Person help: I am a very quiet person and shy person to talk too and please can you give me all the reasons why this would affect communcation with others. - Help.com

uggghh, I used to be so freaking shy.
I hated it.
I had a crush on this kid when I was in fifth grade, and I couldn’t even give him the eraser I bought him for valentine’s day! I was so pathetic.
Once you get over being shy, life is so much brighter! And I didn’t realize it until I was in eighth grade.

People can confuse shyness and quietness as arrogance or racism. Some may think if you don’t speak loud then your are not worth listening to.

Sometimes the awkard silence makes it hard to communicate with somebody shy!

it cld b coz some ppl r wary of quiet ppl coz like the sayin goes its the quiet 1 u gota watch out 4

Because if someone talks to a shy person and the shy person does not answer back, it makes other people feel awkward. I also used to be like that when girls wanted to talk to me. I was way too shy!

Yes and no. It depends on the person. You have to remember people have been taught different things, so don’t assume they understand that you are acting shy.

oh well that explain y ur quiet n shy then coz of ppl like that u shuldnt take no notice of ppl who (in ur words) wants 2 exploit u there just d***heads

spiritedsoul wrote:
really?
did u talk louder and stuff?
did u suddenly make friends by doing that?

i guess thats true littlenick!
why would it make things awkward?

Well, I kinda HAD to start talking louder.
I always spoke softly, and no one could ever hear me.
I wouldn’t be able to have a conversation. The other person would just always say “what?” cause they couldn’t hear me.
I didn’t suddenly make friends..It takes a little while.

Example of different people? or how people are taught?

In your avatar pic you look so outgoing! I would never guess from that pic that you’re shy OR quiet! Whatever your state of mind was during that pic - try to recreate it :)

Chameleon wrote:
In your avatar pic you look so outgoing! I would never guess from that pic that you’re shy OR quiet! Whatever your state of mind was during that pic - try to recreate it :)

yeah, I saw that too :D

I’m still shy. Not as much, but still shy! Now I try to be more outgoing, but reserved.

ppl like that shld get a slap my best advice 4 u is 2 learn 2 stick up 4 urself then u want b that shy or quite theres a name 4 those ppl who follow u n that is BULLIES n no1 deserves 2 get bullied

Hmm. Try not to overanalyse things - especialy the bit where you plan out future conversations before they happen and worry that what you say reflects badly on you somehow. Oh - and realise that a lot of people are in exactly the same boat as you and have just as many problems talking to new people - which is the only real reason why no - one realy talks to complete strangers.

spiritedsoul wrote:

erin wrote:

spiritedsoul wrote:
really?did u talk louder and stuff?did u suddenly make friends by doing that?i guess thats true littlenick!why would it make things awkward?

Well, I kinda HAD to start talking louder.I always spoke softly, and no one could ever hear me.I wouldn’t be able to have a conversation. The other person would just always say “what?” cause they couldn’t hear me.I didn’t suddenly make friends..It takes a little while.

YES I get this problem!people would constantly ask me ‘what’ the whole time!whats the difference wen u spoke louder?

I hhaaaatttte when people do that to me! but it is my fault…
anyway, the difference was that I wouldn’t be frustrated, the other person wouldn’t be frustrated, and it’s all good!

:J
it really is good to be outgoing!
don’t be afraid of what people think! :D

u shldnt fear mistake there gr8 thats how we learn n grow throu learnin by our mistakes

spiritedsoul wrote:

erin wrote:
:Jit really is good to be outgoing!don’t be afraid of what people think! :D

what aspects are good about it?

you’re not afraid of what people think, you’re confident, people are drawn to happy attitudes, stuff like that.
it’s goooood stuff.