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Boyfriends mother attacked me
hello there. I need someones mature advice. Well my bf went on vacation and during his depature it was his moms birthday and I called her and wished her a happy b-day. Well so my Bf is on vacation and his birthday was on a day of his vacationing days. So I called him to wish him a hapopy b day as well so when he got back from vacation I bought him a birthday card and a present. HIs family was there and heliked the gift he went up stairs to go to the bathroom and his mom freaked out on me out of no where shes says my name and she goes u forgot me u couldnt get me a birthday card??????? I felt extremely guilty that I completly forgot to get her a card. I thought the phone call was far more important than a card boywas I wrong I got verablly atttacked and I felt extremly powerless I got up and hugged her and said that I was sorry and she giggled. So I thought she forgave she. I guess I was wrong. Being the person with a big heart I felt extremly crappy so I went out and bought her a birthday card. I told her that I bought it for her and she blasted me dolwn she said because she made an inncident I ran and got her a card she told me I forgot about her and that I shoulld give it to her next year. Because I forgot about her.
Next morning I wake up I go down stairs to say hello to her and she said Hi and I told her that I was going ot go and do my makeup and then leave right so. Right after she storms up the starirs in front of bf and says I want to talk to u. SHe frekaed out on me. Totally I didint see it coming she said that she felt humilliated that I went out and bought her a card right after she brought it uo she feel like I dont care. also she saod some real hurtfull things in front of me and since I care about her and her son I let her speak because I dont like to fiht or cause any seens she made me feel so low and She also said that quote on quote I dont want u to think IM a ***** but what I did was makes her son look bad. SHe said that I dont know alot of things and either do my parents she said that all my parents do is sleep
Keep in mind my moms ill. SHe said u went out and bought my son a gift and couldnt get me a card. Why not. Hey look Im sorry I tld her that IM humna I make mistakes and I forgot and I told her I called u atleast. SHe said thanks u so rudely. SHe goes when it was her daughters birthday when I went out with u to buy her a card I had to remind u t buy her one. Its not like I don’t like them but in my upbringing we dont buy b day cards because its a waste u throw them out any way I did’nt say that she goes u dont konw alot of things and she thinks that Im not for her son after for the past few years we had an amazing reltationship and this stupid incident triigerd her 2 blow up on me. I Guess the truth and her true colors came out. Keep in minmd shes like u know how may girls mothers come up to me and want to be with my son like shes trying to scare me or something. Ant how I was crying all day infront of her and he conforted me he kepted on holding me. He told me that he loves me and I have a really god heart and said that shes upset because of things that I continue to got and I still dont get it after 2 years. Petty little things like i rinsed out a dish and there were some crumbs left over in the sink and I didnt clean that up so she called me down stiars pointed it out to me and said if u do this at ure house then do it but when ure here I like it clean. I said uh huh. I left. I told everything to my bf and he got upset he didint know what to say t o me i was to busy crying because IM a good person I didnt mean any disrespect towards her when i bought her the card so she took it the wrong way. MY bf told me to take more innativtive and do things and stand up to her.HE said she just wants to see change and she hasnt seen much and shes blown up.ANY how IM going to let this go and prove to myself I can do this. Has nayone ever been through this and if so how do I handle this in a mature way.
Got attacked again ( 3 days later)
Hey guys . I Just got off the phone with my bf and his mom finally confronted her son about this situation he feels like hes in the middle and he doesnt understand how a relationship so mother and daughter like would turn out like a battle zone. He told me that his mother thinks that im not the one for her son and that she thinks that I’m slow and that I’m not capable of taking care of others. She also told him that she thinks were not a good match prior to this she was talking very highly of me by saying that I am the one for her son etc. I told him that yes I make some little petty mistakes and she makes a mountain out of a molehill shes always in control of everything when it comes to her kitchen she doesn’t let me do anything in there. I told my Bf that I feel so confused from someone that says that they love me as a daughter to turn around and tell me that I’m not for there son. Well I told my how I felt and I told him that I felt like talking to her by phone. He called me a chicken **** and grow a back bone. So I decided to make another stupid mistake for following my heart to call her. SO Stupid Jenny calls the butterfly with silver teeth.
I called her I told her that I was going 2 keep this conversation short because IM tired and that IM not going 2 keep her on the phone that long I told her somethings that I screwed up on like I was so upset from listening from what my man told me. 1 I told her that I am so confused from someone that told me they loved me like a daughter to someone who told me about all of that stuff the other day. I also said that I felt like she always takes the lead in the kitchen and never lets me do anything then she made a hurtful comment by telling me that IM slow and it seems like IM sleep walking. She said ure 30 something years old and there are somethings that u don’t know that other girls do know she begun to compare me to her daughter and her nieces I said well of course I can learn she said she shouldn’t have to tell me about these thins and that I should already know because of my age. She feels she doesn’t have to show me she said for 2 years I correct u and u still don’t get it. She started on me like she did with the first attack she was going on and on about the card and how I should know about these things u dint know because of ure parents she said even though these are little things these things mean a lot to her. I asked for a second chance ans she said nope. J u and my son are 2 different people. She started again with the u know how many women want my son blah blah blah. She said I don’t if u and my son are going 2 get married but that’s up to u 2 not me. She made so small again and I hid in my shell. I couldn’t think straight. So instead of calling my mans cell I called her again and I said the f word not realizing I called the wrong number and I dropped the phone. I Must of called my mans cell so many times. NO answer he told me b4 he let me go that he was going 2 sleep and that I shouldn’t worry and stress so much. He said u guys got into a fight. U didn’t get into a fight with me OK.
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