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How about not letting yourself being pushed around your parents might be a good start

it sounds like she resents being pushed into something she did not want in the first place , and that you are more comfortable with arranged marriage, because that is how you were (both) brought up. it also sounds like she was given everything as a child and did not have to earn anything ie. “spoiled brat” (i mean no disrespect, but she will keep on expecting things to go her way, unless she miraculously changes her ways…but that has to be hers and hers alone…if YOU or anyone tries to change her, she will resent even more). if there is no love…how can you be happy? go to your parents house with a couple of packed suitcases (try losing some weight to make it look like you’re not taking care of yourself…this Hopefully will work on mom) and tell them you and your wife just needed time apart and if you could stay a couple of days. if your parents refuse you…go to a friends house (at least your parents know that there is something wrong, and they will not forget). so, if your parents take you in , do something out of the ordinary (like, silence and a look of despair should get your parents to ask you what’s wrong…if they ask…they will want to listen….if you tell them right out…you’ll probably get a stop gap solution and a kick in the behind to go back to your wife. whatever you say…do not talk ill of your wife because, she is as she is (and that’s why you’re both unhappy)) you clash ie. your incompatable with each other so move on and make your parents understand that too. try this a second time and a third time until your parents understand …or you can stay in the marriage and allow your wife to come to you when she needs to, but don’t sit around to wait for that…live your life fully, allowing your wife to share in it without pushing her. if you can’t make-up, maybe she will leave first, taking the burden off your shoulders with your parents. my heart and prayers to you and your wife.

if she DID say yes…what would you do? …could you divorce her?…if so, then divorce her. if you have no way out of this marriage, then accept her “no” answer. stop pushing. jealousy will churn your stomach into bitterness if you keep on obsessing…your “forced” time together will suffer you both…do you want that? let it go, or you’re going to make yourself sick. don’t let this rule you…BE the better person. do something for your wife that you know she would like…keep doing nice things for her…GIVE her a reason to love you, again…you had a good relationship with her before you got married…what happened, to change all that? did YOU do or say anything to her that makes her do the things she does…think about it, and try to reverse it. you have the answers, so stop asking the same questions that you already know the answers to.

ya, that would be great and i ‘ll do the same.

just found out how…i just clicked on the “friends” icon located under your avatar, you can just click on the icon beside my avatar.