that you will just RESPOND or not respond at all.
Try and reach your own true inner happiness, you will find a power within you never knew you had. It will take time and practice, but we all have it! I am still on my path……Peace and lovex
Answer: Easy. You hate everyone because people absolutely suck. Yes, you might be depressed, yes, you might have your issues (who doesn’t?) but the fact of the matter is…is that humans are trash for each other and toxic to the planet on the whole…there are some awesome and amazing people out there, but unfortunately their numbers are decimals in comparison to the nuts and the assholes running the show. Look at what teachers, social workers, activists, etc. “make”…and then look at a coke fried alleged human aka George Bush (who could totally sell his so-called brain as “previously owned, never used”) made in terms of money and continues to make…there are so many people that I love and who are amazing, but if you really want to see what’s up, just check out a history book…the sooner our ***** get wiped out, the better for the planet and every other species, including our own…
it was called yellow
Maybe you should stop judging others and focus on yourself. Who are you to place judgment on anyone? you should be ashamed of yourself.
People who say that the thread starter is bitter are just delusional.
People are ****** up individuals and should be killed for the sake of the normal ones.
Unfortunately there are more ****** up people than cool out there. Sad.
I found that I’m really isolated from everyone at school..
it seems really hard for me…and i don’t know why i easily get anger or feel negatively to everyone, everything they do..i hate it all ! I can’t get along with them well, as i see most of my friends have a great friendship with each other. Even though, i tried enough to be friendly to them..they keep walking out from me!!!
I came home crying almost everyday…m stressful…and i needed help!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh! and I always lost things around me like new friends etc, some of them always try to take everything from me……..I have nothing right now..I have no sense of doing things especially focusing on my study!! :(
COULD ANYONE GIVE ME REASONS WHY? AND THE BEST WAYS TO TACKLE THESE PROBLEMS????
It is ok to Be Different. If you can’t make friends your obviously different. People hate different people. Your wants, needs, expectations will never line up. Why waste waste time trying? There are 7 billion people on this planet. Someone has to think similar to you. The key is not to try to hard at first, however you need to be socially excepting of all people at first (so they know you exist). Then weed them out 1 by 1. hopefully after 50-100 people you should maybe find a keeper person. Use this person as a network (I know this kind of sounds lame). But here is why…if you find one person who thinks like you the chances are his/her friends will already be very similar. It only takes 1 person to connect you to rest the world.
I hate most people too but it is not healthy even if they truly deserve it. Be reflective of people you like/trust but also keep it real and you should be ok. Don’t let someone use you as a footstool. You have other value. It’s just that people can’t see it yet. Maybe someday I will like people and they will like me but I’m happy that I’m so unique and that no one likes me. It means that I am not a cookie cutter :) This is how you attract people. You must radiate this confidence even when you feel hopelessness and despair.
I truly couldn’t agree more. I find that I have given up on the world and would be thrilled if the world ended tomorrow. People are so greedy, self-absorbed and fake that I’m already too disgusted before anyone could possibly make a case for themselves. I trust no one. No one but me because only I can make myself happy and only I know what I need to survive.
Human interaction is trivial in my opinion. Find a higher calling. Take up some religion and prey or meditate. Use the internet to scratch the communication itch rather then wasting your precious time tying to find someone who is just gonna leech on, take what they need or want and then bail.
Paint, read, write. Cry, laugh and most importantly be that person who doesn’t give a shiz about what anyone else might think. Take a long walk in your P.J.’s and laugh inside at all the weird looks you get. Let go and give in to inner peace and be happy with yourself above all things. Be the light that everyone wants to gather around but is inaccessible to anyone you deem unworthy.
I do to. Even scrolling through these answers I see people saying how they hate themselves and want to kill themselves or they’re like, “Omg so unique I’m a misanthrope, wow people are so dumb” and I just even think I hate them. Even you talking about, “like, well I’ve been hurt in the past so it’ll totally happen again.” I even. Hate. You. But, hell, don’t worry I hate myself even for being so judgmental. I cry and complain about how much I want a friend, but I just. hate. every. one.
fortunately, everyone on these post can go to hell and burn! seriosly lets all go and meet the ****** Devil! lets all go and grab a gun because we hate ourselves and everybodys’ existance! what mother earth really needs for us to do is end the human race. Guys dont you see! we are the ****** problem! So come on whos’ with me? LOL.
Oxys help. When you are so deep in pain and hate then it may be the only way to reconnect , with opiates. We are living in a ****** up existence and feeling so much of others pain that physical painkillers can end up being the only way back in. I know there’s better ways like when you can be with the healers and the cleansers, but when we are filthy and disheveled from the human wars that’s when the chemicals can lift us out of this emotional gutter. And only if we use them wisely and with intention can we move up out of this slime trap and it might even be the way to start the journey of becoming the awesomness that could be. But yeah I’m high right now. Don’t make it less tru tho ;)
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