Love help: To anyone who’s parents are going through a divorce, I hope this helps. - Help.com

Kayla, my parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I am now 22. I wanted to tell you how wonderful your post was…that really would have helped me when I was going through everything. My father worked for an airlines and had an affair with a lady who worked at a rental car place in the airport. I was lucky, they ended up not being together forever. I count my blessings that I’ve never run into her, because it wouldn’t be pretty, and I give you much praise for being able to live with your father and his new fiance. I too believe that if you really and truly love someone then you will continue to love that person forever. The sad thing is that people change, situations change and it can sometimes get the best of us. It is probable that there were aspects of your parents relationship that you didn’t know about…good things and bad things. Regardless, I commend you for being so incredibly strong through such a rough situation. I never regret living through what I did because it made me so much of a better person. It does require you to grow up a little sooner than what’s ideal, but it opens your eyes to a whole new world. A world where you appreciate everything around you, a world where true love is the most extraordinary thing out there, and a world which will eventually lead you to a greater level of happiness even if searching for it might be a little more daunting. My mom should have known better than to get involved with my father in the first place, but she was blinded and now I won’t be. We learn from the mistakes of others, and if all children of divorced parents learned to not make the mistakes of their parents, imagine how amazing this world will be when it’s our turn.

It really seams you are ready to move on after all of this Karla, its amazing how we can look at things so differently when we discuss our probs. My parents also got divorced when i was a teenager, although it was my mum that ran off, i really struggled with this for a while, unfortunately because i was a closed book and really didnt discuss my feelings, huge mistake. I feel by talking about our probs its almost like an affirmation to ourselves and this allows us realise we need to ever change our perseption or procedure on a circumstance. Well done again for helping good post and good topic.

Whats funny, is that’s pretty much my same situation, except my mother left my father. They were together 16 years, and then she found a guy at work and decided that he was better than my father. His name is Roy. She’s been dating him since before they even got a divorce.

Basically, what I’m saying is that I’m slowly learning this too, as now I’m living with my dad and I have to be the woman of the household at 16 to take care of my two little brothers, and my disabled father.
So thank you for confirming what I’m already learning and growing through, and thnak you for helping out in a post instead of asking for it.

Thank you. ♥

I’m pissed at myself that I never got a chance or read this earlier Kayla. All I have to say is that everything you said really touched me and I appreciate that you even felt the way you did here in this post. I know it’s been over two months since you posted this, but still those feelings were real and you know I pretty much feel the same way about everything you’ve said. The only way I can describe it is that I love what you’ve said here, and I’m upset that I didn’t read this sooner.

Hi Kayla. I cant believe how similar our stories are. My name is Kayla too and I am 17 years old. My dad fell in love with another women also and wants to get a divorce but hasnt told my mom yet. My mom has suspected that hes been cheating on her so shes been so depressed lately- its been so hard for me to keep this all a secret. I have two younger brothers and one younger sister and I dont want to lose them. I’ve been so upset lately and I cant believe how one day we are a perfect family and the next everything has changed. Its been so hard for me and I’ve cried myself to sleep every night. I just wanted to tell you that your story truly helped. Im so scared and I feel a lot better knowing that theres so many other people going through the same thing. I know help is out there and I really appreciate it. So I just wanted to say thank you for giving me motivation to move on. I know this is like 9 months later but people are still reading your post and its helping people…like me. So thank you :)

let me tell you, i am 43 and just found out my dad is cheating on my mom and she does not know. i caught him, and he told me he wants to divorce my mom. i thought i was one of the lucky ones, 43 and parents happily married, we still took family vacations with my husband and bother also. this has rocked my foundation. it does not get easier as one gets older but harder as you have only known true happiness all your life and thought your parents would be together for ever. they have been married 45 years and this will kill my mom. i guess i just needed to vent. i found this out 4 days ago and have been a zombie every since. kayla, your words were even helpful for me. with thanks,