Love help: What is true love…. - Help.com

Yeah. When my first marriage broke up, I thought of all the reasons it did not work for me. I decided that I would rather be alone than not have what I wanted. So I had to figure out what I wanted. It has worked well for me so far. When we get off base, we go back to what we need.
Copy away… that would be cool.

But you did not tell me your thoughts on true love….
does it exist?

Distantdeal: There are no guarantees. Only trust, respect, and hope.

Yes, I did ask him what he needed. His items were a bit less “romantic” He wanted to have time to read the news paper. That kind of thing. Oh, the main one was I can’t be angry at him for something he doesn’t know about, so I have to communicate. He is afraid that I will be mad at him, and he won’t know why. So, I have to work to identify my frustration to let him in on the reason.

My needs are based on respect. If we have kids or not, respect for you partner should always be there. If you have respect, the rest will follow. A common mistake when children come is that parents stop making sure their own needs are taken care of as well. Children should enhance and fill your life. Oh, I have two teenagers, so I do know about kids.

I agree with your saying to a point, especially when it comes to loving children, or other people. But when it comes to your partner, I think it is fair to have expectations, if they are clearly communicated. You can’t give everything and get nothing. Love is about mutual respect and trust, not one sided.

Thanks for responding.

Yes it does. And you find peace in that

I do know that feeling. When I am sitting at work, I sometimes get this tingle in the back of my neck and on my scalp. Then a few minutes later, I get a call or an email. When we got together, we knew, just knew that we were going to surrender to eachother. I am still scared at times, because I am not the trusting sort. But when I was with him, I eventually got to the point to say, I have to go for this. This is my chance to trust and have what I dreamed of. This is the man I am suppose to trust. People who have not felt this, think it is quirky, but it does exist. It is something that you feel from the very center of your core. Funny, he calls me his apple core, because I center him. It started as a joke and became something sentimental. You know I read your last post. You can do this. You need to trust in your own strength. Trust that you are strong enough to carry this weight. Be honest with your feelings and fears, but control them don’t let them control you. She needs to know if she can lean on you. She already does, but she is waiting for something to go wrong, something to snap and for the nightmare to begin. I mourn for my lost innocence. And I still have triggers to my past that take me days to recover from. But he just holds me. He lets me be weak so that I can be strong. You can do this, patience, long deep breaths to your center, and coming here to vent will get you through. (:. Take care and good luck.