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Is there a way to ban or negatively tag a person, because this Amy60 is proving to be a very unkind person.. Anyways,
I’m afraid I can’t really say, and I don’t think anyone else can either. It’s a complicated situation and I just hope you find a new spark somewhere and work as hard as you did in performing. Don’t fret too much over it, I’m siding with those who said to be happy, you do have a clean slate. Best of luck.

people can be reported via the red flag right on their reply.
than the moderators look into it asap.

i reported amy60.

reported. We are here to help amy, not to criticise.

If something truly is your lifegoal and you keep working on it, I am convinced that at one day things will fall into place.

However, that may not always be as you first expected.

If I look at myself.

I am a very creative person and performing was my dream.
Singing, acting, whatever, as long as I got a stage and do something beautiful up there.

However, I did get a few small options but not the big thing. And it got too me.
Also because I just didn’t know what to do anymore.

I got involved in various industries and held various jobs, some with great career potential, but I couldn’t care less. And I decided to take a risk.

With the knowledge and network I gathered over the years I managed to set up my own biz and things seemed just to fall into place.

I know now it isn’t like that and am figuring out a new path again, but I am getting more and more closer.

Ok, so what am I trying to say with this rant?

Try to stay close to your feelings, find ways to see where you can do your thing.
Look for ways to combine it. And somewhere along the line you’ll get that option to get you further.

And one day, you are there where you want to be.

Don’t give up, but also don’t forget the bills have to be paid.

Live has a tough road, but it is a very interesting journey. =)

To speck:

Sometimes we put our life and soul into one thing in our lives only to suddenly discover that we were heading in the wrong direction all the time.

The important thing is to look forwards. You have made some plans for travel and are learning new skills.

You would be a highly unusual person if you did not shift direction at least a few times during your working life. You are still young enough - it’s fine to explore what else the world has to offer you. And you’re too young to limit yourself permanently until you have done some exploring.

There is nothing stopping you returning to performing later if you decide that that’s right for you after all.

One thing I have learned along the way.. beware of making a passion your profession. Suddenly you no longer have a passion and the “must pay the bills, must get to work on time” end up destroying the fun and the creativity. Maybe performing was meant to be more of a passion than a profession? Think about looking for a different profession which allows you time and opportunity to continue performing but without the pressure? That way you may rekindle that lost passion.

Good luck.

Beautiful words Mums.

You also just got me a bit inspired again. =)

Speck, I think that you are asking this question because deep down you are not sure which way to turn. If you were sure that performing wasn’t for you, you wouldn’t be asking. You sound torn and confused and understandably so. I believe that we all have a specific purpose for being here and our desires and aspirations always tell us what that is. I don’t think that you would have gone as far as you have if performing wasn’t your calling. You mention a love-hate relationship and not having found the success you expected, and there lies the frustration and disenchantment. When we start measuring what we love to do by a level of success we expect to achieve by a certain self-imposed deadline, we loose focus, faith, and inspiration. You need to focus on loving your work and finding the greatest joy in performing for the people and connecting with them no matter where you are and or how many people are there. That’s where the magic lies in the unfoldment of your dream. You need to fall in love with performing and not the success of performing because you have no control over that and you have no idea how your success will play out for you. You have to have faith in yourself and convince yourself that you are worthy of all blessings. You know, sometimes when we decide to quit too soon we will never know the great things that were lining up for us. I don’t believe any effort is in vain. I do believe that sometimes things take longer than we expect, but they surely never fail to come. Always remember that the main difference between success and failure is persistence.

Speck,

Ss I read your story and reply I can really relate.
Often have the same doubts.

What keeps me going is that with everything I do I know a little bit more of what I want to do (or absolutely not!).

Take a look at your talents and passions. If you combine them all together you might suddenly see other options that can give you that ‘fulfilled life’.

Good luck. =)

*As I read…

Speck I won’t try to convince you of anything because only you know what’s’ best for you. I am only going to give you my perspective. You are in your mid twenties and I am 42. I went to college and graduate school and spent over 10 years working in the healthcare communications industry doing a job I never loved. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy science and I am very good at it, but it is not what I love. But I did all of this because I was thinking about success rather than what would really make me happy. I should have followed my instincts and pursued the arts. I should have become a musician, but I never pursued that until much later in life. I finally left my corporate job recently because I could not continue living a lie and deny myself the opportunity to do what I love. Through music I discovered that I truly enjoy writing and graphic design together with making a difference in other people’s lives even if just a little. I am not making any money right now doing any of it and I don’t know where this will take me, but I am not going to give up and go back to my corporate job because things are not moving fast enough. I don’t care if I am just writing for one person, I am still happy and content to do it. I know in my heart that if I stick to this without attachment to any outcome things will happen. I don’t know when or how, but they will. It makes a huge difference to work because you love what you do than to work to be successful, you have to work twice as hard you don’t get where you want to go because your heart’s not in it. This also affects other areas of your life because this kind of situation does not help you learn to love yourself.

The point is that no matter what we choose to do, there is a lot of work and waiting to see results so you are better off doing something you love. Going from one thing to another is never the answer. Take sometime off, choose what you love and make a commitment to see it through. I promise you that you will eventually succeed. This is the perfect timing for you to do this. Listen to your heart, you already know the answer.

Good luck and many blessings to you.

Mayra. I am not the poster here but thank you for your inspiration. =)

Thank you Miskat, you are welcome:)

spec, thank you for your feedback and best of luck with everything!