ummmmm if hes cheating on you, then you need to lose that dude. You are not to blame for that. If hes not committed to you then you dont want to be with him. He doesnt love you! You dont cheat on the people you love, no matter whos having sex or what! Wake up!
Real love doesn’t pressure for sex. I’m not saying that he doesn’t love you he just doesn’t get it. My advice is to not sleep together until you get married, do not have a baby before that. It sounds like he is seriously trying to muniplate your emotions to get what he wants. It is not too much to ask .. a ring and a vow before.. you know! ANd the cheating thing is all his fault.
What, I stopped paying attention whaen you said that…Ahhhh!!! I cant even say this nicley I am very very very very very sorr y for what im about to say.
Start with “toys”…. small stuff, smaller then his penis. Do it alone or together, whatever makes you feel comfortable. Don’t let him set the pace when it actually comes to the sex. And continue to use lube, just not in excess or you risk getting a bladder infection and/or yeast infection….
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OMG are you serious?? At first i was like awww you were with a guy for 4 years and lived with him for 2 and he waited on you. But then i read the cheating part. Girl please get rid of him its not going to be easy but that is NOT real love (at least not on his behalf). If he cheat then he will continue to cheat even after you loose you virginity
Also I just have to say if you did marry him he might still cheat. Its now been poart of him and it will be hard to stop, it’s not just a matter of the act. TRhere is alot more to it. I’d say move on.
Oh and the cheating is really not nice… and not justifiable… i felt I should add that in, I sort of was addressing the problem listed in the title…
He’s cheating on you…because you won’t give him sex? He doesn’t deserve it love. Of course you haven’t slept with him, you aren’t comfortable with him and there’s a clear reason why.
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This man has got you fooled move on and find someone who will cherish you and RESPECT you because obviously he dont. Btw that is the sorriest excuse i have ever heard. He only cheats because you are a virgin. Why not put the blame on innocent old you. I cant believe him im sorry but hes an A** hole! Sorry i had to get that out
Listen your not comfortable with which means your OWN body is giving you signs for crying out loud. If you cant listen to your emotions at least listen to your WON body. The truth hurts but please listen to us. Im a virgin and im just disgusted… sorry
Don’t rush with it. You can’t force something you are not ready yet to have whether you are 22 or 43. It sounds like you are totally stressed out by the thought of it. If someone really loves the other, will wait and won’t cheat. Your boyfriend might love you in his way but not what you deserve. This thing cannot be scheduled that tomorrow at 10:00pm I will not be a virgin anymore. It has to come from your feelings, your trust, his feelings, his trust and most of all, love and understanding. It will happen when you won’t even think about it. One thing will follow the next and you won’t even feel pain anymore. Physically some women have more problems with the first then the others. You might want to schedule an appointment and talk to your gynecologist. All in all, don’t rush and force yourself to do something you really don’t want to. He cannot dictate it to you the cheating will stop if you are willing. That will never work. Trust each other first, love and respect each other and then the rest will fall into place. :-)
No what kind of AHHHH how you gonna let him cheat on you cause you cant have sex with him, if he cant wait for you thats probably the only reason hes with you anyway!!!!! This dude is playing the F**K out of you what is that all about! he dosent love you! hes nothing but a sick, disgusting perverted a$$hole who deserves to get his a$$ kicked he dosent care about you!if he did he could keep his mind off of his d1ck long enough to realixe that cheating on you is simply disrespectful why would you want to be with this Sicko!!! I hate people like him you should just beat him in the face with raw samon till his back falls out (It dosent make since now but if you do that youll understand) look I dont know you but I dont have to know you to tell you that you are better then this dump this guy!
Thanks alot everyone but I am curious to know who all here, are males?
Also hes probably only with you because you are a virgin… Guys LOVE popping cherries. Listen to Nante and the rest of us. Beatricegalant had some good points but you cant trust him if hes cheated on you on numerous occasions. So that part is out the window…
Im female and a virgin
no offense just wanted to get male perspectives also
Yeah your probably just some kind of sick prize to him.
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onlycurious4u wrote:
no offense just wanted to get male perspectives also
And you got some so leave his a$$ and kick his a$$ thats my perspective.
cokesbetterthanpeps wrote:
Man this guy creeps me out. Cheating while you’re living together is a really, really, really bad sign. Trust me, I know men.
I know you wont listen to me, you will marry him and have babies and he’ll cheat and break your heart. And you will be this dude’s baby-mamma for the rest of your life. You will deal with child support, and visitation, and you will be in therapy forever. But what the F* do I know, its not like I’ve seen it a million times.
My advice is find a man who deserves your best. When you find him, there wont be any pressure or stress. It will just happen, simple and easy. Trust me girl, I’m right. Save yourself a lot of heartache and wait. Sheesh you’ve waited this long, might as well do it right.
Now he said this ^ then i think you should leave seriously lol
cokesbetterthanpeps wrote:
m/38, educated, well employed, tall and handsome. And I have a really small di** hahahahhahahahaha. Seriously call me.
Honestly your Boyfriend is not a nice person I want to clear that up. But sex is a part of a healthy relationship and your going to have to address this issue for your next relationship. This relationship is however faulty don’t resort to violence, that’s not a good answer. But you need to let him know that your not going to take this sh!t from him… and that it’s over…
He is playing with you and with your innocence. Leave the jerk and find someone who would respect you for who you are.
Exactly. Im not trying to be mean but where is your self worth?
so if i wasn’t a virgin do u think he will still cheat?
dstutzbach wrote:
Honestly your Boyfriend is not a nice person I want to clear that up. But sex is a part of a healthy relationship and your going to have to address this issue for your next relationship. This relationship is however faulty don’t resort to violence, that’s not a good answer. But you need to let him know that your not going to take this sh!t from him… and that it’s over…
Key word *next relationship* fine the samon thing is optional, but leave him hes disgusting.
Hell yea!!!!
onlycurious4u wrote:
so if i wasn’t a virgin do u think he will still cheat?
And dont EVER blame YOURSELF for something another person did wrong. That just shows you dont have much confidence and he probably knows that since he was with you for so long
onlycurious4u wrote:
so if i wasn’t a virgin do u think he will still cheat?
Honestly Yes, and if not he would have just left you , but is he cheating on you with more then one girl?
It doesnt matter if it was 20 he cheated point blank! But you can still answer his question
how am i suppose ti know how many or how many times?
but u know what…u guys we are waay off topice here…. i came to ask if there is an easier way to lose my virginity & for some reason we got on the topic of breaking up with me bf & his cheating
lol
Anonymous wrote:
It doesnt matter if it was 20 he cheated point blank! But you can still answer his question
Im just saying, if he was only cheating on her for sex, then one girl who he could have sex with should have beenenough to meet his “needs” but if its more then one he is just a sexual deviant…But thats of course is just in theory he is a loser either way.
because you shouldnt give him your virginity
onlycurious4u wrote:
but u know what…u guys we are waay off topice here…. i came to ask if there is an easier way to lose my virginity & for some reason we got on the topic of breaking up with me bf & his cheating lol
With all do respect, If you are willing to give a guy like him your virginity, then your just not ready for sex at all.
Or you dont have any confidence… You cant expect good feed back with what you told us sorry. But honesty is the key
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I gave an answer to your question… just to be fair…
why do you want to give him your virginity?
cokesbetterthanpeps wrote:
Looks like its anonymous. Everyone says you should ditch this guy and call me later tonight.
hahaha I think you mean Unanimous, I might have spelled it wrong though
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nevermind i’ll do another post on how to lose virginity
Omg please listen to us… he is not worth your precious virginity.
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! No please!!!!
It happens naturally. If you arent comfortable or accepting it wont happen unless he force himself inside of you (which dont sound pleasant to me). By the way it seems as though you want to lose it for his sake not yours…
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