you’re ribs might have been broken. Seeing a doctor is the best thing to do.
Here’s a reason not to - your dad is a jerk and he’s certainly not worth you snuffing out your life over. Tell the school nurse that your ribs hurt, maybe through her you can get the medical care you need.
a- its summer
b- we dont have a nurse at school
thanks though
Oh sorry, I see so many posts of kids in Europe still in school.
yeah.. unfortunately ireland is really bad when it comes to helping anyone who is in any way sick.. or wants and education
Well I don’t know what to tell you about your situation; abusive dad, mom that won’t help, injured and no way to get medical help. But I will say that there are reasons to not take all the pills at once. Some day you will be out of that house. You wouldn’t want to deprive yourself of the happiness to come.
yeah.. but, see, I have a lot of other problems, the kind that stick around, the ‘haunt you for life always looking over your shoulder’ type, i just feel, sort of doomed or something,
Can you elaborate on what you mean by “problems, the kind that stick around, the ‘haunt you for life always looking over your shoulder’ type”?
i’ve written posts about them before..
ive been raped and beaten and drugged by a close friend who in fact turned out to be my brother
i self injure, im addicted and i cant stop
thats just the stuff ive talked about before, basically my whole life is bad
Ok, well hang on because when you turn 18 you can get yourself into therapy and get it all sorted out. You just have to hang on. If you ever find you can’t hang on any longer - do something drastic, call a hotline, go over your parent’s heads and save yourself if it comes to that.
Hey man, get connected with a 12 step program, AA or NA. It changed my life and it can change yours too.
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i am in therapy, it doesn’t help, at all, it makes it worse. and im not an alcoholic or a man
Your therapist knows about your father and you’re still living at home????? Or do you not open up to your therapist? Because if you haven’t told your therapist this, that’s a waste - there’s your lifeline right there.
i did tell her, but my parents say to her how ‘bad’ i behave but how im ‘doing so much better’ and that hed never really hurt me and a load of **** that she listens to but she wont listen to me
You said that you are addicted. Narcotics Anonymous is for people addicted to drugs.
What are you addicted to?
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It’s a book on how to manage self harm:
From Publishers Weekly
Operating a clinic in the Chicago area since 1985, Conterio and Lader have developed a program for people who cut, burn and otherwise mutilate themselves. This behavior, in their view, is neither a disease nor an addiction, but rather “a matter of choice… a mechanism to cope with stress, relieve inexpressible feelings, and gain attention.” The authors take this view not to blame the afflicted, but to emphasize that, in their “S.A.F.E. (Self Abuse Finally Ends) Alternatives” program, patients can and do “learn to make a different choice.” This tack differs somewhat from those of some other recent books on the subjectAfor example, Steven Levenkron’s Cutting (Forecasts, April 20)Ain rejecting the disease model that establishes self-injury as a disorder akin to obsessive-compulsive disorder or alcoholism. The line Conterio and Lader draw is a fine one, though, as they refer to self-injury as a “compulsion,” and as the questions they pose to identify a self-injurer includes such phrases as “compulsively drawn,” “get a ‘high’” and “consume your thoughts.” The authors describe an impressive treatment program, using a “toolbox” consisting of psychotherapy, a No-Harm Contract, an Impulse Control Log, Five Alternatives and many writing assignments. In a four-week program with follow-up care, they teach patients self-acceptance and verbal expression as a healthier alternative to self-injury. This is a thorough and helpful guide for patient, loved ones and therapists alike. Author tour.
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Self-injury is one of our society’s fastest-growing and most disturbing epidemics. Bodily Harm is the most authoritative examination of this alarming syndrome and the first to offer a comprehensive treatment regimen. Written by the directors of S.A.F.E. (Self Abuse Finally Ends) Alternatives, it clearly defines what cutting is and explains the kinds of emotional trauma that can lead to self-mutilation. Most importantly, Bodily Harm offers a course of treatment based on years of experience and extensive clinical research; as well as compassion, advice, and hope for the afflicted and their loved ones.
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oh.. well, as much as i wish i could quit,that kind of isnt the point here
I know, I know. Maybe another time in your life… Take care, I have to go to sleep now, up early tomorrow.
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It doesn’t make sense to me that your therapist doesn’t listen to or believe you. I mean - YOU’RE the one in therapy right? It’s just beyond me that a therapist wouldn’t believe a child that says his parents are abusing them.
i know, but my parents are the kind of people that people say are the image of perfection, the couple everyone wants to be, they believe that i overexagerate and that i misbehave and they are cursed with me
But your therapist should believe you. I mean, I can see if it was your mom’s therapist that didn’t believe you, but it’s YOUR therapist. Something is very amiss there. You really need to sort things out with your therapist.
ive tried they wont listen to me!!!! i cant get a different one because my parents got her! i cant do anything about it! the only thing i could do anything about is taking these pills now and ending it!!
Well don’t do that, that certainly won’t *fix* anything. You’ve got good times ahead. How long til you’re 18?
but even then, what would i do? where would i go?
You’ll get a job and move out of your parent’s house.
ill move out but i cant escape this family
Sure you can. Why not? Lots of adults cut off ties and all communication with their family.
they have power and money and they will never leave me alone, not to mention, there are certain members that i cant turn my back on
Well I’m not saying to turn your back on all of them. Why would your parents “stalk” you with their power and money when you’re an adult and just living your life?
because they dont want me to do that, and if i stop going to family events or social stuff people will talk and my parents care about that stuff alot
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because they dont want me to do that,
Don’t want you to do what?
have a life, where im in control, and make decisions, and am my own person
Well you’ll take that for yourself, whether they want it or not. It’s not their choice.
they could make it so i couldnt get a job or place to live, ive seen them do it before
to my sister, to my aunt, to people they work with
Sounds like you’re in a psycho mafia family or something.
no. this is worse, because this isnt some cheesy movie, this is people who have money, power and are evil strict and only care about what other people think, problem is im genetically attached, i want out, the only way out seems to be death.
Well your problems, as you describe them, are beyond my ability to help. But I do know for sure that offing yourself isn’t the answer.
do you know if hospital records are excessible by other hospitals?
No I don’t know. Call a hospital and ask them.
f* it, ill talk to my mom tomorrow, if she still does nothing ill go to a&e, if dads hospital gets word and tells them to send me home, ill do it. thanks for your help
Good luck. If that doesn’t work out, let me know and we’ll talk further.
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