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avril-

I need help

sooooo i found this site kinda browsing the internet…googling FREE HELP lol. So, I am 16 and have not been able to sleep for what must be two weeks. Actually i can sleep and i do but everytime i fall asleep i wake up with terrible…well i guess nightmares. theyre more like flashback actually, of a bad time in my life. a year ago i was in well an abusive relationship i guess. he moved away so i have no lived my life better and gotten over it. Only it was two weeks ago that a friend from long ago called and told me she had talked to him and he talked of me. the conversation frazzled me a bit but i thought nothing else of it. it was like a “its in the past, i already dealt with this…” but now i wake up screaming with flashbacks of nights I was hurt. I am strong….not overly emotional, my love life is really screwed over but i know this and time will make me able again. but i can’t shake this….i can’t fake this because it happens in my sleep. i need help please…

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EmilyRI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Wow this sounds pretty intense.
It seems you were able to let go because you weren’t putting yourself in situations where he would come up. By doing this, you forgot about him as much as possible because not seeing him made it easy.

And then your friend brings him up and all at once it all comes whooshing back. That moment is definitely in need of analyzing and by you thinking everything is okay when it may not be, all your analyzing is occuring while you sleep unconsciously.
The only way to overcome these nightmares and finally sleep sound again I think is to confront everything from your past either by talking to a friend or seeking out a professional to get it off your mind and sorted out.

Until then, your dreams/nightmares will be the one trying to figure it out and it may only get worse!

Help me with: I think I already know but I’d love your advice.

toulsonrichi 1 #
Titchfield, K6, GB | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

You’re nightmares are trying to relieve the stress that you are feeling in your awake state. You know that you went through a bad time and your body is trying to heal itself. when you spoke to your friend it opened up old (supressed) wounds. you should talk to someone about it!

Help me with: I feel like that my life is pointless.

Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) shows itself when something reminds you of a past trauma. Sounds to me like you have PTSD from that abusive relationship. You thought you were over it, but with PTSD, if something reminds you of it your mind relives it over and over. With you, that happens to be in your dreams.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

how would i deal with this by myself? you know dealing with a friend from my past and facing it sounds good, but havn’t i already done that? i know its real and have confronted it i mean it happened…idk i don’t need help from someone because noone can ever know me better than myself…i think. i don’t need drugs and i know thats what would happen, i know when it happened i turned to alot mostly alcohol, i started smoking more. and i still do these things but to be hooked on a drug to make me feel better i know would be horribly bad for me…could maybe someone tell me what true confrontation is? if you can

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Therapy helps a lot with PTSD, and you don’t need to take meds to get therapy. Often people with PTSD can’t just cure themselves.

EmilyRI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (29 minutes after post)

avril- wrote:
i don’t need help from someone because noone can ever know me better than myself…i think.

This is very true and very untrue.
Of course nobody knows you better than you do but you wouldnt have left a post here asking for help if you knew what to do. It’s really not a bad idea to speak to someone who may be able to show you something about yourself you may have had a hard time opening up with

Help me with: I think I already know but I’d love your advice.

Chameleon 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Trying to fix a hurting mind with a hurt mind. See how that may not work?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 hours, 18 minutes after post)

i think the best thing is to either find a new relationship or go to therapy. if you find a new relationship then over time your past relationship won’t be as big of a deal to you as it is at the moment, ull have something else to think about and contemplate over.

if you go and see a proffesional then they might give u better help tho =]=].

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