Is it a coincidence or am I bad luck charm?
A little back story: I’ve been trying, for some time, to track down an old friend from middle and high school. She was almost certainly my best friend during the time I knew her and I’ve never been thrilled with the way things fell apart between us. She moved to her father’s place freshman (or sophomore, my memory’s is getting awfully fuzzy on some details) year, she called me a couple of times after that but we didn’t stay in touch. So, I’ve been trying to track down an email address through mutual friends and the like. No one’s ever been able to tell me anything, until now.
(It occurs to me, just now, that perhaps she’s still angry with me and has passed along this bit of information to throw me off, or that could be wishful thinking)
So, I was talking to a casual acquaintance who mentioned that he’d lived in the right area at the right time to have met/known her. I can’t be certain its really the same person, but it’s the right name (more or less) of the right age in the right place (more or less) at the right time. And he tells me, “Oh yeah, I remember her. I think she committed suicide back in high school.” Well, that would be a pretty disheartening reason that I can’t seem to track her down. Aside from that previous note, I’ve got no reason to believe he’s intentionally deceiving me.
If she has killed herself, that makes her the the 5th of my friends and family to do so, and at least the 6th to attempt it. Is that normal? ‘Cause that’s not my understanding.
I don’t know if its appropriate to discuss the circumstances of the others, so I’ll leave that alone for now. Suffice to say, this would be the third (or fourth if you count a failed attempt) that I feel a level of personal responsibility toward.
So, is it coincidence, or do I attract people with problems, or am I intrinsically bad luck? Comments?
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