life help: How much control do we really have over our own lives? - Help.com

I love how you were able to capture thoughts that are elusive. fate (which is destiny) and chance are a compelling duo that I find great joy in thinkig about. I started this quest very young, and actually have had to seek the wisdom of physics, calculus and all of both Einstein’s and Newton’s theroies to continue my search. But does the answer really affect you? since your destiny may be to discover something as though it were simply chance.

Life is all about choices and we all have our own choices to make, maybe the options are slim, but we still get to pick the ones that’s right for us.

Here’s a little prayer I want you to try out hun, it’s called the Serenity Prayer.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Sometimes, bad things just happen - the thing you can control is h ow you react to it. All you have to remember is that “it is what it is” there’s nothing you can change about the situation, but you can change how you’re going to respond. It’s a pretty fine line sometimes, but when you can learn how to control your reactions, you’ll find that the bad things in your life won’t seem that bad as all because you have the ability to observe it, learn from it, and move on past it.

You have control over yourself, remember that.

Well I believe that everyone has free will. But there is your problem; EVERYONE has it. So like you say; you can set goals, take actions, and all the rest. But so can everyone else. Correct me if I am wrog, but I guess a lot of what you want out of life depends on other people, directly or indirectly. So looking at it that way, there is a lot you don’t have control over.

However, thats not to say you can’t influence others; and thus influence your “fate”, or whatever you choose to call it! The most encouraging words I can offer is to be yourself, while doing what you can to help those around you, and your life will work out for the best. That is something I really believe! :)

We often think we don’t have much options.

We feel bound by family, children, law, physical borders, illness and whatever more.
But as soon as we focus on that it goes wrong.

You look at your limitations.

Now you won’t hear me saying: “forget about your children and walk on the ocean”, but you do hear me saying to think what you would do if there were no limitations.

What are your passions, what will you do? Where is your heart truly?
Once you find that out you go look at your current life and see how you slowly can mold it the other way around. Cause you can. We all can do that.

It takes courage, guts, trust in yourself, confidence. It is not the easiest thing to do.

Ok, your reply came in. Other story, but I leave the other one there, typed it already afterall, who knows it fit somewhere.

Though we do not always know the result of an action, to a certain extent we can predict it.

I think it is important to always act in a truthful way. To yourself and those that are involved. When you do that, the result can never go really wrong.

It might bring you a challenge, but probably somewhere deep inside you already knew that was coming.
Intuition is a very strong thing in this.

Just realise that you won’t get a battle that you can’t handle.

Ok, next reply of you came in, we just continue here.

Results. They come. But patience is sometimes also needed. And action.
Do stuff, meet people, get something going.

Look at your plan. What do you want? And what could be a first step to get there.

Ok, enough rant here, hope it gives some inspiration. ‘kat.

if you feel happy as for waitting for fate to come in and do something than be my guest but as for me , i go and try to take what i want from the teeth of fate if succeed it is good , if i dont i try another thing…

I was going from the angle that most things in our modern world are influenced or controlled by someone, somewhere. Even if you never meet the person or people who changed your world. For example someone built the house you live in, someone invented the computer you type this on, and someone gave birth to these people so they could do these things. So much in life depends on other people, whose choices in life can affect the rest of us at some level.
That is my view on where the idea of fate comes from. It explains why you can’t control what happens *to* you, because that depends on everyone else.

You can however, react in a different way, as Fooch said! You can choose to take things well or take things badly.
I also believe Miskat has it right where he says be truthful, especially to yourself.

There is a lot of life you can’t control, but hell, thats what makes it fun! =)

Maybe an odd question, but do you need the money coming out of the sale of the cars?

Or could you perhaps donate them to people or a non-profit organisation that could really use it.

I do realise it is not a cheap gift, but is it worth a thought?

wow. great observation miskat

Ok, it was just a thought, I by no means can say anything about your financial situation.

Well, I don’t know a thing about cars, let alone Hawaii. Not sure if I can help you there…

I do have a lost sales background though. If you want put the ad you made here (without the contact details and such) and perhaps we can see if you could improve it a bit…

Im sure she didnt mean to offend you, just that many of us are very aware of property values and ..we all just assumed .. location location location.. personally, i dont think there is any metaphysical ramifications regarding the difficulty of selling your vehicles.

I did not intend to offend, nor did I assume anything. (thnx scriptease)

It was just a thought.

If it was a possibility it might have been a way to make more people happy.
But I for sure understand it that it is not.

Sorry I didnt read all the responces…This is such a great Post, and I would imagine most people can relate to what you are saying… Ive pondered this sooo many times before and I do have an answer, though it took many years to actually beleive this, if somebody was to tell me of this in the past I would have laughed…So here I go trying to explain my own fate as well as the posters…suspence is good kiddies..I do beleive it is Karma, and I do beleive in reincarnation.. So in answer to your post I beleive our very existance on this planet has to do with an evolution of intelligence, an evolution of the physical and the emotional..as well as the spiritual.. So as we pass through lives, we take on a sort of responcibility for what we created in past lives.. If say we was a theif in a past life, well in our present life we would be a victim of a burglary.. So as to now know what it feels like to be robbed, hopefully learning from this and evolving into a more better human, which then keeps us in more harmony with our soul which is perfect….So in effect, you are right when you say some things in our life are not within us to control, but learn from this life and you will quickly evolve into a better place..Peace

For what its worth I don’t think you should see the car situation as a red flag. You’ve said you need this move, and everything else has come together for you. Sure its a problem, but it doesn’t mean you are making the wrong decision!
People don’t want to buy cars right now, so I guess you could put that down to fate. i.e. Out of your hands.
But if you keep at it and continue on with the move, I am sure someone somewhere will want to buy the cars, and everything will work out well for you. I guess you just have to *believe* it will happen, because positive thinking and hard work always work in your favour.

Most things in life take time. there might not be anything exciting in your life right now, but eventually you’ll see that things will work out! Hang in there!

Everything is in the hands of the almighty except fear of the almighty