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Should I move back to the U.S?

Well with all of the things happening to my family ( listed in previous posts) I feel like it is my duty to be there for my mom. I’m only in Sicily to attend school, and i don’t really know anyone here, so I can transfer to a school in the states. However the reason i moved out of the country is to get away from the family drama. My brother can’t return because he’s in Kuwait and I’m the only one to be there for my mom ( the divorce will be final in September) I really want to be there but I don’t know if I can handle all of the stress woth my family and my school at the same time. any advice?

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live.enjoylife offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 minute after post)

no girl!!! live your life! your mom is grown, she’ll be okay. its good you are over there pursuing your dreams. i say stay - why go back to all that/for what?

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hockeysticksgir offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Cherry Hill, NJ, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

dont worry about your family.
do what you need to

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*Kayla* offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

well, My mom has always been there for me, and she is really hurting right now, with all of the stuff my dad did, so until my brother can come back ( his term is done in December) I just feel like I should be there to comfort her. I don’t know , maybe I should stay here, it may notbe the right time for me to see my dad right now, I don’t know what I would say to him

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hockeysticksgir offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Cherry Hill, NJ, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

in that case i would stay and wait for
your brother to comfort her. i didnt know
your mom was hurting…ignore my first comment

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itisme offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

I think it is important to let your mom know you support and love her, but you dont need to give up your dreams to do that. I think you have to do what is right for you and that is staying where you are and finishing school. You can still call her everyday and let her know you are there for her if she needs to call you. If you have the money for it you could even send her a ticket to come and visit you

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itisme offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

would it be possible for her to be there away from your dad until your brother gets back?

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*Kayla* offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Well, I do have the money to fly her here ( that sounded very selfish, I don’t mean to boast about my money, sorry) Anyway, I don’t know if she can really handle the change. You see, my parents split after my dad left for our maid, so my mom’s life has changed completely. I’ll try to see if that would suit her though, although she knows little Italian. Thanks for the advice

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live.enjoylife offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

still say no. you are the kid. need to focus on living your life. if she was sick, ok maybe - but she has friends (i’d think)….not healthy to me ..sounds sweet and i understand …but maybe i’m being unkind ….but i think healthier to do what you set to do ….and yeah see if she wants to see you (hi again fyi!) anyway good luck girl we’re rootin for ya!

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itisme offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

live.enjoylife may be right. maybe it wouldnt be a good idea for her to stay with you until your brother gets back, but maybe just a visit would do you both good, for a week or two. that would also make it easier for her not knowing Italian since she would just be visiting.

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cgjl8 offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Hold on, has your mom asked you to come home?

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*Kayla* offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 81 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (14 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Thanks, and no, she hasnt asked me to come home, but then again what mother would? I just feel her pain and I’d like to comfort her. I’m actually thinking about making a suprise trip home, just for a week, to see her. Do you think that would help?

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Should I move back to the U.S?
Well with all of the thing happening to my family ( listed in previous posts) I feel like it is my duty to be there for my mom. I’m only in Sicily to attend school, and i don’t really know anyone here, so I can transfer to a school in the states. However the reason i move out of the country is to get away from the family drama. My brother can’t return because he’s in Kuwait and I’m the only one to be there for my mom ( the divorce will be final in September) I really want to be there but I don’t know if I can handle all of the stress woth my family and my school at the same time. any advice?

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