GET A GRIP!!!! Enjoy. Dont let the spirit of fear take over you girl! (if youre a girl!) If youre at all into God get joyce meyer stuff on spirit of fear. if not - just kick that garbage out of your brain. list things youre grateful for. stick around this website see the fierce problems around and let that go. focus on the positive. volunteer for those with serious stuff in their lives - it will make you feel better plus keep you in perspective. yep sux not being age we were but we’re alive….can you walk? see? it’ll be ok. shake it off, write gratitude list every day…..
All I can say is, death is inevetable. There is no point worrying over something you cannot change!
Think positivally, and put really effort into acheiving your dreams. Make lists of things you want to acheive each day, and that way, everyday is a success! and you are working towards your dreams, so its never wasted time.
Also fill your spare time with positive things, like friends, hobbies, or sport. Don’t give yourself time to worry over death, just concentrate on having a good time! Once you start learning to think positively, you’ll soon put death to the back of your mind.
death is a fact of life, without death hitler would still be alive and so would saddam.
Dont fear death embrace it as a fact of life. Death is something that no one can comphrend and therefore we fear it. Try to no understand if but accept it.. comon your 30 your birthday should be a blast! go out with friends/family have fun. you will remember this day. so go out and have fun!! good luck :D
Ahhh!! I am turning 30 in a month! But death? That seems so far away! And I feel so young! Death is completely unpredictable and a lot of times has nothing to do with age. I know it’s easy to say, but stop thinking about death and enjoy every moment you live. Yay to being 30!! :)
30… well first off.. happy birthday.. but seriously.. you are only as old as you feel. death is not something to be scared of.. its life and everyone you know is born to die… you are only 30 years old… you have a long life ahead of you yet.. im going to be 34 in november… and its just a number..
stop worrying about death as an end… start living your life now… start doing the things that you have always wanted to do… spend time with your friends and family… and just enjoy what you have and what you want…
Thanks… I know it seems silly. Like you, Cosmic, I think I think too much. I’ve been trying to focus on everything else today, you know, work, my family… I look at my kids and I tear up! lol I am really hoping this will settle down in me soon. And everyone is right… you have to not worry about death but it’s the “not worrying” part I’m trying to overcome at the moment. I’m sure this too shall pass but in the mean time, I appreciate everyones help. :-)
I like live.enjoylife’s idea about a gratitude list. It may seem silly at first, but if you make it habit you will start to notice that your focus will be more on what is good about being you right now, and less about worrying what will happen when you get older.
can i tell you something that scares me… and it doesnt have to do with my birthdays… it has to do with watching my kids grow up.. seriously.. my oldest daughter is going to be a senior this year… now that is scary.. because soon, she wont need me anymore… so again.. enjoy what you have.. and forget about the age thing… seriously…
But at the same time, I recognise that its hard right now. I wish there was a switch in our brains that we could just hit to stop worrying
Yeah, my kids are growing up so fast. I realize it everyday and it terrifies me. That was actually what prompted this thought process today, was me making a comment about I hope my kids remembering me after I’m gone. It wasn’t even a real thought until after I said it and then it was like someone dropped a few tons of bricks on me and I’ve had a hard time dumping them. Like everyone, my children are my world.
The grateful list is something I’ve actually I did for a while. I believe Oprah said something about when I was out sick one day a few years back or something and had suggested writing at 3 things you are grateful each day. This may sound simple but when you are fight depression, it can sometimes be hard. So I try to not pick the same three things so that I can ultimately realize how truly blessed I am, even when I am in the darkness of the moment. I haven’t done it in a bit so I will get back to it. Thank you!
The more time you spend worrying about death, the less time you spend living.
take your time and relax… enjoy your children.. take lots of pictures… your children will never forget their mom… even after death.. you are their mom.. that is a special place in which no one could ever take over.. i promise you..
Happy Birthday!!! I kind of panicked about it for a while when I turned 30, too. I decided to throw myself a last-day-of-being-29 party, and I spent the day wandering around some favorite spots and thinking about my 20’s, to say goodbye to them properly. I had some rough years in there, so I was really looking forward to my 30’s. The more I thought about it, the more I was ready to be just what I was–thirty! I gave my twenties a long and fond goodbye, counted down, called my best friend and said “Hello, thirty!!” at midnight on my birthday. A thirty-year old has so much that many older people wish they could have back. Don’t waste time being unhappy with the age you are. When I’m 80, I hope I can enjoy my age and not waste time wishing I was younger. By then I bet I won’t care. So why bother caring about it at thirty?
when you die your not actually dying your passing from one form of life
to another. Your physical body dies and you live in your astral body
and your mental body. You are stored there until you are reborn again
as a baby. This goes on over and over again until eventually you become a master.
At which point your free permanently from the process of life and death.
This is the goal of life. As it were.
Three things??? GIrl - this is spiritual warfare - you’re fighting for your SPIRIT. If you are down (and obviously have the time) you dont LEAVE YOUR ROOM until you are grateful. Pathetic to say but one day I wrote things i was grateful for for FIVE hours before I left the room!! (more of a statment on how dark/self pity/pitiful i can be)….but dont just do 3….do AS MANY as you can….you are protecting/putting out gratitude on each of those things…even simple things…being able to see, etc….I swear - your attitude will shift over time not to write for five hours (obviously!) but to PRACTICE writing and being SERiously grateful for the gifts/blessings you have. WORRYING is like praying for the wrong team/puttin gout all those dark thoughts and fears - its the opposite - so if you know how to worry, you know how to pray in gratitude!! hope i dont sound like a loon!
oh my Gosh i’m such a schmoeboe: and Happy Birthday!!!
lol! Thank you, everyone! I was (am) putting my children down for the night. My 3 year old sang “You are my Sunshine” to me… It was truly one of the greatest moments ever! I am grateful for everything and I know that I don’t even deserve a small portion of the wonderful things in my life. I’m really making a concerted effort to shake this… I’ve cried my tears (may have a couple more) but I will be able to let go of this horrible feeling. Just hearing, well seeing, other peoples thoughts and ways of coping sometimes helps too. :-)
that is one thing I like about this site, it often offers fresh perspectives. not everyone deals with things the same way, and seeing different ways is helpful
live.enjoylife
Cosmic Fool
Radiohead_Phreak
steff
Shie
itisme
byrdie
spiratec9