Family help: Recently I joined a Christian youth group. - Help.com

parents are always looking out for thier kids. doesnt sound like they are keepin u from hanging with the group. just trying to reassure themselves that your keeping your eyes and ears open for possible shiftiness is all. if they rag on them its just because they dont like the idea of outside influences on thier kids and tend to mock what they dont understand. invite them to meet these ppl at some function.

I used to go to an Evangelical church, lots of young people there, and it was a great crowd and atmosphere! Sounds like you enjoy it just as much, which is good =)

Your parents are likely just worried about you. They don’t want to see you get hurt. If it was up to parents we’d all be wrapped in cotton wool safe from any danger!

Explain to them that this youth group is what you want, and that the people will not hurt you. Your faith is up to you, as parents they should embrace that. They proberly need a good kick up the backside first!

The attack on christianity would be part of the same thing. They don’t want you hurt, so they are trying to stop you going by any means, making out christianity is not a good thing. Politely tell them its *your* faith and you can decide, if they go attacking it, ignore them. Just in a nice way, they are your parents afterall, they want whats best for you, even if they get it wrong sometimes!

Don’t take it too much to heart.

If you are happy with your new friends, then that’s great. If you are happy with your beliefs, that’s great too.

Try and “translate” what your family are saying into what they would probably say if they were a little wiser, more experienced, less fearful….

What they really mean is most likely “we love you. We worry about you. We don’t want anyone to hurt you. Sometimes we hear bad things on the news that make us fearful. “

Try and turn the focus away from matters of faith for a while and see if that reassures them a little. Here are some examples:

Instead of “Billy is a great Christian. His faith is incredible.” try “Billy is a good person. He helps the homeless at a soup kitchen each week.” When your family can relate to the person .. then you can introduce something about that person’s thinking. “Remember I told you about Billy who helps in the soup kitchen? He is going on a religious retreat this weekend”… and then faith can become a topic of conversation a little more easily.

Gently, gently. It’s always the best way when you want to convince someone who is afraid.

It’s ulterior not alterior.

I have a niece that went through a similar time in her life. Her parents worship money and took it hard when she began getting involved with a church. Of course she was in with a group that was evangelizing in the dangerous areas of a big city. Then she dropped out of college and went away on a mission trip. She finally returned to school and has followed a less radical (though still religious) path. She married a boy who doesn’t care much about money, and they’re both happy, while her parents are having to just get over it.

I worried my parents too, and went through a bunch of different religious groups. Now I don’t go to any church, and I see numerous problems with religion in general and Christianity in particular.

Your parents will worry, which is part of their role, my advice to you is just make sure you respect them. If they see that the faith community you have become involved with is improving their relationship with you, they will ease back. It’s not like you’re having sleep-overs at a priest’s house.

sansceriph wrote:
I have a niece that went through a similar time in her life. Her parents worship money and took it hard when she began getting involved with a church. Of course she was in with a group that was evangelizing in the dangerous areas of a big city. Then she dropped out of college and went away on a mission trip. She finally returned to school and has followed a less radical (though still religious) path. She married a boy who doesn’t care much about money, and they’re both happy, while her parents are having to just get over it.

I worried my parents too, and went through a bunch of different religious groups. Now I don’t go to any church, and I see numerous problems with religion in general and Christianity in particular.

Your parents will worry, which is part of their role, my advice to you is just make sure you respect them. If they see that the faith community you have become involved with is improving their relationship with you, they will ease back. It’s not like you’re having sleep-overs at a priest’s house.

Amen, Religion is the followers.

this is prayer requeast and i will pray with you ok