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I’m so tired of crying myself to sleep every night over him.
I try my hardest not to bother him about the stupid little things I care about. I try my hardest to make him happy, to make him laugh. I try not to let it get to me that he doesn’t show his feelings as much as I do, because hey, he is a guy, and guys do that sort of thing. It’s just so much harder because I have no other friends to turn to. I’m under so much stress with school now and I just need a friend to talk to and to listen to me, and sometimes it’s too much for him I can’t put all of that on his plate its not fair to him, but God I’m just so tired of keeping everything inside. I’m sick of being afraid to go to sleep every night because I’m afraid I will have nightmares or have to think about what went on that day. I just want to be able to cry on someone’s shoulder. Ugh this is pathetic I’ve already complained about that before. I just don’t know what to do anymore all I can do right now is cry. I haven’t slept in so long.
Is there anybody out there? Can anybody make me laugh?
i hate how guys do that, not telling how they feel. my bf is the same way. he was raised to keep it all inside, like i kno he loves me but im so insecure that if i dont feel that he does, ill spend the nite crying thinking he doesnt car, not calling, or texting back. maybe u should vent and let it all out for him. it’ll make u feel better, bc thats the one thing u really want n ur not letting urself, adding to the crying and being pissed
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Heh well sorry but i can’t make you laugh :PP
but i can give you some advice!
Well if you are that dependant on him, you should consider creating a life of your own and progressing your mind so that, god forbid, but if anything does happen and you two end up separating, you will be able to lift yourself up and carry yourself in time. Focus on your school before him! Try participating in some sports of clubs at school because you can usually make friends there.
At one point, i focused on my girlfriend so much that i ignored most of my friends and stopped doing things with them. After a while i realized that it was rude to treat them like that and if she were to break up with me, i wouldn’t have them to fall back on anymore
(puppy’s a good idea too :D)
So, to sum it up, try to do things to take your mind off him…and for the record there are some guys that are open with their feelings about their partner heh
xmoonlightbeauty wrote:
i hate how guys do that, not telling how they feel. my bf is the same way. he was raised to keep it all inside, like i kno he loves me but im so insecure that if i dont feel that he does, ill spend the nite crying thinking he doesnt car, not calling, or texting back. maybe u should vent and let it all out for him. it’ll make u feel better, bc thats the one thing u really want n ur not letting urself, adding to the crying and being pissed
I’m in the same exact predicament as you. But I can’t vent on him because I’ve done it too much already and now every time I try to tell him how I feel he just gets so mad saying he has heard it all before and he doesn’t want to hear it again, that he is tired of it, and I don’t want to call him in the middle of the night again and rant and ***** and then he is in a bad mood. It just makes me so sad to type that out loud because it hurts just thinking about it.
do u think its worth it if he doesnt even wanna hear what u havta say or even jus try to make u feel better? how long have u been together
chrisgregorsk wrote:
Heh well sorry but i can’t make you laugh :PPbut i can give you some advice!Well if you are that dependant on him, you should consider creating a life of your own and progressing your mind so that, god forbid, but if anything does happen and you two end up separating, you will be able to lift yourself up and carry yourself in time. Focus on your school before him! Try participating in some sports of clubs at school because you can usually make friends there.At one point, i focused on my girlfriend so much that i ignored most of my friends and stopped doing things with them. After a while i realized that it was rude to treat them like that and if she were to break up with me, i wouldn’t have them to fall back on anymore(puppy’s a good idea too :D)So, to sum it up, try to do things to take your mind off him…and for the record there are some guys that are open with their feelings about their partner heh
Thank you, That’s exactly what I want to do. I know what my problem is, but I don’t know how to fix it. There aren’t really any clubs for me to join and I have such a hard time makin friends. This guy is the only guy I have ever been truly open with and I’m just so scared of being hurt. Believe it or not I am more independent from him then I used to be. But someteims it just gets so hard and I need someone else to talk to. I know it can’t just be him, it’s not healthy.
I want to say no but I’m so scared of getting hurt. And I am so upset right now but usually the next day everything is good between us. We have been together for 3 years and we are open with each other about everything (well except for this obviously). when it comes to me telling him how I feel I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells
what do u like to do.. maybe take a dance class or yoga or something jus to get rid of the stress.. i duno if ur like me but i danced for 12 yrs. i dont nemore but when im feelin bad about nething i can go in my room blast music n jus let go. it really helps
since uve been together for so long. maybe its like a habit to be with him, like its part of ur life and how it should be, but no one in the universe should make you feel like that. u should be able to say to anyone how you feel when u wanna say it. dont run your life based on him like oh i duno if i wanna do this or say this bc it might get him pissed but u really wanna do it… do it. if he doesnt like it and cant support u then its not worth it. some guy is out there who will be perfect for u. listen to everything u havta say, and give u a hug when u need one, not shun u away
xmoonlightbeauty wrote:
since uve been together for so long. maybe its like a habit to be with him, like its part of ur life and how it should be, but no one in the universe should make you feel like that. u should be able to say to anyone how you feel when u wanna say it. dont run your life based on him like oh i duno if i wanna do this or say this bc it might get him pissed but u really wanna do it… do it. if he doesnt like it and cant support u then its not worth it. some guy is out there who will be perfect for u. listen to everything u havta say, and give u a hug when u need one, not shun u away
This is what gets me though, he only gets mad at the stupid things I’m upset with =\ everything else though he is there for me
amen to the eggshells thang, ive been with my dude for 3 years, and thats the only thing he always has issues with, it turns into an argument every time i try to tell him something, anyway, good luck hunny. stay strong!!
Yeah it doesnt sound like he is the right guy for you though heh, your partner should be someone you CAN talk to. And everyone is scared of getting hurt also. Its natural! I don’t know if he’s the guy that you can open up to…only you can tell that hehe
thats the thing.. he shouldnt think even u for that matter, shouldnt think how u feel in any way or what u think is stupid
if u think what u think n feel is stupid, whats left for you to be “not stupid”
hope you’ll have more self- respect then you don’t have to vainfully satisfy other people just to gain their affection…
If you’ll learn to value yourself more, you’ll shine above the others…then they will be the one asking for your attention…
I wish you’ll find some time for yourself and some peace of mind…
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I so feel your pain as I sit here crying about my boyfriend. I am so tired of crying over him, about him. I love him very much. We get along so well together and we have an awesome physical relationship. He makes it so hard sometimes. So very hard. I am so tired of crying.
i feel like your pain is so small compared to what some are going threw .i live with the father of my daughter and he ***** every girl he see’s and although i left him i still have to live with him and it hurts like hell but what i realized is there is no changing a person unless they want the change .im not trying to be an *** but i picked my self up i cried a lot of tears and i told him the only time ill cry over him is if he is hurt. and you should do the same .i know how you feel i have been there but girl life goes on and it may seem like the end of the world but atleast you dont have to be connected to him forever if things end . and atleast you know what its like to feel love . i just think you need to really think and talk to him . he wont open up its not how he is .but that doesnt mean he shouldnt listen .let him know you just need a helping hand and dont expect him to open up .
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um my advice to you is to stick to school you need ur education not a boyfriend okay thats my advice to ya and i am a little youger than ya but i am willing to be u guys friends and ur right boys ar insecure but hay what can we do but ignore nothing so my advice is to stick to school you are very pretty ladies and also young too live ur life be single it doesnt matter have fun with ur life
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