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Building Self Esteem!

There have been a couple of post where I have felt the user just didn’t have any self esteem or self respect, then Richard made a post that got me thinking about that more and it also made me think about my daughter, I worry a lot about her growing up in this society and I hope that I am succeeding in teaching her the tools she needs in this world, but I was thinking I should take an active roll in trying to build her self esteem, so I Googled self esteem building.

I found some activities that I think I’ll get my daughter to do, might be some summer fun in it for her too, so that’s an added bonus. I think it might be fun for some of the young girls on this site as well and might help them see themselves in a better light.

I got the activities from these sites:

http://life.familyeducation.com/self-...

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/diso...

“All About Me” Poster:

Materials
• Large piece poster board (any color)
• Scissors
• Glue stick
• Glitter
• Photographs
• Magazines
Directions
1. Look through photographs or magazines for things you like or that describe you.
2. Cut them out and arrange them on the poster board.
3. Make any design you like. Put pictures on that make you feel good, that express what you like and who you are.
4. Hang on your wall with pride.
5. Do one every six months and you will be amazed how much you will have changed.

My “Me” Scrapbook:

Materials
• Scrapbook
• Scissors
• Photos
• Magazines
• Paste or glue
Directions
The purpose of this activity is to start and maintain a personal scrapbook. It is ongoing, but does not have to be kept up daily.
1. Start on the first blank page of your scrapbook and write your name, date of birth, address, and any other personal details.
2. Thereafter, fill each page with pictures, photos, drawings, writings, and items that reflect who you are and who you want to be. Remember to include the date each time you find something you want to paste in. You can even include mementos such as tickets and postcards if they have personal significance. In the years to come, you will treasure this “me” book that you have made.
Note: Knowing who you are and what you want is fundamental to building positive self-esteem.

Happiness List:

Materials
• Pencil
• Paper
Directions
Sometimes we tend to remember the bad things that happen to us more than the good things. Write down five things that happened yesterday. Read your list over. Did you remember five good things, five bad things, or some of each? Whatever you wrote down, you chose it to write down. You can practice remembering good things and feelings and letting go of bad ones. Every day, write down five things that happened which you felt good about. Write what happened and how you felt about it. The best time is before you go to bed at night. These are your happiness lists and you can look them over any time you are feeling down or unhappy. Your lists will help you do more things that create happiness and will also help you collect and store good feelings.

Mutual Complimenting Exercise:

Get together for 10 minutes with a person you like and trust. Set a timer for five minutes or note the time on a watch or clock. One of you begins by complimenting the other person—saying everything positive about the other person—for the first five minutes. Then the other person does the same thing to that person for the next five minutes. Notice how you feel about yourself before and after this exercise. Repeat it often.

Appreciation Exercise:

At the top of a sheet of paper write “I like _____ (your name) because:” Have friends, acquaintances, family members, etc., write an appreciative statement about you on it. When you read it, don’t deny it OR don’t argue with what has been written, just accept it! Read this paper over and over. Keep it in a place where you will see it often.

*If anyone else has any ideas for self esteem building activities that my daughter could do, I would really be thankful, keep in mind she’s 12, so they have to be age appropriate.

Thank You

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Ditzy offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Ventura, CA, US | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 6 minutes after post)

WOW those are excellent ideas! I might have to borrow some for me and Blake coz we both suffer from low self esteem even thou we really are awesome people :)
you could get your daughter to stand in front of a mirror every morning and compliment herself - kinda like the 2 person thing above but slightly less open and weird :S esp if she is a shy person
Also ages ago I was trying to build my esteem and I tried a different way of doing things. I drew several pages of positive things about me and stuck them up all around my apartment. So every time I walked past it I would subconsciously read it. Kinda tricking my brain in to believing it. Think the official name for it is affirmation :D also funny when you explain to visitors as to why you have drawings stuck all over your walls :D

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Fizz offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Oh that is a really cool idea Ditzy, I sure wouldn’t mind my whole house being flowered with wonderful things about my beautiful daughter. Thanks Ditzy, that is awesome.

Also thanks for replying, lol, I’ve never had a post that went for hours without a reply, it’s humbling, lol, guess I probably needed it. lol

I hope you do build up your self esteem cause I know you totally rock, I don’t know Blake, but I figure you picked him so he must be great.

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Ditzy offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Ventura, CA, US | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

hehe thank you Fizz - I am awesome :D just need to realize it a little bit more some times and realize that Im not the pain in the butt I think I am :S hehe and Blake is very awesome and so sweet to me - the perfect man (althou he some times doesnt believe it)
hehe yeah your house would look awesome with loads of picture drawings of positive daughter :D hehe
Dunno why this post went by for hours with out replies coz these are awesome ideas :D

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 21 minutes after post)

I thought so to, but you know how it goes sometimes…some post just get lost in the shuffle, but maybe someone read it that might need it and just didn’t reply. I’m good with that.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 22 minutes after post)

thanks Fizz… I really like the collage idea, I have three girls…I wonder where I can get enough magazines (cheap) to make it fun!

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 31 minutes after post)

I guess I could have invited you to this post, since you were a part of my inspiration Richard. Try the Doctors office, they might give you old mags for free.

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Luton, I1, GB | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 12 minutes after post)

its hard to improve your self esteem when it is being further shoved down the drain every day at school

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (4 days, 2 hours after post)

Self esteem has nothing to do with other people, it’s how you percieve yourself. Yeah, people will knock you down every chance they get, but if you love you then you won’t stay down, you’ll rise up above it.

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