friends help: Becomming the “Dating Type”… - Help.com

Ugh, ouch. Story of my life honey. I don’t know what to tell you. Guys always see me as their little sister and not their lover. Eventually you’ll find that one that sees you as more.

Maybe you’re like me! Whenever a woman tells you a problem, you tend to give too much advice. I have been told the same thing.

OK. i can answer this question since i went from being the best-friend type to the dating type. a lot of this depends on how you approach relationships with women. early on, a relationship can follow two paths, one is towards friendship and the other is towards dating. you cannot have both, and you need to be pretty clear which you’re aiming for. when you’re dating, if you think you don’t want to continue dating the person and even if you think you might prefer to be friends, you probably still have to end it. people who are dating aren’t generally out looking for more friends.

friends meet casually to do whatever activity it is that they share. they don’t cover personal ground quickly, since they aren’t that interested in it. what they’re interested in is the common thing they do together. friends also measure each other less, since they aren’t judging the other for qualities like long term potential.

a date is a date is a date. you ask someone out on a date, even (and ideally) if it’s just a casual thing like coffee. then you ask them out again. you spend lots of time talking in addition to doing the usual stuff like seeing performances or movies. dates usually have a start and an end, and it’s better not to drag them out too much. about 80% of women prefer that you pay for them on dates - that’s a clear difference between dates and friends going out. if she doesn’t want you paying for her, she might indicate it in a this-is-not-a-date way, and there you go. also, women differ on how early they kiss, especially depending on their experience level, but it can come as early as the end of the first or second dates (or as late as the sixth date, so watch the cues closely.

you can, i should note, turn a friend relationship into a dating relationship. that’s a matter for a whole other entry. anyway, be very very careful about that. because it can easily destroy the friendship.

hope that helps.

i usually think that guys who are impulsive give off a very clear “dating vibe”. it shows that though you may be fun to hang around and talk to like really good friends, you’re also entertaining and an interesting person.

also, show a girl that you are interested in them. it’s a personal rule of mine not to waste much time with a person who’s always beating around the bush. i hate indecisivenes. i know it’s hard to work up the courage, but once you do, it puts your character in a whole new light.

ood luck! :)

*good luck! :D

I have a friend who was always the best friend. He thought he would never find anyone. Isn’t the most attractive cookie in the jar, but as funny as hell. At the age of 38 he found her, he had stopped looking,but there she was. Within 1 year they where married and expecting thier first child. There is always hope Pandora closed the box on that one. Women like to laugh.

ha ha ha!

i laughed. :)