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What do you do when you’ve lost all hope?
Without boring people with the details, my life is in tatters.
I’m struggling to see how I can carry on. Has anyone been here?
All I’m after is the strength just to battle away, as I’m losing my inner fight.
I don’t expect happiness, just the ability to carry on.
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I agree, we are here and we’ve all been through periods when it didn’t seem like anything good would ever happen again. Tell us what’s happening and we may be able to help.
Emotions are great in expressing how we feel, but not so wonderful when we let them run wild with our mental psyche! The first thing you must know is that we all allow ourselves to fall into that pit, sometimes over and over and over again. Remember that you didn’t always feel this way! Perhaps you have felt this way for quite sometime, but it only continues now because you’ve convinced yourself that you don’t what to do to overcome it. We all need encouragement when we face adversity and hope springs eternal! The biggest problem is that we seem to dwell on the things that make our unpleasant emotions weigh us down. We become depressed, hopeless, and almost unwilling to make an effort to change our circumstances or to believe that the power to do so is within us. We feel desparate and alone, but in reality we have a whole world full of company! My motto is bless others and your blessings will return to you multiplied many times.
Your mind is very powerful! It’s suggestions drive us and we follow it’s every whim! So use your mind to get exactly what you want! At first it is an uphill battle with lots of bumps in the road, but the more you insist that your mind stay on the track, the new road that you have built for it, the shorter the distance to your final destination of inner peace,
Clicked on POST before I was ready to, so will continue from where I left off.
health and harmony. Use your mind to get back where you want to be. Sit down and really think about what would make you happy. In your state of mind, I know, it seems that nothing makes you happy anymore and you can’t seem to find a way to even conger up the energy to try anything. But persistance will get you there! What did you like to do when you were younger? Are you overweight? Underweight? Married, Divorced? Alone or Just FEEL alone? Force yourself to find time to sit down and look through magazines. Cut out pictures of everything you REALLY want…not just a whim or “I’d like to have that” - Things that really would make a difference in your life. It doesn’t matter how expensive or inexpensive it is! You’ve probably gone out and bought tons and tons of things that you wanted only to be excited for a few minutes after you got them home, then forgotten shortly afterward or put aside and never really put to use, saying someday I am going to use that! Train your emotions! Dwell on all the things you want, want to do or want to be, want to look like, etc. Don’t let any of the things you dislike crowd into your thoughts. Practice, Practice, Practice. Paste all those pictures that you cut out on a huge board somewhere where you have to look at it all the time…put one in every room if you have to!!! Dwell on it! Really look at it….don’t just walk by! Dwell on your misery and it will never leave you! Whatever your mind dwells on will be attracted toward you! Don’t discount this! It really is true! You have nothing to lose by trying it! The more you fix your mind on positive things, the more the negative ones will have room and time for. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and refuse to allow your mind to trick you into thinking life isn’t wonderful. You will see! You will have everything you want, look the way you want to look, become everything you want to be. At first, it seems questionable, but all of a sudden- BOOM- right there it is when you least expected it! Stop feeling desparate……trust that God will give you your hearts desire. He said he would if you would believe he could! HE CAN! YOU CAN! If yu don’t believe in God, just beleive in the Power of the Universe, the “higher power” or whatever label you wish…just know that it truly does exist and it’s there for your benefit. Noone can overcome your emotions for you! You have to think positive thoughts to attract positives into your life. It’s a law of attraction….much like and just as real as the law of gravity! If you’ll put this into practice, yo will feel better and have what you want in no time. Every time that thought that makes you feel bad creeps in, deny it and tell it to be out of your way! Yes! Speak to it! Just as if it is a demon trying to possess you! Go look at your picture board! Will those things to come to you! May sound crazy, but it works!!!! The more you can keep your mind on it, the sooner you will succeed!
I am there now. I am findign alittle strength ever day in tryign to focus on the things I love and talking to people.
Why have you lost your fight and hope? Do you have any friends or family? Please tell us your story and we can maybe help you develop solutions to the individual problems.
Please do not give up. I know it is a daily struggle and some day are worst than others. Some day you don’t see the point of geting out of bed. It is extremely hard to see but they proably is something bright to see in your life. Please let me help.
Her1rlt great reply :)
You should confirm your account because i read some of your other replies and would love to get to know you. Your advice could help me in so many ways… And i see that you are a firm believer in “the law attraction”. I do believe that what you think does determine your outcome in life. So we have a little something in common
get away, YES! RUN away from everything that’s making you feel like you do. don’t try to fight because it does’nt sound like your stong enough…but you WILL GET STRONGER and you WILL FIGHT BACK…but only when your ready. i hope you’re single because you don’t want to drag your family into your dilemma. get in your car with your dog…YES! get a dog, if you don’t have one already, just drive away…live an adventure…work, when you need money, then move on…help or assist people in need when you see a need (be careful)…you will find yourself again.
Don’t listen to people who think all is your fault. Don’t listen to people who tell you you are responsible for everything that happened to you and that you made it happen.
You are not ruling the world. You are not responsible for all bad that happens to you.
You’re just a human.
Go meet your friends. Tell them that you don’t want their advice. Tell them you just want them to be there.
emotions and thoughts are like waves on a beach………we can CHOOSE which waves to go for a ride….some waves take you out to sea if jump in…some can be surfed……..into shore safely…your thoughts and emotions are NOT you……they come naturally without either intending to do you harm or good…….they just come….like waves…..so choose which thoughts to ride which emotions to jump into……live in the present moment picking waves of thought and emotions that are fun, and not taking you out to be lost at sea…….wait on the beach around a warm fire and wait for the right wave …..a positive wave…….and ride that wave of thought and emotion……..
let go of eveything that is making you depressed and focus on your family and the things that make you happy.
but what happens when the only family u have doesnt care what happens to u. and if the only thing u have that makes u happy is a girl that u cant even b with
What if you don’t want to be around people? What if you’ve run away from your old town to escape the destructive person you were, and now find yourself more alone than ever? What if you have no goals? What if you don’t have any hobbies, nor care for anything so much as to take up a hobby? What if the only solid job skill you have had was your sparkling personality and incredible wit, but that was all a facade held up for far too long? What if you really, really don’t see any reason to go on, but the only thing holding you back from that very edge is that your mother is still alive?
Maybe I should just join the military, take the front line, never fire my weapon and let the chips fall where they may. Except I think that the military is the gayest thing ever, next to politics, fashion and…well, pop culture.
Pseudoniem: If you are out there even if you post anonymously I would love to know how your life is going one year later. I woke up this morning wondering was it worth it. How do you get over the hump; that is life?
I went to the internet because I wasn’t sure if I could trust my knees; or any of the things I was doing any more. Although nearly two months ago in prayer it came to me to trust God, regardless to what it looks in my life or what happens, God is with me. This was odd to me but now two months later, no job, and no money I get it.
I asked what to do when, you felt like their was no hope and (her1rlt) said it all.
You words were reminiscence to my prayers and a practice I picked up earlier this fall but failed to administer. I was encouraged in prayer to visualize what I want, moreover to paste up pictures of what I desire but I did not do this part. I thought thinking about what I want, along with active prayer would be sufficient. It wasn’t, I WANT TO THANK YOU for speaking boldly and openly to negative situations!
I must also THANK YOU PSEUDONIEM for posing the question. I am helped because you asked and many responded.
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fml its not klike i care anyway so just let go all hope is lost and u can’t change what has been done so just let go!!!!
when you’ve lost all hope, go on autopilot and get out there, meet people, continue to do your best, find new opportunities and apply yourself to your best abilities to them. When this doesn’t work just repeat, you will achieve your dreams if you have the courage to keep on doing what you do best. Get out there.
Believe me, I understand what it is like to wonder if all hope is lost. I’m a retired and disabled vet. Got hurt in Afganistan. Took me three years to get the VA and SSA and still fighting to fisx the mess those three years left behind. That and all the memories I wish were gone. Sometimes I wonder how I make it day by day. The pain I deal with is bad enough, but wishing I could do things I can’t do anymore, hurts more. I get by mostly on the smile of my son and hope I have in him. Sometimes you need to look to those you can give hope to. And in doing so you can find some for yourself.
I have written many articles motivating others to never give up hope and trust in God and that when you lose EVERYTHING humanly possible HE is still there loving you in spite of all your flaws, your past, even when you cannot forgive yourself. I wrote about Adversity being a “gift” but today I am beginning to wilt, I am tired. I am broken and where once I wrote “Broken but not Shattered” now I feel truly shattered as well….. Regardless of how positive I am, how much I try to stay focused and not give up hope, a human can only HUMANLY take so much. I don’t have the strength or will to keep fighting right now. I thought God was hearing my prayers only to feel like I have been slapped in the face and when a friend posed the question to me once “Do you think life is a comedy or a tragedy?” I think it is a twisted sense of both. I dont’ understand why so many bad things happen to people who are truly good hearted and loving people. Then you see the evil, greedy abusive bastards living to their hearts content with no regard to how they have destroyed those around them….. Someone out there tonight please just give me a sense of hope. A hug would be heavenly but just a word of hope will suffice. I will be praying for all of you that are hurting so deeply tonight as well.
im praying for you,your hope will come in time.xx
lisbo . . there is a god, and those people that are evil and seem like they have it all, they will get whats coming to them. for bad people this life is heaven the next will be hell just like how for the good people it sometimes may feel like hell, its just testemant to how great heaven will be =)
Yes Ive been there and there again. I moved here from Ms 11 years ago with my wonderful husband and he just resently passed away at the early age of 50 and everything went downhill from there. I have lost my job, car, everything. I have no hope for what tomorrow brings. Luckily I have got to stay in our house (family owned)but have to pay rent. My roomates are having to foot the bills and nothing for me. Does anyone have any advise for me. I pray, pray, and tried to leave it in the hands above but sometimes I just don’t know.
Everything everyone has said is much too obvious. I’ve lost everything, including my ability to love, imagine, create, and be a person again. It’s easy to give advise when you have a full belly and a full tank of gas. If you think this is a cop out, reach deep into your pocket and give graciously to people that truly need it. Otherwise, advise about not killing myself is worthless because you are hiding behind the mask of money.
That is a very common feeling especially in this fast paced, high tech world that is totally void of real humanitarian contact, real human compassion and totally void of empathy. Good luck to you.
There is no humility anymore. People are filled with rage, forgetting what life is truly about. What we were truly put on this earth for. This is undeniably a graceless age we live in and the hardest part is excepting it. But realize that you only have control of yourself and the things in your life. Whatever seed you plant in your mind , whether good or bad, shall manifest without a doubt. People are so busy taking instead of giving and don’t realize that all they are doing is deluting themselves, and until it is recognized that you have to give in order to receive, then nothing good will come. There is no way any one can avert that. It is law. Much like gravity, YES! you only live one life and instead of wasting your time with the negative, seek to find the positive. I know it FEELS impossible but know that it is not. It is out there. The people you love, the air you breathe, the flowers you smell the little things that you should take the time to appreciate. Everyone has will power, its up to you to utilize the energy inside of you. It’s up to you to connect with your inner self.. your true self and keep striving to become a better you. We were put on earth to make mistakes and the beauty of it is that we learn from them. The best teacher is life and the best lesson is experience. See you’ll never be happy and you’ll never be whole until you see the beauty in growing old! We are all one. Connected to the power of the universe and share the same energy that flows deep within us, its just that many are not intuned with themselves physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. You have to WANT it and want it so bad that you can taste it, visualize, see yourself exactly where you want to be in life and then take action. Nothing can be done without action. Just a little food for thought.. I could go on for days but I’m sure you get the picture by now. I wish everyone the best in life. Peace love and happiness
Blackpearl eternal earth
what will you do when you loose everything you have worked for?when nothing good seems to come your way,when you think that you world is crumbling?when people around now sees you as an object of self pity?what do you think is the best solution ?
I see everyone’s point with the hope thing and all are good starts to the road to happiness or contentment. However, when everything you are doing and trying to do fails you in some sort.Then what? When you are in desperate need of money, transportation and a home. Then what. If you are stuck having to quit your job for a sick family member for fear of being fired from the job for all the time you are having to request off. Then what? What if you are stuck trying to find another job and not having much luck.Nowfor the first time in your lifetime you are seeking government assistants, which is for food ,not medical and no hope with assistants on paying the bills. The bills still need to be paid but you can’t pay them because you have no funds. You need a job but are stressed out about the job interview for one you don’t have the gas to get to and fro , and then you have junker of a car that decides in the mist of all the bad it wants to blow a head gasket.Now what? When you have to no-one to turn for help. Now what. If you have tried all options, prayer, hope,helping others before yourself. Where does the road to wholeness and a new beginning start coming when more you are running out of hopes and loosing you in the process.
I have always been very strong but was never complete inside mysef. Not sure why but I always put in the happy face and always had the strength to keep fighting and helping others. That is somehow what made me feel whole. I have always loved and given with my whole heart and soul without selfishness. I raised my kids had failed relationships but always stayed focused and kept my faith and believed in God always to care for me even during the time I lost my husband after a 4 year battle with cancer at age 40 I struggled but never lost my faith and trust in God. I remarried a couple of years after his death and surrendered everything and trusted this was gods reward for me after all my lives giving and being unselfish, Wow was I wrong this man used me and convinced me to give up everything I had ever been about, everything I had ever owned, my identity my will to live, trust or to want to live anymore. No matter how great you try to be or how much you try to love in the end you lose have nothing left. I cold do without money and stuff but when you lose all sense of self and no life left within you I dont know how to find me again. Dont know how I could be so stupid to allow someone to use, betray, lie, without any care of the destruction he does people and friends are the same they just use you for what they can get. Its a lonely world so you think daily you wish your life couple just end but with my belief I cant bring myself to suicide just wish my life here would be over. I hate this feeling for its never been me I have alway been strong I have prayed and prayed got my knees dirty and begged out to god its like he too is not listening. If anyone has a answer or a way to help me take back control of my life. I have no will dont want to be around people(I have always loved people), dont even feel but sorrow dont enjoy my grandbabies, family noone Dont want to leave the house. Dr have said for years I am depressed I dont take meds I dont think im depressed Im just sick of the way my life has to turn out always. I think God believes I am stronger than am and for that I know I have let him down. Any advice would be great reward I just dont know how to put the pieces back together… Thanks for reading
I know how you feel. I M going to try the dream board to motivate me, and try focusing on my kids! You should pick one good thing and focus on it
I know how you feel. I was wounded a while back, suffer chronic pain and now depression which is getting more and more severe. I’ve tried everything too, and losing hope. If it weren’t for all the people who love me and who are begging me not to do it (and my own personal fear of ending up a ghost even more trapped than before)I would go to sleep and never wake up.
I used to want so many many things.
Now I just want the pain to stop.
Sufferer of TN and TMJ and Depression.
Stay strong- find one thing that even gives you a moment of relief.
Get a pet if you have the energy to take care of it- the pet will never judge you.
Remember that for some inexplicable reason people would rather have you around moping than not have you around anymore. Everyone needs the Eeyore.
I send you my hopes for you to get better (even if I have little remaining for myself)
I can see this post is old, but with the very little hope that’s left in me, i hope someone will be kind enough to read and give me some hope. Please, if any of you has been through something like this let me know.
I am only a 17 year old girl, preparing to graduate from high school. I have always been a good girl, I have always helped the less fortunate people, i have always been there for my family when there was no one for me. I pray God every night and believe in him… but these days, im starting to wonder if he’s still watching over me. All my life, I studied hard so I can get the major i want in the university i wanted. Today, when the countdown has started, my family can’t afford to pay the college fees… we’ve been strugling for four years. I had this scholarship that gave me the key to this one college, but i just discovered that i had to pay the first semester and that the scholarship isnt 100%. I have no idea what i am going to do… today, my dreams has passed away. It is so unfair… i’m broken to watch my friends choose the univerity they want without worrying about the expenses. My government cant do anything for me, working wouldn’t be enough, and i have no one who can pay it for me… I have been searching and searching for a career that could bring enough money so i can avoid being in this situation again… but today the doors are closed. I am really hopeless…
First off I wish nothing but the best for all of you that responded. Secondly, why do religous folk have no english skills, seriously, learn to spell! thirdly, stop trying to save people, if its thru daily grinds of life or the realization that certain people do not have the ability to actually enjoy life, wouldn’t it be a better situation to those people that can not enjoy life to let them kill themselves off so that they can go to heaven and finally have bliss. why try and degrade them with our simple “god lives you” if god loved you, he would not of made you discontent! my words of advise are this “treat yourself” we only get one chance at this and **** all other’s expectations. if god wanted you to think the way the person that is trying to save you thinks then he would of made you that person. and if at the end of the day you still think there are people better than you and people that would kill themselves to be in your position(and believe me there are) then happiness is not yours to be had, and that sucks but look in a mirror and punch yourself hard in the face or get the **** over it and start living your life to the fullest enjoyment because most people care about themselves anyway, why be different
Find something you truly love. Focus on that and everything else will become focused as well. For me its painting or walking the dogs. Keep busy. Don’t give up hope.I think everyone needs this reminder-there are good people out there. They are rare, but they are there. Just keep going.
I have definitely been here before. At one point I thought the answer was suicide. I couldn’t have been more off. What seems to help me is the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason”. You may not know what that reason is, but there’s a reason. It took me forever to get over a part of my life with bullying at school for example. The solution to this problem, was a simple change of schools.
Anyways, nothing ever goes as planned, so you have to learn to go with the flow. Sometimes, the flow brings you to a place you don’t like, but you can’t get to the place you want to be without going through the bad. Just try to keep in mind that things will get better eventually and that you’ll be proud of the place you’re at in life and when you get through the bad, that you’ll be able to look back at the bad, and realize that you’re strong enough for anything if you could get through something like that.
Good luck. I wish you the best.
im there at the moment I dont know what can I say just keep waking up something has to change well I hope so I dont know At least Im not on my own your there too
I want to die I heat life Idont go on my life so Iwant know easy way to kill
jbusy3529352 I can only assume you are religious and floating through life on the skirt tails of others due to your lack of everything! Never judge people unless you have walked the path!
Yes I am feeling exactly the same way. Don’t want to be around anyone. Feeling isolated and without hope. It’s not easy. Somehow we have to dig deep. I wish I could tell you it will be ok . I am also searching and feel so alone. I think menopause has affected me . I’m not sure how old you are. It can’t stay like this forever. Moods come and go , but when nothing good happens its hard to live , because being sad is socially unacceptable. We only feel worse. Keep going . You have to . Don’t quit.
Today I have hit rock bottom in my search for hope. I have given so much love to my children and their mothers. My Girlfriend I have fought for to save our family, countless hours, countless money traveling to be by her side and my sons. She all the sudden cut me out of her and our sons life, her family has asked me to not contact her anymore. She promised me that she would never give up on our family and finally in the last few weeks she gave up when the week before she told her family that she was going to be with me and they could disown her if they wanted. After 4 years of going being betrayed by my first mothers son, my now ex girlfriend and my family. They have all turned their backs on me, I cant see my kids unless I spend thousand on a lawyer which I already have to only get the same outcome. I was such a good person not so long ago and now I have nothing but anger and hatred in my heart. it has turned to black because the people I loved so much and would do anything for have betrayed me and left me to rot and wither to die. The light is gone now, my career that was looking so good has turned to dust, I feel like that amazing person that was in me is gone forever, I cant trust and I know the nice guys all finish last. Do I need to be a bad person to be able to get anywhere in this world? I have lost all hope in my life and I am not one to take my own life, but I wish somedays that I will get lucky and die somehow. i have turned to drugs now to help me cope with this dark empty feeling I have, The skies have turned dark and the clouds and the storm that cover my life are suffocating me. I just want the pain and hurt to stop, I am tired of balling my eyes out for hours every night. The people I loved so dearly are killing me slowly. Now I hug opportunity for my career is falling apart, I feel like I have been lied to by the person that is getting the funding for my movie, I wonder if it was ever really going to happen or if I have been dragged around by these possible lies. In the last week or two, it has gone from bad to the worst. What do I do from here? Where do I go? The life I lived for these other people I love so much is nothing but a lie, where did I go wrong, what did I do to deserve this? I hope so much that this pain will end very soon, i hope god takes me from this earth, cause I don’t want to do it myself. Will I ever be able to be in my kids life? Why have their mothers that promised to love me and take care of my heart taken the only things that mattered to me, they have killed me, the have poured hatred into my heart. How do I go on?
im not sure what im lookin for here but my life seem to have no hope i dont want to give up but cant go on im a good worker but have no ride i stay with my mom that lives so far out so im stuck i dont want to give up
I have losted all my hopes in my life because the girl whom i loved more than myself didnt liked me ever & i was a lovesick guy who can even give his life for that girl………
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