To anyone who’s parents are going through a divorce, I hope this helps.
Well, first I should probably give you my story, so I can then give you my new outlook on life. When I was 17 years old, my dad told my mom that he had found another woman that he had grown “passionately close” to and he wanted to start a new family with her. It took about 10 minutes for my life to crumble before my eyes. I was a senior in high school at the time and my parents are well known in our town ( my father is the owner of 2 golf courses in PA, and my mom is a real estate agent) so when word got out that my dad “cheated” on my mom, and my mom was a wreck, people knew about it and I was made fun of at school. I can’t even tell you how many rumors went around school, that my dad left for my best friend’s mom, that my mom was having a breakdown and she resorted to drug use, that he cheated with this “mystery” woman in our own home. It was the worst year of my life. So, my mom moved out and I had to stay with my dad and finish out the school year. I must note that my father cheated on my mom with our maid Maria, who moved in right after my mom moved out ( try having to live with the reason your life was Hell, it didnt go well)Anyway, I finished out the school year and decided to move to Sicily to attend Culinary Arts School. and that’s where I’m at right now.
So you’ve heard the bad part, but there is a good part to all of this. Throughout the entire thing I had to grow up really fast. My brother is in the Army and he was deployed to Iraq a month before the divorce was filed, and I had to be there for my mom and younger sister. I found that through all of the depression and dread of going to school, I came out a stronger and more knowledgeable young woman. I have thought a lot about the situation, and while I havent come to terms with my dad’s decision, it has raised a few questions about why people do what they do. For instance, if you love someone passionately enough to be with then for 16 years, how does it all change in 6 months(Maria), to where you are getting a divorce? I am a firm believer that if you are really in love with someone ,you can’t possibly fall out of love with them. its kind of like “you don’t know what you got, till its gone”. Also, I didnt understand how my dad could fall in love with someone else so fast. Maria moved in right after my mom left. she MOVED IN! Thats a big step. ( did I mention that they are now getting married) but, through all of this thinking I have done, I realized that you never really know what going on until it hits you right in the face. I know it sound funny, but i had no idea what was going on, ever! I thought i had a perfect family.
So if I can offer any advice, it would be that you should never assume that what you have is going to be there forever. Never take anything for granted. Love with everything you have, and if you have a great family , hold on to it. To any kids out there that are going through the same thing, don’t worry it will get better. I know it’s hard to see it now, but you have your own life, live it, and dont allow your parents destroy it with their problems. I’m here if you need anything. Also, if you are going through a similar problem, it does help to write it down ( thank you wayneandc:) . Sometime your emotions run wild, and you can’t put them to words, so try writing how you feel before you say it, trust me it helps. Good Luck.
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