guy help: i feel so weak and i can’t stand up for my self i’m

oceandeepdar

i feel so weak and i can’t stand up for my self i’m

18 years old guy and i’ve always felt that i’m a push over people walk all over me and i don’t say any thing it’s not because i’m afraid of them i’m just afraid that i won’t be able to say the right thing that would defind me i can’t share this feeling with any one cause every body will plame me and say the very popular phrase ( stand up for ur self and be a man ) i wish i can be that guy the guy who’s cool and brave and doesn’t care about any body but i’m not i care about what other people think and i fear facing them and i think they feel that so they pick on me even more .

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Da-11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

You need to work on your own self esteem.

You do need to “stand up for ur self and be a man” even if you think you cant do it. Force your self to do it even if it does not feel right.

Its like eating something you don’t like, hold your nose and just do it. As time passes it will become more natural.

And if people are picking on you already, what’s the difference if you say something wrong and they pick on you? Their already picking on you.

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

oh, well caring sbout people isnt a bad thing.
and i dont like most of the ‘cool’ guys, they are normally very mean to people.
dont start being someone you aren’t.
but its not good for you to let them do that.
i suggest that you just tell them to shut up.
you shouldn’t care so much about what people think about you…

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

thank you all for ur words it really help me alot and i agree with you and thanks for caring and no i’m not gonna change

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

thats great.
i get made fun of, but its because of kinda the opposite…
i stand up for me, and all of the ‘nerds’ and such.
and i think that i perfer that then them getting made fun of to.
if you dont mind me asking, what do they make fun of you about?
its ok if you dont want to say.

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

it’s only because i’ve been a shy kid since i was a littil boy and not so social and may be they think that i feel that i’m better than them that’s why i don’t talk to them

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Da-11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Its more likly that you are an easy target, and many people are A-holes.

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

maybe you should try just talking to them?
like say ‘hey’ whenever you walk by them…
ask them whats up, or whatever?

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

i guess u’re right but it’s hard for me i don’t know why

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

well you dont seem to have a problem talking on here?
do you think if you talked to more people on here that you might have more confidence?
it seems like that might be an issue…
:)

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

what do u mean?

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

like… you seem to have a lacking confidnece level…
and i was thinking that if you started to talk to more people,
it might boost that… and then you wouldnt have such a hard time.
?? or maybe not, idk.

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

u’re right u know i do have lots of friends but i feel ashamed to tell them what i’m telling u here and i know that they would be very supportive but i wanna do it on my own cause if i tell them they would stnd up for me and that won’t help me much it’ll make me feel worse

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

well, if you really talked to your friends, maybe they could help find some ways to get up your confidence?
and you seem nice enough, i dont see why anyone would have a problem with you.

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

oceandeepdar #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

thank you so much u really made my day and i will talk to my friends not all of them just my best 2 friends and my proplem still on but u really made me feel alot better thank u so much

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sweetheart101 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

aww!
lol your really nice, and i know i probably didnt help much, but i am here if you ever need to talk ( i am a better listener than advice-giver, lol )
and yeah, i think its better not to tell all your friends…

♥amanda

Help me with: i could use some advice… i cant stop thinking about my ex bf.

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