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plan a romantic candle lit dinner…tell her you love her every day…hmm, and kiss/hug her a lot…oh and talk to her about stuff, cause if she stays at home with the kids, then she’ll feel lonely…good luck!

Thank you for your advise. That mite work. Ijust hope its not to late. My wife and kids are all I have.

it’s never too late

Romanticism is gained through birth not through learning, You cant learn to be able to sense when the moment is right for a certain person to hug them and kiss them and show your affection, and you cant know all the time what would be a good thing to do to be romantic. What you can do no matter how skilled you are at being a romantic, Is to try.
Show her that your trying show her that you want to be romantic and that you want to be affectionate to her. If you show her that and she loves you. That will be all she needs to have a perfect marriage.

I hope the damage Ive done isnt to overbering to her

It is hard to find time to be romantic. We have seven kids.

Making a woman happy is more than getting a high paying job and money (though those are also counted), but i think women are happier when:

1. they are being listened to.
2. they are given an assurance from time to time.
3. take her side when something goes wrong.
4. talk less.
5. never ever tell her she is wrong.
6. spoil her with attention.

I am happy that a man like you still think on ways to make your wife happy. To tell you, there is only a few of you.

there’s always time to show someone you love them. even writing little notes and leaving them on the fridge for her that simply say “i love you” and giving her surpsise hugs, etc. all of those little gestures do make a difference.

bring home flowers or other random things… its those little things that count

if you can:
Maybe a night or a weekend in the next town, or what every sshe likes.. i know its hard with the kids. maybe write her a poem, or a love letter.
I loved the fact that my ex brought home flowers for no reason (well he was guilty, I didn’t know at the time), call her during the day just to say “i love you” call her and ask her on a date like if you 2 were just dating. leave her a note “i love you” or something like that..
i agree with anonymus its the little things that guys do we ( at least for me) we remeber the most…

alrigt i am here for you. first um you do not have to say anything about your past you are not comfortable with. maybe have you tried giving her flowers. maybe try this it sometimes works first if you have a relitive close and they would not mind taking care of your kids then take them over there for a night and spend time with your wife and make her dinner breakfast in bed then if you really want to take it up a notch ask her about another child but not if you are not comfortable. and sometimes take off work a couple days and spend time with her make her think that she is the most wonderful thing in your life. dont let her down. she dependes on you!!!!

when i was single I was I guess you can say permiscuis. Im not too prowd of it. Iwas on drugs so you can amagin what kind of whores I was with and the people I was with. And I made a mistake and was honest and told her everything. We live in a small town so my past is thrown in her face all the time. It wieghs hevy on her hart so my past doesnt stay in the past. Its in our future and preasant. I messed up big time.

Lilies is right. Exactly what women in really like from their spouse. Many men think by giving flowers, and chocolates and bringing home money to spend will make such a difference in our soul, when in fact those are just superficial quick fixes. Attention, nurturing, affection are the key words, knowing what we truly like, little things what would make us truly happy and to feel we are on top of the world. Of course, having 7 kids are a blessing but there is very little time left for you two to be romantic especially if the kids are very young. Forget about you past, why do you have to bring it to your new life? Is there a reason for you to say you messed up big time?