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I can’t stop thinking about him.

He’s in my mind day and night. I’m trying to reach him but I can’t.
I have a boyfriend. He loves me to the death, but I care about my classmate. I do love my boyfriend, but the other one is in my mind all the time.

I’m staring when he pass by, I’m memorizing every single word he said and I’m missing him a looooooooooooooooooooooooooot.

Help please.

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samantha..stardust offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Wishaw, V8, GB | 4 years, 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

do you love your boyfriend?

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (16 minutes after post)

i love him, but i think i deserve better.

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samantha..stardust offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Wishaw, V8, GB | 4 years, 10 months ago (17 minutes after post)

why do you think that?

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (18 minutes after post)

iwant to helped in these; agirl friend and some machines to promote our association.
Such as welding machines and chapping machines.
yours MUTEBI,kayunga central zone,kayunga town,kayunga district, Uganda.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (19 minutes after post)

he’s not that good. he’s smaller in age than me and his thoughts is like kid.

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samantha..stardust offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Wishaw, V8, GB | 4 years, 10 months ago (23 minutes after post)

does this other guy know you like him? :)

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Sometimes when we have the best, we’ll tend to stray and take things for granted. When we finally lose the things we used to have, we’ll start to look back and realise that we have just lost something that really mean so much to us.

What im saying is that, u don’t even know your clssmate that well. You havent been that close to him to know him that well. He doesnt even know u as well too. Ur complaining about ur bf cos’ ur giving urself excuses to break up with him. Come on, u already know what to do

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (27 minutes after post)

samantha..stardust wrote:
does this other guy know you like him? :)

he sometimes show me that he cares like staring at me and smile or help me with carring heavy things. he knows that i have a boyfriend, and i think thats the thing which makes him away.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

-deadinthehead- wrote:
Sometimes when we have the best, we’ll tend to stray and take things for granted. When we finally lose the things we used to have, we’ll start to look back and realise that we have just lost something that really mean so much to us.

What im saying is that, u don’t even know your clssmate that well. You havent been that close to him to know him that well. He doesnt even know u as well too. Ur complaining about ur bf cos’ ur giving urself excuses to break up with him. Come on, u already know what to do

i understand, but i really don’t know what to do.
ok if i stuck with my boyfriend i can’t get that guy out of my mind.

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (29 minutes after post)

you’ll know deep down what you want to do..but just to remind you - imagine you have this beautiful frame ok and you love it but one day it fell and you broke it …you put in back together ok but did it come the same as it was befor??? what im trying to say is that if you deside to break up then you feel sorry..things will never be the same , but follow you’re heart be wise and always with an open mind. Good luck babes

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (32 minutes after post)

what about that guy that ur bf doesnt have?

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (33 minutes after post)

-deadinthehead- wrote:
what about that guy that ur bf doesnt have?

sorry?

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (34 minutes after post)

i would just sit down and think - think what i really want…is it worth it to risk breaking up for this guy is it worth it to hurt my bf??

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Rachel Lynn wrote:
you’ll know deep down what you want to do..but just to remind you - imagine you have this beautiful frame ok and you love it but one day it fell and you broke it …you put in back together ok but did it come the same as it was befor??? what im trying to say is that if you deside to break up then you feel sorry..things will never be the same , but follow you’re heart be wise and always with an open mind. Good luck babes

thanks.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Rachel Lynn wrote:
i would just sit down and think - think what i really want…is it worth it to risk breaking up for this guy is it worth it to hurt my bf??

i don’t want to hurt my bf and in the same way i want another guy. :(

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (37 minutes after post)

but wait!! so you are not happy with you Bf hmmmm there is something missisng in your relation…u can either try to fix and talk to you current bf tell him waht you want from him to make you happy or else risk it….take the chance and change your life…but then do not regret it afterwords hun.

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (40 minutes after post)

what i mean is that…whats the difference betw him and ur bf?

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (40 minutes after post)

You are confused!! this happens to everyone…i would give it a try a spaek with my bf and try to work things out so you feel special with him..if it doesnt work follow your heart and Risk it…

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (41 minutes after post)

yes!!

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (43 minutes after post)

look if you are unconftorble with your bf then Risk it., but choose right, think before.think deep down what you really want :)

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (45 minutes after post)

my bf has bad habt, i’ve told him about them and he said i will change them don’t worry, but still. you know he loves me a lot and he can’t say no. he just want me to be Satisfied about him. he have told all the students that i’m his gf coz he was afraid that some guy take me from him.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (46 minutes after post)

i don’t know if i can risk it or not.

that day i was testing him, i told him what if i broke up with you he told me i’ll die.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (48 minutes after post)

he’s so week, and that guy is so strong, i think that’s way he attract me

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (50 minutes after post)

Yes, don’t do it out of madness or u’ll risk a high chance of regreting. U need to know that if this step is taken, u can’t take it back anymore. EVen if u happen to patch up with ur bf, things wont be the same anymore. I used to be in your shoes. I kept thinking that my bf isnt perfect or he doesnt care much…and this other guy tells me that i should be treated better. So, somehow…he lost faith in us and we broke up…Im living a regret cos my (ex) bf is still on my mind right now.

It’s not how he should change and be perfect. NO one is perfect dear. He is right to say that ” be satisfied”. If u really love someone u should really love the person for who he is.

I tried to change mine to be someone i wanted him to be and not someone he is. I regreted for doing this. Its selfish. I want him the way he is but now i cant have him again. I cry to that every night. Dear, just don’t regret.

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (53 minutes after post)

Weak guys are cute….

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (54 minutes after post)

sometimes i think like this he’s with me but i want him to go, but when i will lose him i will need him back.

i will be satisfied with what i have.

ok tell me how can i forget the other and stop thinking about him!!

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (55 minutes after post)

Physical appearances are only superficial. What’s inside (personality) is really more important.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (56 minutes after post)

his personality is not that good, he’s younger than me and sometimes he acts like a kid.

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (57 minutes after post)

It’s natural to have fantasies and crushes on other guys…

How old r u?

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (57 minutes after post)

i’m 19 yrs.

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour after post)

find a new interest. Go out have fun and worry about pleasing yourself instead of the dependent bond you grew in time with ya guy friend. live life with You bf find the things you like most in your bf and focus on them…dont let any setbacks stop you.

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

but he stuck in my mind.

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Work it out to remove him - “out of you rmind hun!!” it will take time but you have to do something about it…

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Tessi offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Its not very easy to stop thinking about someone, give your bf the chance knowing your heart again.

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-deadinthehead- offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Rekindle the love u have for him. Think about how u fall in love with ur bf. Think of those happy times, fun times…think of the good in ur bf not the bad

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small girl offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

i will try to keep that guy out of my mind, but he’s in my classes and that’s hard because i meet him everyday in 2 classes.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

well, thanks a lot.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 10 months ago (17 hours, 23 minutes after post)

I don’t think u should keep him out of your mind! If he isn’t enough for you now then u will grow to resent him (your bf) maybe u shouldn’t be thinking about swapping one for the other but give yourself some time to figure out u and your feelings and wishes.

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