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Well I think she’s being a little immature if she’s just shutting you out for no apparent reason if you just asked her to call you. That’s no reason to get freaked out about something. If she’s going to be like that let her cool down, you guys have a lot of oppritunity to spend time together after all you described so don’t stress too much. Maybe if your families throw like a BBQ or something you can pull her aside and be like “hey after this you wanna go grab some ice cream?” Something like that. But in any case there’s no reason for her to be all weird like that just because you asked her to call you if you two are pretty close.

Well there’s nothing wrong in letting her know you’re interested. Don’t even give it a second thought, it’s not like you asked her out in the message. Let it stew a little and maybe try to go bowling or something with a group of friends or do stuff in a group like see a movie so she can see who you really are and be like “hmm he’s pretty funny *giggle*” or something of that sort. If you really would like to be involved in her life there’s also nothing wrong with being upfront and honest with her. If you go up to her and say “hey do you want to hang out sometime? just you and me?” it’ll show that you’re confident and that you’re interested in just it being you two. Hopefully she wouldn’t take it the wrong way if she’s reasonable, but if she does seem sort of worked up about it just toss up “hey if you think this is more than it is, it’s not” and let HER start becoming interested in you. It’s a game of chance she might like you, or she might develop feelings for you or none of the above, it’s up to her, you’ve opened the invitation all ready.

She was probably expecting you to ask her in that awkward moment of silence. Duh, whatever question you wanted to ask over the phone, she probably wanted you to ask then.
That message thing was a bad idea, sorry, I don’t know why you did that… But it’s not too late! Yes, asking her if she will be there during the festival will be a good idea. Maybe (Cross your fingers!) Just maybe, she will add in a question with her response back to you, instead of a single, dull “Yes” or “No”
Well, hope this helps, good luck with her!

Maybe instead of it being a message just make it public and post it on her wall so she doesn’t feel threatened. Be like “hey are you working at that thing that’s going on next weekend? I am and I’m trying to get a general idea of who’s going to be there.” Just try not to make it as if you’re coming on too strong about it.

You can do that, although sometimes coming on strong is a good thing. It shows confidence.
A private message is an invitation for a private reply, remember that.
But, Honestly, I believe either way will work, whichever you feel will be right for you.

Of course, whenever you receive help you have to personalize it to fit your personality, otherwise they will think you are kinda weird…

Of…course… don’t make me say it again! :)
Of course!It will be fine!

why dont you try waking up one morning and sit next to her (you could smell good if you wanted to go all out)….. and ask her about that class that shes taking and youre not taking and you think you should have taken…..

Well, then (this is where it gets fun) you think of a ‘cute little response’ to show your playful side, maybe not something too obvious, but something that will tell her you like her, subtly, but still tell her.
A response maybe like…
“Aw, that sucks, I was looking forward to seeing you! :)” Or,
“Well, you should come anyway! I’ll be lonely!”
or something of your own genius creation. :)

Yw, and good luck.

My friend, I’ll be honest with you. Don’t ever, ever, ask out a girl by sending her a message asking HER to call YOU. Suck it up, be a man, and do the calling yourself. Otherwise it just looks tenative and awkward.

If you carpool with this girl and your families are friends, it’s going to be hard for you to be more than friends with her. Your best bet is to try to find ways to expand your interactions beyond just those settings. Facebook is one way - but whatever you do man, don’t do it halfway. Take a chance and be aggressive with her. You’ll regret it if you look back and wish you had been more bold. Trust me, I’ve been there 100 times.

I’d say send her another message. Asking her about something to do with the festival (Or just any random question you have), or just saying something like
“Awesome, that’s great! I’ll see you there. :)”
Trust me, That sounds scary, but it’s worth it. Girls really like it when I guy is like that, even if your really shy. It’s even more impressive then. If you really don’t want to say that, say something maybe like,
“Cool, I’ll see you there!” Then throw in a question or another statement to continue the ‘conversation’ Anything will be fine, how often she works, how she likes school, her favorite subject, some of her hobbies, or anything else that pops into your head. In situations like these you are open to anything.
Remember though: Being subtle is good, but being forward is better. Combinations of the two are the best. Good luck. :)

I think what the previous person said would probably work the best. If you’re really worried that you won’t be able to get her by herself maybe ask her if she would like to take her lunch break or something alongside with you. It doesn’t have to be serious just give her the idea that you would like to hang out with her and you think she’s cool.

hi i always have been kind a straight forward,,,,you have feelings for her, ask her out,,,like my dad always said you have a no but you can get a yes

Haha, the normal stress, your fine. Girls tend to do that a lot. Could be bad, could be good. Who knows? She could be ignoring your question because she doesn’t like you and doesn’t want a part of you in her life. (Very, very unlikely) Could be she is trying to think of what to say back, chances are, she has realized what you are doing and wants to think of a good response. Third, she has seen your response, and wants you to feel nervous about the lengthy wait, girls love doing that. Making you all nervous and worried…
The second is the most likely, by the way.
Do NOT be worried, or surprised, if she doesn’t respond at all, perfectly normal, perfectly fine. The chances are pretty slim, but still possible.

Slim chance she will NOT respond. By the sound of it, she is interested in you, but it is hard to say.
I’m sure she likes you, but not so sure if she will respond. Girls love to mess with guys’ heads like that.

I’m sure if you just keep your mind off getting an answer it’ll come soon. If you seriously want o know when she’s working you could ask a mutual friend, unless this event has passed.

I think the best thing to do is just to run into her. Coincidences tend to make great conversation.

Tzubake is right, ‘accidentally’ run into her.

Sorry, I’ve been gone for a couple days.
Anyway, if you have until Thursday, think of and write down a bunch of conversations you could have. That way, when you run into each other, you will have something to talk about and not just sit around in an awkward silence. Those can be brutal.

Well, the only thing I can suggest is asking her outright. Don’t make it sound like a date just say you want to hang out at maybe a movie or go to a casual lunch place, where you can pay for her just out of politeness. Maybe take her to an arcade if she’s into that kind of thing. The whole thing is getting out there and asking. I know you don’t want to ruin what you have with her now, but if you want to be more, the only thing you can do is take that chance.

Ah, Tzubake. Right again, my friend.